There are a few who fail to live...RIP Shibham
By vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
India
July 19, 2018 8:21am CST
He was an Indian myLotter.
We interacted some. I don't think more than 50 comments exchanged between us.
I feel ashamed that I did not go beyond.
Today, I was told by a foreigner @Carmelanirel2 that he was no more.
He committed suicide.
Highly educated man, with a beautiful child...why?
Regrets? Of course! I wish I had drawn him more into conversation.
I wish there had been some fun exchanges with him. That might have prompted him to come here ... instead of taking the extreme step.
Somebody wrote on his page...problems are temporary....how true.
Giving up is not the answer. Seeking solutions is.
Do not give up..do not give in...while we may not be able to solve the problem, we will be able to help pass that dreadful moment or moments ...which make life seem so bleak and undesirable. I have had those moments so I am speaking from experience.
Dear myLotters...we have each other...never forget that...it just requires an hour's interaction to escape such pain. If only we had some fun moments...that could have brought him here...
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17 responses
@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
19 Jul 18
I am not sure if I interacted with him. But still it is sad to hear this. It even happens to those who seem to have it all - but depression does not discriminate - anyone could be going through this - even silently. I feel sad for the young family he leaves behind. May he rest in peace.
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@Carmelanirel2 (8084)
• United States
19 Jul 18
Hi @much2say I interacted with him in the beginning of me taking college classes and then we stopped. I knew there were problems in the family, now I wish I had kept in touch more often.
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@Letranknight2015 (51513)
• Philippines
20 Jul 18
@vandana7 They were just so many of us back then and every one has it's own group to interact with.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
19 Jul 18
It is sad when someone chooses to stop fighting the challenges of life and gives up. RIP 
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
20 Jul 18
@vandana7 I understand! I don't remember him but I have a poor memory. I checked his activity and he hasn't been here for a few years.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
19 Jul 18
That is so sad. I know who he is and I sometimes talked to him the past. I am wondering if he had a depression and didn't get help in time.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
19 Jul 18
@vandana7 The way that people look at depression is very different from country to country. In my country we have 'free' psychiatric treatment, but there are very few psychiatrists. Sometimes people have to wait more than a year before they get their first appointment.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
19 Jul 18
@Porcospino Oh my god. That is a long wait ...
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@Letranknight2015 (51513)
• Philippines
20 Jul 18
A question though, why did you have to call @Carmelanirel2 foreigner? I never really thought of calling some one like that being here for a while. Even with newbies I don't categories them in anyway, just saying.
He should stayed here and vent out everything! Because that's what I am doing. At least now I am going to be more active here instead of keeping it all to myself. Maybe he didn't know that mylot came back and starts paying again?
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@FourWalls (62120)
• United States
19 Jul 18
I'm so sorry to hear this. This has been a bad year for myLotters.
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@Daljinder (23231)
• Bangalore, India
20 Jul 18
I have never interacted with him. This is sad and could have been prevented if he has gotten help in time.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
21 Jul 18
@Daljinder Yeah...I regret not having interacted much with him. He was much better person than the other person from his State.
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@Daljinder (23231)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jul 18
@vandana7 Some people need to be initiated gently. He may have been a closed one.
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
19 Jul 18
@vandana7 , Yes I have gone there but I really have forgotten my details there! What all I could see there was his wife's face and blurred image of himself and the baby! I hope his profile is still available here! Could you kindly confirm it by making a search about the members here?
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
25 Jul 18
Due to bad internet connection I was not here for a week and I am so sorry to know about this bad news. He was no longer active here after his marriage. I remember he posted about his problems after marriage then remain inactive. In fact I was in touch with him through phone once then he sent me some mails as well. He told me about his baby and what I felt he was happy with family life. Then no communication between us and I have no news about him as well.
Earlier I had seen his profile in whatsapp then later I lost all contacts from phone so lost his number too.
I am really shocked to know his immature act on ending his life.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
19 Jul 18
I remember interacting with him. Is that his face book page?
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
20 Jul 18
@allknowing I suppose so. But I think he may not have given it as much thought.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
20 Jul 18
A sad loss to our extended family
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
21 Jul 18
@vandana7 terribly sad - so many of us here he could have reached out to
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
24 Jul 18
@arthurchappell True...and it is not as if we held a solution to his problem. All we held was a few moments away from the problem so that he could revisit them with fresh mind and feel they are just that and will go away.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
24 Jul 18
@vandana7 there is never a magic wand sure fire solution but talking to others about such distress is a vital step for anyone
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@VivaLaDani13 (60353)
• Perth, Australia
22 Jul 18
@vandana7 This breaks my heart! I am so sorry to hear he was suffering enough to want to end it all. I have no words that could describe how this makes me feel. I just feel for him and his loved ones. R.I.P.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60353)
• Perth, Australia
25 Jul 18
@vandana7 I am so sorry Vanny. I did not know that about you.
I can not speak for your mother but what I can tell you is that people can do things we never even dreamed of when we are just so low and broken. I feel like I can guarantee you that what your mother did was not because she didn't love you with all her heart. Sometimes the demons that we battle with in our minds just become way too much to deal with. And not to mention that some people feel like their presence isn't enough for their loved ones. So what you feel can be reversed to the one who doesn't want to be here anymore. It's usually the other way around when people are in that depressed state. They can view themselves as not worthy of living. It's a dark place to be.
I wish I could say something better to help you. I'm just very sorry that this has happened in your life.
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@thislittlepennyearns (58134)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
19 Jul 18
You can't blame yourself for not talking to him enough. People that are loved by many and interact with a lot of people kill themselves all the time.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
20 Jul 18
Ohh that's so sad to hear.. May he rest in peace..
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
20 Jul 18
@Jessabuma Of course not...everybody is not in touch with everybody here. :)
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
20 Jul 18
@vandana7 he's not familiar with me actually.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
22 Jul 18
I am so sorry to hear this. Prayers for his family.
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