Kneeling to propose, and gravity..

@vandana7 (66925)
India
August 6, 2018 2:55am CST
Serious doubt. I hear and see in movies that many people in the west kneel to propose. Now the lady points her fingers downwards ..wouldn't the ring roll off? Second doubt... How does the bridegroom /fiance know the right size of the finger ..without having proposed to her. I don't want to pull my hair to come to a logical conclusion. Please enlighten me.
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@just4him (124507)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Aug
I have heard of it, but haven't ever seen it. As to the ring, I've never seen a ring roll off the finger, but I have heard many times that the ring needed to be resized.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
7 Aug
I want to witness it ..I can always say I saw so and so dirty his pants...at the knee. But when they propose in dark and the ring is being pushed anti gravity and the slope of fingers is such that a larger sized ring can fall off, does it roll off and become difficult to find? I keep wondering silly things...but definitely something that would amuse me.
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@just4him (124507)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
7 Aug
@vandana7 Considering the man has a hold of the ladies hand, I don't think it would roll off.
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@DaddyEvil (25814)
• Aurora, Missouri
7 Aug
@just4him Most women immediately hold up their hand so they can view the ring their fiance has just shoved onto their finger, too.... so the ring couldn't fall off that fast! I will admit that I once lost my wedding ring. I was playing in the snow, throwing snowballs at Pretty when my ring slipped off my finger. I am lucky I saw it fly and where it landed. It still took half an hour for us to find the ring, even with me seeing it land in the snow!
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@Kandae11 (40402)
6 Aug
Wonder how the kneeling to propose came about.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
And they dirty their pants, literally..even if it is at the knees.
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@DaddyEvil (25814)
• Aurora, Missouri
7 Aug
Here, Kandase, maybe this will help explain it.
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@Kandae11 (40402)
7 Aug
@DaddyEvil Thank you for the link.
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@Lucky15 (33718)
• Philippines
6 Aug
that is one tough question van, i will just read answers from those who knew more :D
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
7 Aug
None of the Americans came to answer that. Obvious reason. They don't want others to know they dirtied their pants..even if it was at the knees.
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@Lucky15 (33718)
• Philippines
7 Aug
@vandana7 they are just silently reading and wouldn’t dare to say something
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
7 Aug
@Lucky15 ... They possibly realize the joke is on them..LOL
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@LadyDuck (171673)
• Switzerland
6 Aug
I think that this is an "American thing", I have never seen an Italian kneeling to propose. I know I would have found this funny and not at all romantic. About the ring, if it roll off the fiancee bought the wrong size. I keep my wedding ring on my finger all the time, even when I wash my hands, it never rolled down. Did you wear rings?
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
Nope..artificial ones yes. Gold or expensive ones ..no.
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@LadyDuck (171673)
• Switzerland
6 Aug
@vandana7 I suppose that your ring does not roll off wen you point your fingers down.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
@LadyDuck No...but it is selected as per my size. I try and select as per size, right? Here it is a shot in the dark. Which brings me to the third question...they usually propose in the dark (WEIRD), then how can they see the finger? This kneeling and proposing system is fascinating mystery.
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@Sreekala (23616)
• India
6 Aug
Better you stay away from these doubts.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
I just felt a fat girl can have slim fingers.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
I saw the inclination at which the fingers are pointed, and I thought OMG..that precious ring gonna fall off, if it is slightly larger. The other way .it might pinch the finger. Either way..such doubts do arise in my mind.
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@DaddyEvil (25814)
• Aurora, Missouri
7 Aug
@Sreekala @vandana7 may get to find out how it feels to see someone on bent (bended) knee one day proposing to her. (Bended is the old fashioned way it is said and spelled here even though 'bent' is the correct spelling and word.) I already explained about how quickly a woman raises her hand to look at the ring that was just placed on her finger!
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@rollylolly (2847)
• India
11 Aug
Vanny ma'am that's typically like you type of post What not comes to your mind. Now you make me scratch my head and ponder. I am not married so need to ask an experienced one. My community does not follow such rituals so I have to ask someone else. To some extent I learnt from Anna @LadyDuck . I will be back when I know the answers
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
14 Aug
I know ...it is so typical of me...I cannot stop me from thinking like that.
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• India
14 Aug
@vandana7 Haha no worries Vanny ma'am. I like your crazy posts and it's always good to be inquisitive.
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@toniganzon (53314)
• Philippines
6 Aug
When the ring fits well, nope it won't fall off because the hand is not that slippery for the ring to fall off easily. I always wear a ring. Second doubt. When the boyfriend is that determined to marry his girlfriend, he would go through all lengths to get to know everything about the love of her life. It's too easy to find out a woman's ring size. She has friends, she has parents, she has siblings. And sometimes, an expert jeweller at the shop can easily tell a woman's size just by looking at a photo.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
Even if the boyfriend is determined, and finds out from other sources, who decide for once to keep a secret as secret, how is he still so confident that the girl is gonna say yes...and if the girl says no - then the ring is wasted, right?
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@toniganzon (53314)
• Philippines
6 Aug
@vandana7 You can always return the ring and get a refund.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
@toniganzon Poor guy...must be getting ulcers. Will she, won't she...anyway, I will get back my money if she refuses...so that is some consolation.
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@sol_cee (16935)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Aug
How about in your country Vanny-san? Do you defy gravity? hehe
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
10 Aug
No..folks in our country get to sit their seats on sofa so that they have no excuses what so ever should the ring fall off. In fact the ring is over protected by some family members helping the groom and the bride.
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@sol_cee (16935)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
10 Aug
@vandana7 overprotected ring means?
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
10 Aug
@sol_cee They hold the ring tightly lest it falls help the groom find the right finger...as if he was stupid (likely) or blind (unlikely), and some go to the extent of helping the groom push the finger on the bride's finger...as if it was a Herculean task and their baby boy needed help with it.
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@crossbones27 (20780)
• Redlands, California
6 Aug
Are you getting married? Congrats and if not congrats when you do. I hate all the tradition, never understand them, well I do, but its like one day you may think different so why throw that in there. Anyway, I am the wrong person to ask but you bring up a fair point and congrats just in case you are getting married.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
Yes. Thank you. I too hate traditions. They are too noisy and have less common sense integrated in them. Geee thanks...yeah...the gravity bit is still a mystery. Look at the angle her fingers are in one of the response...you will know why I had this logical doubt.
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• Redlands, California
6 Aug
@vandana7 Don't ask me to think the angle her fingers in. I think bad thoughts. Male and all. Tell your God to save me. Happy for you though Miss Vanny. A straight up I will tell it to your face player. Who is now going to rule the world. Do it well miss lady.
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@ptrikha_2 (9712)
• India
19 Aug
@vandana7 this too is an interesting link.
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@kanchan10 (3214)
• Kolkata, India
6 Aug
very confusing. he may have asked the ring size.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
If he asked for the ring size, then it is no secret - right? Proposing and all that drama that goes with it...they take them to the park or patio, or garden and then kneel and propose. I also think the pant will get dirty at the knee.
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@chiyosan (30204)
• Philippines
10 Aug
the man will insert the ring on her fingers and it won't just fall off if it is the right size, just as your pants and panties and not sliding off your legs just because there is gravity. :P I don't know about how they got the ring size, but their friends might have helped. :P there are ways to do things, so since they want to propose, i am sure they will find ways to know her ring size.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
14 Aug
If friends or relatives are asked, the secret is out of bag. It should be surprise, right?
@simonraj (23)
7 Aug
A boy who really loves a girl knows everything about her... Not only the size of her fingers. but everything! No need to worry about the size of the ring.. he knows the size of everything.. hahaha... And people have different formalities around the world to get married. Somebody wear license on their neck to worship someone as their husband. though some may not be... But wearing the ring on ring finger scientifically controls the mind and heart to remember someone is close to you.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
7 Aug
Really now...
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@jaboUK (54877)
• United Kingdom
6 Aug
I never actually know of anyone who was proposed to like that. My husband proposed first then we went to look for a ring. Seems the most sensible way of doing things.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
7 Aug
That is what I felt too. It is so funny that Americans have established a tradition like that.
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@cupkitties (7372)
• United States
6 Aug
If the ring falls off her finger that easily, something aint right. That means he didn't put in the effort to get her correct fit. Who knows what else he won't put any effort into. There are multiple ways to find out someones ring size without alerting them
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
I don't think even close ones can actually identify the finger sizes. My father is close to me, but if you ask him what size is my finger, he would be at a loss because he does not know how rings are measured. He is not into jewelry. Neither would my aunts. We simply go to the shop, and try out. We don't measure. That is the way it is done out here. So kinda I would not say he did not put in efforts. I would say poor guy...he has to undergo estimating ring size test like virginity test.
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• New Delhi, India
6 Aug
Has...all such things only happen in the movies
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
I am just accepting it to be logical conclusion. Unless I spend time running about watching a few of such proposals and the ring remaining there...without rolling off, I can't really accept that such things don't happen.
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@arunima25 (6771)
• Bangalore, India
6 Aug
My husband officially proposed me after our marriage and gave me a diamond ring that actually fit my thin finger. For my engagement, it was an old ring of my mother in law and it was too loose or me,so they put a thread around it, As for the law of gravity, love is too weird to follow any laws except in-laws
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
That is cheating...proposing after marriage...you had no chance to say no...undue influence, coercion...whatever...I am only joking. Aw...getting a ring with thread...hmmm did they ask you to put on weight so that it would fit the finger without the thread? I perfectly agree with you about laws there...that is a really good one..LOL
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@arunima25 (6771)
• Bangalore, India
6 Aug
@vandana7 I have not put any weight. However my mom in law was not in favor of the marriage. For her I was too tall for an ideal beautiful bahu. I am as tall as her son. She was so angry with marriage and my husband did not want to upset her more by getting me a diamond ring. So my engagement was a big drama. Out of anger, she took out her ring and handed over. I can't decrease my height.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
@arunima25 Aw....you are in Bangalore...tell your ma in law, chances of my kids or future generation being tall and good badminton or tennis players increase manifolds with tall parents. And they earn monies enjoying what they do, travel a lot, live a good life, and are wealthy unless they have divorces. Weird. If I had a tall daughter in law, I would be delighted.
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@Daljinder (22072)
• India
18 Aug
There are ways to find the ring size. Ask her best friend, mother or anyone else close that might know in confidence. Or be sneaky and get the size of a ring she already has? Or use a straw wrapper to measure the ring size by wrapping it around the finger while she sleeps or something. People find weirdly creative ways to find the ring size like using bottle caps, etc.. So, since the ring size is correct, the ring won't fall off.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
18 Aug
How does it remain a secret and surprise if the ring size is asked or measured. It is a serious issue.
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@Daljinder (22072)
• India
18 Aug
@vandana7 Ask in confidence and tell the person you asked to keep it secret. Be sneaky with measuring ring size for example while the woman is sleeping, quickly and silently measure it.
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@Daljinder (22072)
• India
20 Aug
@vandana7 Being rejected is the risk they are already aware of when they go to propose. Hence they are pretty nervous and scared. I also believed Kangana in that episode. Hrithik played the underhanded game. He had influence and money to cover his tracks. She put it rightly when she said some men don't grow up, take no for an answer, and lash out when their egos are hurt.
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@artemeis (4070)
• China
8 Aug
Well that's movies for you. Chinese most of them will never kneel, the knees are for one's parents and no one else. Yes the ring will fall off if the finger has no choice since the proposer is kneeling down, lol. How to know the right size? All I can say is many ways starting with "borrowing" away her accessories.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
10 Aug
I think we in the east are filled with common sense. Kneeling seems so silly to me. Pant would get dirty .. and then giving it in the dark means if ring falls, it is going to be searching session. Borrowing her accessories means she would know...she would know easily, right?
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@artemeis (4070)
• China
11 Aug
@vandana7 Depends how he puts it, I believe we wouldn't know if he says he's getting a ring for his sister, cousin or even mother. I don't know about getting dirty from kneeling though, I mean I am sure he will be proposing in a cleaned environment like a restaurant or hotel.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
11 Aug
@artemeis I thought they do it in gardens..LOL
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@DaddyEvil (25814)
• Aurora, Missouri
7 Aug
Many men will have bought their bride-to-be an engagement ring. Most engagement rings will need to be sized before the bride-to-be can wear it comfortably. (Until it is sized, there is a danger the ring will slide off and be lost.) After the engagement ring has been sized, the groom-to-be just needs to buy the wedding ring at the same jewelry shop and the jeweler will match it's size to the engagement ring.
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
8 Aug
Wow...though Crossbones did come, we wanted to know from Americans how do they do it...and what are the perils. Thanks for letting us know DE...why do you all propose late in the evenings? And I can understand in secluded places because you all don't want others to know if it is refused, but I don't understand why it has to be in a garden... Americans have no logic.
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@DaddyEvil (25814)
• Aurora, Missouri
8 Aug
@vandana7 We don't all propose in the evening, although that would be the most romantic time to propose, in my opinion... Many men propose in restaurants over a meal with his fiance. Usually an expensive meal. Sometimes hiding the ring in her food or in her drink. (I have seen the ring hidden in food once and thought that was gross!) Proposing marriage doesn't need to be in a garden, but I suppose some guys believe that would be a romantic setting...
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
10 Aug
@DaddyEvil That is so weird...oh so weird. If she drank it the ring would go down the gullet...pre-murder situation...diamonds are poisonous as well. How do Americans come up with such silly stuff...LOL Now..where and when did you propose to your first and second wives...if I may ask. Don't tell me restroom...anything is possible with an American.
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@lady1993 (19749)
• Philippines
6 Aug
it will not be difficult if the guy had given the girl a ring before.. but sometimes they may just guess it
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@vandana7 (66925)
• India
6 Aug
Logical sequence goes so wrong with it, isn't it? LOL. I mean I have to find out the ring size, if I ask her, she would know I am going to propose to her, and there would be no surprise element. If I don't, the ring may be of wrong size. Poor groom.
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@lady1993 (19749)
• Philippines
7 Aug
@vandana7 fortunately you can readjust the ring to the right size
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