A real perdictament
By Nancy Zink
@ramapo17 (30441)
Melbourne, Florida
August 15, 2018 11:58pm CST
A friend of mine came to me for suggestions or advice and I have no idea how to answer. She is possibly getting a big promotion and needs to go out of state on Monday morning and return home late Friday night. Meaning she will be home for the weekend.
She has to go to training for this new position and it cannot be done where she lives. She has a 17 year old son and is a single parent. She has no family or friends in the area to help with this problem. I wished I could help but I live in Florida and they live in the northeast. Her son is a senior in high school.
A person can always find babysitters for young children but this is a completely different issue. The boys father is not in the picture.
Just wondering if anyone has anything I can suggest to her. She really wants the new position as she will get a nice raise and plans to move permanently to the new place once her son graduates high school.
I never knew anyone with a problem like this so I cannot even suggest anything. Seems like the job sounds good but the timing is wrong.
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10 responses
@JudyEv (325398)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Aug 18
I gather she has to be away for the week. Is school still in session? Does he have a school friend whose family he could stay with for the week? If it were a weekend I was wondering if there might be a live-in course or activity or something that would interest him. Of course it would cost but it might be an option At 17 he could almost be left alone depending his maturity/neighbourhood/etc.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
16 Aug 18
She would be gone from Monday morning until Friday late afternoon. School will be in session once she has to go. She didn't get the dates yet. I know he could be alone and I think that would be ok for a week or two but she is worried about him and the animals. She has 2 cats and a cockatiel.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
16 Aug 18
Is the 17 year old independent, mature and responsible? Perhaps she can send him temporarily to a dorm or boarding house, the solution borders on the child's ability to live alone while training is going on.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16518)
• China
16 Aug 18
It seems that she can't have it both ways.I wonder if her son can transfer to the school located on where her new job is at.
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@wolfgirl569 (94806)
• Marion, Ohio
16 Aug 18
She could ask some of his friends parents if they can check in on him. At 17 he should be fine for a few days.
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@Friendlypink (3805)
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16 Aug 18
17 years old son sound responsible enough for me. I can already cook or make my own sandwish when I was 15.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
16 Aug 18
He can cook in fact he is planning on going to culinary school after he graduates. He has been interested in cooking since he was 9 years old. I just don't think it is to good to leave someone alone for that length of time. I can just picture a bunch of guys wanting to hang out at his house a lot.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
16 Aug 18
This would be a hard one. Can't she take her son with her if she is going to be gone that long? At least that way she wouldn't be sitting there worrying about him. Or find somewhere like one of his friends house where it would be OK with their parents to stay some time with.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
16 Aug 18
That is what I am thinking to. Being at a friends would be better than having friends staying at his house.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
16 Aug 18
If it were me, I wouldn't take the new job. Because her son needs her now. Maybe she will have a chance later.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
16 Aug 18
You make a good point @caopaopao.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
16 Aug 18
I know he is old enough and does spend some time alone when she is working late. I think the idea of being so far away for all those days gets her nervous.
