Would he have married me if ---?
By Joanie
@Freelanzer (10745)
Canada
August 1, 2018 10:13pm CST
Would he have married me if I weren't beautiful? This was Melanie Trump's response to a someone who asked her if she would have married Donald Trump if he wasn't rich. This is a very true and honest response.
This got me thinking that indeed some women marry men because they are wealthy even if they are several decades older than they are. But it goes both ways, The men on the other hand, because they are wealthy can have their pick of the most beautiful women in the world.
So it goes both ways and everyone gets something and live happily ever after? The man gets a younger beautiful wife while the woman gets a husband with lots of money and power. The reverse is also true when a wealthy woman marries a younger handsome man.
Would you have married your spouse if he/she wasn't young, beautiful, rich, smart, etc.?
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
The happiest marriages are those bound in love, not "for the love of"...
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
Yes as many women would have tried to say it had nothing to do with money, just love and we know that is not always the case.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
3 Aug 18
@YrNemo I am sure many of us get to that stage at some point.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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3 Aug 18
@Freelanzer 
I have come to a stage of being too blasé about almost everything, even this 'love' business.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
The factors I would value are in this order: love of God, good heart, some intelligence, can look after herself financially, doesn't like a lot of material things and likes fruits and vegetables. ,
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
3 Aug 18
@Freelanzer If I really like her then I'll help her with that part. Once we really like someone, we become very accepting of weaknesses as no one is perfect.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
Okay but what if you met someone you really like and couldn't look after herself financially? You see no matter what we say or think or believe, money is still a critical part of what attracts many people.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
2 Aug 18
She is a very beautiful woman she really is and I hope he loves her for real and that is all I can think of really as I don´t know much about her at all.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
2 Aug 18
@Freelanzer
Did he really cheat on her?
I don´t doubt it at all just a bit surprised and seeing as she is so lovely and such a nice person so it seems.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
@lovinangelsinstead21 You should read his book where he brags about not being able to resist other women even while married to his two other wives. Some men with money and power just feel they can get and take what they want, how much they want and that includes women. Heard about Tiger Woods and this other guy who cheated on his wife super model Christie Brinkley with the babysitter. Who would have thought with such beautiful wives that they would need to cheat?
@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
Well no doubt she is, but as beautiful as she is he still cheated on here several times with other beautiful women, as he did with his previous wives which he acknowledges. This isn't about them, however. it is about a statement she was honest enough to make which many women wouldn't have - about the role wealth and beauty play in their marriage.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
2 Aug 18
I am not sure. I mean money is something impermanent and so is beauty. I'd look for resourcefulness and ability to manage with minimum. MacGyver type. Money is something that I can always manage. Thank god and my late uncle and my family friend, and a few colleagues and former bosses, I have learned how to make money. I am not impressed by it. It is fun while it lasts, but after sometime, you want to tell yourself this can't be the reason I am alive. I would be less than honest if I said I am fine with ugliness. But I would not notice it if the person had the MacGyver type of qualities. That is also equally true.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
Well said. While money can satisfy all those "wants" and beauty may get you those "wants", its all fleeting and says nothing about the character of the person.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
2 Aug 18
I am not married yet but my qualifications are not rich , famous and good looking as long as he loves me then I think it's fine for me.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
Same here but I always wonder what I would have done if I had met a rich man. I do think that even if you marry for money or beauty, you can still be in love.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
2 Aug 18
@Freelanzer yes I agree with you on that. My aunt married a guy who is 30 years older than her and she loves him truly
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16533)
• China
2 Aug 18
What you talked about is a given at present ,but money is not necessarily a passport to happiness.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16533)
• China
3 Aug 18
@Freelanzer Sadly they are not so much married to men as to money.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
No it isn't but I know many women who live in a terrible marriage and won't leave because of the material gains. Some just think unhappiness is worth it.
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@quantum2020 (12040)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
10 Aug 18
Probably. I would have married my wife if she wasn´t beautiful but on the other hand honest and house oriented
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
11 Aug 18
As they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder - it means different things to different people.
@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
I always wonder what happens when they get old, But if they are married to wealth, they can always pay for plastic surgery to look young.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
2 Aug 18
@Freelanzer well that is true but if one day he woke up wanting a younger wife. Just saying.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
@rakski I hear you. The body ages regardless of how hard we try and younger, beauties are always waiting in the wings.
@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
3 Aug 18
I agree with you but I guess some see a trade off, more a business decision.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
3 Aug 18
@Freelanzer Your right, I know one person who married only for money
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
6 Aug 18
That's a wise standard. Who wants to live forever with a wet blanket.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
2 Aug 18
Every person has some priorities when he/ she find a perfect soulmate.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
True and even if they did not plan to marry a certain type, life happens.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
2 Aug 18
@Freelanzer Correct.. And when it happens, nothing is in the hands of the person but to recieve what is happening in the life
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@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
19 Dec 19
As long as there is attraction towards the opposite gender. Any other worldly things is a plus.
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@porwest (78761)
• United States
4 Aug 18
I married my wife because no matter how she looked, no matter if she was skinny or fat, or any other attribute, she had all of the things I needed and wanted, and she loved me, and so it was just a simple decision in the end. If looks were the end all to be all, Hollywood would have the longest lasting marriages anyone would ever know. So it is not money or looks...it's two people who love and cherish each other.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
5 Aug 18
I totally agree but you would agree that there are people who marry for looks and those who marry for money even though it does not guarantee a happy marriage. I am always amazed when famous. rich or powerful men marry beautiful women and promptly cheat on them with other beautiful women or the nanny. So no, it does not the perfect marriage make.
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@porwest (78761)
• United States
11 Aug 18
@Freelanzer People do, and historically if you marry for the wrong reasons the marriage never lasts.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
3 Aug 18
Same thought process as the discussion I started talking about money. Personally it should always be about Love etc over anything else.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
3 Aug 18
I am not married myself, but for me physical attraction is of course important, it is what makes you give the second look may you be a woman or a man. how can we say we like someone because they are kind - you will get to know that after you have decided you like how he looked. of course there are a lot of cases where one falls in love eventually for someone they are always with.
For me, I will want someone who will marry me not only for my looks (not that i do have it hahaha) but someone who will marry me and wants to be with me no matter how many other beautiful and much younger girls or ladies he comes across with.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
3 Aug 18
Physical attraction could mean a lot of things, appearance. Muscles. Height. Skin tone, etc. But there also has to be some personal qualities. I won't want a handsome man who is a criminal , but some women may be attracted to that.
@snowy22315 (169940)
• United States
2 Aug 18
I think compatability should be the key reason to marry, and looks money etc. are not as important as someone who has similar values, interests etc.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
3 Aug 18
Hopefully most people choose wisely and not just see green and glitz.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 Aug 18
True - they each had something the other wanted; one had money and the other something else so you can say it was a even trade.
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