Stay-at-Home vs Working Moms

@moichan (688)
Philippines
August 9, 2018 10:23pm CST
I've been a stay-at-home mom right after giving birth and its been 10 months now. I can't trust anyone to take care of my baby especially with all the viral videos about abusive babysitters. Would you love your mom to stay at home or would you like her to work?
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@NJChicaa (48512)
• United States
10 Aug
It would depend on what the dad did I guess. I wouldn't want my mother to stay at home if my father could barely make ends meet and I grew up with very little. If my father had a great job and the family didn't need a second income, then go for it Mom. I mean, there is also a thing called DAY CARE. Millions of children have gone through it and have survived just fine.
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@rakski (24124)
• Philippines
10 Aug
I agree.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
We don't have daycare where I am. You got a good point there. I'll keep that in mind. Thank you :)
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@MALUSE (45978)
• Uzbekistan
10 Aug
@moichan "We don't have daycare ***where I am***." Is there a special reason why you don't mention on your account page where that is?
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@Hannihar (46280)
10 Aug
@moichan While I was growing I wanted my mother to stay at home and be there when I got home from school but she preferred to be with my father at their place of business.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
I know she would love to stay if given a chance. You've been a sweet child. I know your mom is proud to have you.
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@moeybags (118)
11 Aug
she must have been a very busy woman.
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@Hannihar (46280)
12 Aug
@moichan She decided she wanted to be with my father instead of staying home. My mother, father and brother and sister were never proud of me. My grandfather was the only one that accepted me the only one I wanted to be with.
@Jessabuma (33128)
• Baguio, Philippines
10 Aug
I think stay at home for me hehe
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
Same goes for me :)
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@Jessabuma (33128)
• Baguio, Philippines
10 Aug
@moichan that's nice
@moeybags (118)
11 Aug
If i were a mom i would prefer to work.
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@rsa101 (16718)
• Quezon City, Philippines
10 Aug
Depends on the ability of dad to sustain the family. Or if the mom can find an online job then it would be fine and well so she won't get bored working at home. There are just moms who love to work and earn on her own so I think those kind of women cannot stay at home and be contented with it. But there are also women who are meant to be a mom as their chosen career.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
Makes sense. I find it more challenging to be a stay-at-home mom than to be a working mom. I can't calculate my sleep and I don't have a substitute.
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@rsa101 (16718)
• Quezon City, Philippines
10 Aug
@moichan If that suits you then I guess you should follow your heart.
@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
@rsa101 thanks dear. :)
@LeaPea2417 (23203)
• Toccoa, Georgia
10 Aug
My Mom was a stay at home Mom & I was too.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
Thanks for sharing! Being a mom is a 24/7 job. My adjusting period is getting better.
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@moeybags (118)
11 Aug
my mom was a single mom and a working mom.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
11 Aug
@moeybags salute! I always admire single moms. They're badass. They have all the guts to stand and take care of their kids.
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@sol_cee (18436)
• Japan
10 Aug
I'd love my mom to be with me. I'm clingy like that. hehe
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
Oh you're so sweet. I hope my baby will be clingy to me when he gets big.
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@moeybags (118)
11 Aug
Babies are a real hoot and so fun i have a baby cousin named addison she will be a year old this month.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
11 Aug
@moeybags hugs and kisses to your cousin. They are really a bundle of joy
@Berrygal (5527)
10 Aug
I will always go for what works for me, I will stay home if need be
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
That's the only choice I have so far
@rakski (24124)
• Philippines
10 Aug
It is nice to be a stay at home mom provided the dad have more than enough resources for the bills, groceries, school and endless expenses.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
Yes. That's true
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• Lenox, Georgia
10 Aug
I'm also a stay at home mom but I provide childcare for other children so their parents can work and to help out with our bills too.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
I wish I could do that too. My baby is too hyper and too young.
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• Lenox, Georgia
10 Aug
@moichan I have been watching children since before my kids were born. Thank God it comes naturally to me. =)
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
@LovingMyBabies it'll be a miracle if I can handle more than one kid. Lol. Maybe it'll be easier by the time he gets bigger.
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@tammys85 (12760)
• United States
10 Aug
My Mom was a stay-at-home Mom until my younger sister (the youngest of five kids) started school, and then she was a substitute teacher at our elementary school (while we were still attending and for many years). I'm glad we were able to see her at home and sometimes at school (and if she subbed our classes, no favoritism was shown). :)
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
That's cool. She can still monitor you in school. I was a preschool teacher 5 years ago. I enjoyed all of it aside from the pay.
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@tammys85 (12760)
• United States
10 Aug
@moichan Yep, and it was easier for her to pick us up lol. I'm glad you enjoyed it for the most part. :)
@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
@tammys85 I bet you can't misbehave because your mom was within the radar. Haha
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@LeeShanty (103)
• Yogyakarta, Indonesia
10 Aug
I think if you ask it to kids, they prefer their mom just stay at home. But if you look at the family wallet and the need, like or nor, want it or not, it will be better if mom go to work to get some additional money and far away from depression feeling because don't have money.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
You got a good point there. I grew up being left alone at home because my mom needed to work. It's been my first ever heartbreak. I felt abandoned as a kid.
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• Yogyakarta, Indonesia
10 Aug
@moichan me too. I live with my grandpa since I was 6. my mother worked in the capital city in the past. Sadly, now I rarely with my son because of my job. m
@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
@LeeShanty grandparents are the coolest. They are the spoilers of all time. Lol. Kids are lucky now since there's a lot of communication devices like laptops and smartphones. Back in my day, I would wait all day beside the landline phone waiting for my mom to call.
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
13 Aug
That's ridiculous. You can't shelter your child forever. They are going to have to go to school at some point. And if you put them into school with no socialization it's going to be negative for your child.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
13 Aug
He's still a baby. 10 months old. I can't entrust him to a nanny since he can't understand simple commands yet.
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
13 Aug
@moichan That has nothing to do with the kid. You are being ridiculous. Nannies are there to take care of the kid not the other way around. Why would a kid need to take commands to be watched by a nanny. Your excuses are silly. You just don't want to leave the baby.
@moichan (688)
• Philippines
13 Aug
@thislittlepennyearns I didn't say I'll be a stay-at-home parent forever. You're getting the wrong idea deary. Where I'm from, we work 9 hours a day + 4 hours travel time. I can't entrust my baby to a nanny that long for 5 days a week.
@lady1993 (20692)
• Philippines
10 Aug
it depends on each person and the situation though... since some couples can't afford to stay at home, others have their family members to watch over their kids But if it was me, i'd take a leave too, since i want to spend time with my kid for at least a few years
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
I do have trust issues when it comes to people taking care of my baby. It's the downside of being a psychology graduate. I can read people's intention by observing them
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@lady1993 (20692)
• Philippines
13 Aug
@moichan hmm, then wouldn't it be a good skill though... since you can pinpoint if someone is lying to you
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
13 Aug
@lady1993 it is but it hurts. I don't let them know that they're obviously lying.
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• India
10 Aug
It depends on situations,if the baby is small better with mother at home
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
Yes. A minute away from me makes my baby cry.
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• India
10 Aug
@moichan they really need a mother than somebody else to make them happy
@jobelbojel (9031)
• Philippines
10 Aug
With all that viral videos I have seen that brutally abuse child, I would tell my mom to stay or work at home.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
That's my reason too. I can't imagine what I'll feel if those will happen to my baby
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@moeybags (118)
11 Aug
@moichan i love little babies they are so cute and so precious.
@Shellyann36 (11257)
• United States
11 Aug
Those videos are awful! My Mama was a stay at home mom and I was blessed.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
11 Aug
It is and as a mom, I can't help but watch it. I need to be informed on how protective I should be.
• Marikina, Philippines
11 Aug
Pack lunch for my son.
I enjoy being work-from-home mom and I started last June. You are right, it is hard to trust someone with the life of your baby. I enjoy staying at home because I can have full 8 hours sleep, I can do the laundry while working and I can prepare healthy packed lunches for my kids like the picture I posted.
@moichan (688)
• Philippines
11 Aug
That's my target too. Thank you.
@JustBhem (46097)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Aug
I don't have my baby so I can't relate. Kidding. Of course, I want to take care of my own baby. As what you've mentioned, we cannot trust people these days. And I prefer working at home which is what I'm doing.
@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
If you have pets then you are counted as a furbaby parent. Lol. I'll try having a home-based job once I found a helper.
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@JustBhem (46097)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Aug
@moichan I can't even have a pet for the fear that I'm too lazy most of the time.
@moichan (688)
• Philippines
11 Aug
@JustBhem I used to have cats before I had a baby. I I just make sure that their bowl is full and their litter clean. They are the best pets because their clean and independent.
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@dodo19 (34300)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
10 Aug
I did stay home for a while with my kids, but now I'm back at work. Things were pretty tight, and we needed a second income. I don't really mind though. It's worth it. I do know that my kids are going to a good school and a good daycare. So, I'm really not worry.
@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
I wish I could do that too. I don't really want to give my husband a hard time.
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@dodo19 (34300)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
10 Aug
@moichan I know it's not easy. It's a hard choice to make. I have been lucky, as my husband did respect my choice to stay home and didn't give me a hard time. And he agreed it'd be easier if I started working again. So, I have been lucky. Take some time and think about it.
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@moichan (688)
• Philippines
10 Aug
@dodo19 yes I will. Thank you!
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@kprofgames (3103)
• United States
11 Aug
The sad part of our world is no family can life off one income. Unless one parent really makes great money at one job. I would love to be a stay at home mom. It isn't possible.
@moichan (688)
• Philippines
11 Aug
Yes. That's the downside of being in middle class. If I knew I'll have a baby, I should have saved more, way lot more.
• United States
12 Aug
@moichan on the flip side of that sometimes the men have to stay at home with the kids while mom is working. Lay offs, etc. happen. This kind of thing has happened twice to my daughter where she worked and her hubby stayed at home with the 4 girls......he knows all about princess playtime and how to do hair. lol
@moichan (688)
• Philippines
12 Aug
@kprofgames that's really sweet of the dad. I can imagine how they enjoy playtime. Lol. My uncle used to do the same to me since both parents worked for 10 years.
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