How is life without children? Better or worse?

@dya80dya (33053)
August 7, 2018 9:53am CST
Many people say that they have no purpose without children. They live for their children. Other people can't stand children. They don't want to be bothered by kids. Is it better with kids or without them? My aunt doesn't have children and she is happy. My mother says she can't live without her children. What do you think? It's good to have children nowadays?
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@LadyDuck (454915)
• Switzerland
7 Aug 18
We are not all the same, I have no children and I am happy with my husband without children.
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@LadyDuck (454915)
• Switzerland
11 Aug 18
@dya80dya NO, never, I have never felt lonely during all my life.
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
Don't you feel lonely sometimes?
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@Kandae11 (53601)
7 Aug 18
Couples who don't like kids should definitely not have them.
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
Yes. My aunt wants big children.She doesn't have patience with them.
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
@MashaVickina In our country there are lots of people who have children without affording. This is so sad for those children.
• Russian Federation
7 Aug 18
And who cannot afford them should also not
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@rakski (112993)
• Philippines
7 Aug 18
Not all mothers are blessed with children. I am happy for those who come to terms that they cannot bear child. Some adopt, some stay childless. It is their option and decision. Children does not define happiness, it adds a lot happiness to the house and family for sure. But children are not the only source of happiness. You have to be content with your life.
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
I agree. Children can add happiness. But only if they are healthy.
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@rakski (112993)
• Philippines
12 Aug 18
@dya80dya healthy or not, they can bring happiness and warm hearts.
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@dya80dya (33053)
12 Aug 18
@rakski Even if they are sick?
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• Russian Federation
7 Aug 18
It depends on your financial abilities first of all. Secondly, how sure you are in your husband. Thirdly, your couple's aims in life
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
Some mothers raise children without husbands.
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• Russian Federation
11 Aug 18
@dya80dya Yes, especially in Russia. I am against it
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
7 Aug 18
I think you answered your own question. Having children is good for some, others would rather not have them. Not everyone's life would improve by having children so there is no right or wrong/better or worse that can speak for "Everyone" in this case.
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
I think that children make us feel less lonely. And they can improve our lives.
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7 Aug 18
I think one can be happy with or without kids. Although the joys of having children versus none are different, it's still happiness nevertheless. You get to do more things without children around, and with their existence, you get to do stuff together.
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
And you feel less lonely.
@dya80dya (33053)
12 Aug 18
@ihasaquestion They leave when they grow up.
12 Aug 18
@dya80dya That's unavoidable; when they grow up too...
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
7 Aug 18
I love my children and I would be very lonely without them. My 24-year-old and his wife do not want children other than furbabies. I respect that. They are not "children" people.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
11 Aug 18
@dya80dya NO, children are not easy to raise and if a person is not a "children" person, they have no business bringing one into the world. I see countless people have children and treat them like dirt. It is not fair for the child.
@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
Not everyone can have children. I think it's not easy to raise them.
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@marlina (154183)
• Canada
8 Aug 18
It is a very personal decision. We have 2 sons and are very happy with them. Some have children and are not good at taking care of them, so those ones should stay childless.
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
In our country there are many people who don't take care of their children.
@Shiva49 (26163)
• Singapore
8 Aug 18
Our son was born after fourteen years of our marriage. For us, life was hollow, no purpose without children. Children add to our joy and also worries but every moment is worth it - siva
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
You are happy with your son. Many people say that life without children has no purpose. I am glad that you could have a child after fourteen years of marriage.
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@NJChicaa (115607)
• United States
7 Aug 18
My husband and I don't want children so we don't have them. We are child-free by choice and very happy that way.
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@NJChicaa (115607)
• United States
11 Aug 18
@dya80dya Yes. At this time last year we had 5 cats and a parrot. Now we are down to 2 cats and the parrot.
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
Do you have animals instead?
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@Hannihar (129074)
• Israel
8 Aug 18
@dya80dya I wanted children but was not lucky to have them so have had animals instead.
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@Hannihar (129074)
• Israel
12 Aug 18
@dya80dya Animals certainly do make us feel less lonely. I cannot comment on children. I never got to the point where I had one.
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@dya80dya (33053)
12 Aug 18
@Hannihar It's sad that you wanted children, but you don't have them.
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
I think children can make us feel less lonely. Animals also can make us feel less lonely. I also had animals.
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@Courage7 (19635)
• United States
7 Aug 18
Its a real challenge. I wouldn''t recommend it unless you are totally committed Children change your life permanently
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
I agree. They can change your life in a good way or a bad way. Do you have children?
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@Courage7 (19635)
• United States
11 Aug 18
@dya80dya Yes one son
@Rashnag (30600)
• Surat, India
8 Aug 18
I love children. Wish to have it someday. Thanks for sharing dear
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
Maybe you will have them.
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@frenki (1693)
• Serbia
7 Aug 18
I guess only people who have kids can say is it better or worse with or without kids (coz they've experienced both), but I'm sure whoever have them can't say it's better without them. However, kids are not for everyone, and that is fine, so for people who don't want to have kids for sure it's better not to have them, and for those who want opposite. So there is no correct answer, it depends on person. It's personal choise.
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@dya80dya (33053)
11 Aug 18
I agree. And people who hate children shouldn't have them.
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