The introvert performs
By Faye
@FayeHazel (40248)
United States
August 19, 2018 1:17pm CST
Hi My Lot, I have missed being on here more, but then, I did know that August would be busy.
Lots of performing, actually. And my parent's birthdays. Dad on August 11, and mom on August 15
August 12th - Pirate Fest (like a mini Renassiance Festival) with my belly dance troupe.
August 17th - Singing at Karaoke (scary as singing scares me)
August 18th - Burlesque performance (it was awesome, magical really)
August 18th - getting asked to play a song with one of my favorite local bands on bass
I do plan to write a seperate discussion about burlesque coming soon, however all of this has made me ponder something
I do like performing, generally speaking. It's less draining than trying to have a conversation with someone.
THe Myers-Briggs personality test puts me in the 90something percent introvert range.
(introvert and extrovert refer to how a person gets energy. Introverts make their own energy and require down time , alone time, so that they can rechange. Extroverts get energy from others. It doesn't have much to do with shyness or not shy as popularly thought.)
Anyway, it holds true. Too much socializing and I'm completely wiped out. Certain individuals drain me more than others. I require alone time and don't mind being by myself. Too much by myself and I get antsy. So there is a balence there too.
However performing is one of those rare times when I feel energy coming to me from other people.
That's the only thing I can think of, why an introvert like me would be so drawn to this.
Id be curious your thoughts and opions on personality, performing, etc....
Photo: Pixabay
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Aug 18
I love being alone but I love being out in public with people as well. I like both so what am I? LOL, don`t say " a weirdo" cause I already know about that. 
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
24 Aug 18
Sounds like we're similar. I don't get it either, but it seems to be how I am
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@JamesHxstatic (29242)
• Eugene, Oregon
25 Aug 18
I agree. Too much socializing does me in, but if I go to do an extras job or any film thing, I am doing great. Performing is like you step outside of yourself for a while.
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@JamesHxstatic (29242)
• Eugene, Oregon
27 Aug 18
@FayeHazel Sometimes easier as well.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
27 Aug 18
It is fun to be someone else , isn't it?
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@just4him (305965)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Aug 18
@FayeHazel Yes, and those people I try to avoid, however, in my small social world, that's not easy to do.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
29 Aug 18
@just4him Ah yes, that's the rub. Also when there is one in your immediate family....
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
27 Aug 18
Oh that's interesting. Do you find that some people energize you and some people drain you?
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@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
19 Aug 18
Many introverts are drawn to performing because they can become "someone else."
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
24 Aug 18
Ah yes. I love being someone else. Someone more exciting than me
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@dgobucks226 (34350)
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24 Aug 18
At times we can be our best company. "The soul that sees beauty may sometimes walk alone." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
30 Aug 18
@dgobucks226 To the beat of our own drum as some say :-)
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@dgobucks226 (34350)
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29 Aug 18
@FayeHazel Yes, sometimes we must dance to our own drummer so to speak... It makes company that much more of an experience.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
21 Aug 18
I think that you are drawn to it because like you said it's not draining performing for people but it is to talk to them. I believe you like being around people but you don't want to have to hassle with the small talk. I am an introvert but I used to be an extrovert. I know that sounds weird but I think it may come with age?
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
24 Aug 18
Ah yes, that seems right. I never seem to know what to say in small talk. It's really a fine art form. I wonder too if we can change as we age
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
20 Aug 18
I am an introvert and I often like to be alone.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
27 Aug 18
@FayeHazel yeah, I think there comes a time when we realise quality is better than quantity.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
24 Aug 18
I've heard people say that too - that a person can tend to be less social the older they get. I am finding as I age that I like being around only certain people , where as I used to hang out with people - whoever would spend timewith me. Now I like quality more than quantity
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
28 Aug 18
@bluesa It seems to happen as we mature. I have noticed the same thing with items, too
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@ria1606roy (2797)
• Kolkata, India
20 Aug 18
Introverts are better in thinking retrospectively and come with with good ideas sometimes, that is what I have found. And I'm glad you are drawn to these occasions. Being an introvert myself, I love being out too, but not too much. After a while it gets tiring and you will like to shut everyone out and be by yourself. Extroverts I have seen grow restless on their own and always are seen going out with people because that's where they find their mojo. I have got a hyper-extrovert friend whom I have to keep at bay sometimes because she'll sometimes pop up weekly plans 
So yeah, I understand 
Being an introvert is just fine, as long as you don't attach too much importance on what other people might think of you. You can take this Myers Briggs personality test which has got 4 parameters: Introversion/Extroversion ; Intuition/Sensing ; Thinking/Feeling ; Judgement/Perception. Mine came out ISTJ type.
So yeah, I understand Being an introvert is just fine, as long as you don't attach too much importance on what other people might think of you. You can take this Myers Briggs personality test which has got 4 parameters: Introversion/Extroversion ; Intuition/Sensing ; Thinking/Feeling ; Judgement/Perception. Mine came out ISTJ type.1 person likes this
@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
24 Aug 18
I love the MBTI - it's a great test. We share the first and last letters. I'm an INFJ. :-)
Good luck on keeping you extrovert friend at bay.... sometimes I find the extroverts have a hard time understanding. But eventually they have "gotten" it.
The one that doesn't "get it" at all in my life is my dad. He has no understanding and needs me to give him my energy all the time. I try and try to explain but he simply won't understand.
@DianneN (246643)
• United States
25 Aug 18
@FayeHazel Thank you. I guess 50/50 is about right.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
24 Aug 18
Hm, maybe you're near the 50/50 of each? Modeling? That's cool. I can see where you would be good at it. :-)
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
28 Aug 18
You sure were busy.
Can you be a mix, cause I think i am lol.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
28 Aug 18
I think so, closer to that midline area lol
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@Hannihar (129418)
• Israel
20 Aug 18
@FayeHazel
Your Mom shared a birthday with my Sophie. Sophie turned 4. It sounds like you were really busy.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
24 Aug 18
Oh that's awesome! Happy birthday to Sophie, too! :-)
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
24 Aug 18
Oh that's a special gift - working with young ones
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@YrNemo (20261)
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25 Aug 18
@FayeHazel 
Some grade one and two kids asked me if I were in the same grades as them! (They have vision problem I tell you!) 
Some grade one and two kids asked me if I were in the same grades as them! (They have vision problem I tell you!) 1 person likes this
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
19 Aug 18
I prefer to watch and enjoy performers a lot more than performing.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
19 Aug 18
I too am an introvert but am drawn to performing. When I recite a monologue to an audience, it is the only time anyone listens to what I have to say, uninterrupted.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
24 Aug 18
That's cool to meet others like me. Actually I think you have a point there too. Normally people talk over me, interrupt. I say something, no one pays attention, and 5 minutes later someone else repeats what I just said and oh wow …. what a great new idea.
