Please Stop!
By Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
Philippines
August 29, 2018 5:14am CST
Isn't my name clear enough for you to address me as a dude?
Please, don't call me a dude and please don't use that expression when you don't have an inkling what it means at all.
The dictionary clearly defines a dude as man or a guy. Is my name Grand Prince and not Princess?
Several years ago I tried to correct guys in the chat room calling me dude and they still didn't get it. Dude for them seemed to be an expression in addressing someone be it a man or a woman. And just now, somebody just called me a dude again. And I really don't like it at all and when I tell them I'm not a dude, they seem to be offended!
To all the mylot girls, do you like being called a dude?
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37 responses
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
Most young people use these expressions without considering respect at all. They just think it's cool so they do that. They should be educated.
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@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
30 Aug 18
@toniganzon Too many young people completely lack education.
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
29 Aug 18
sorry dude...will remember for next time
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
29 Aug 18
Hey MIkeee! I can see you're still in the shower...
Want some company? 
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
29 Aug 18
@Mike197602 With clothes on too. Need any help with the hair? 
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@GreatMartin (23677)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
29 Aug 18
Not saying they are right or you are but with a name like you have (instead of taking a name that is short and wouldn't invite such upsetting--to you--words) you are basically asking for the name calling.
I am not saying it is right but just as that is not your picture in the avatar--unless you are a dog and that is what you are called--why not just call yourself Anne? Yes I know you should be able to call yourself whatever you want and be respected that is NOT the way the world works as I know being open about being Gay.
And do people really call you by your full name as you say to Alfredo?? Even the Queen of England is NOT called by her full name!
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
Excuses me, but you don't know me. besides we don't have to call each other by names here when responding.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
29 Aug 18
True. I prefer not being addressed as dude or even dear at all.
@amadeo (111948)
• United States
29 Aug 18
@toniganzon what would you like to be call there?
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
29 Aug 18
You're not a dude, so it is annoying. I have one friend who sometimes says "dude, can you believe" but it is not often and I have known him for many years @toniganzon .
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
29 Aug 18
I can accept that among close friends but not strangers in mylot.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
29 Aug 18
@toniganzon I agree with you.
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@GardenGerty (157552)
• United States
29 Aug 18
I do not often get called dude and usually I ignore the people who call me that. I also do not like being referred to as "dear".
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
I don't like to be referred to as dear by people I'm not close to at all.
@Janet357 (75656)
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30 Aug 18
@toniganzon i use dear even if i dont know the person, it's a sign of friendship
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@May2k8 (18078)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 18
@toniganzon maybe in the past someone call me miss perhaps because my nick say so, I say to them anyway if I don't want to be call as miss.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
@May2k8 Yeah your name can really be mistaken as a girl's name for foreign people. May is a female name here.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
29 Aug 18
Sure. But would it be ok if somebody calls you Miss?
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
29 Aug 18
You are right 'Your royal highness' How dare they!!
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
How dare they shame a grand princess!
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@rebelann (111164)
• El Paso, Texas
31 Aug 18
It's not that I disagree or agree @toniganzon but over the past 2 decades the idiom 'dude' has been consistently used by the younger generation regardless of the other persons gender.
@Aquitaine24 (11653)
• San Jose, California
30 Aug 18
I was thinking that as well.
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@JudyEv (325755)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 Aug 18
@toniganzon Rude and disrespectful - well, they mean the same thing don't they?
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
29 Aug 18
I dislike being called a dude, even bro, or buddy, or one of the 'guys'.
My name is a female name but there are some who insists on calling me dude.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
@porwest definitely my point as well.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
what are some of your nicknames?
I don't mind it when it comes from close friends but not from strangers.
@frenki (1693)
• Serbia
30 Aug 18
@toniganzon Frenki is one of them, also Mala, Dora, Izi , ...
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
@frenki Those are all names with no hidden meanings in them?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
30 Aug 18
Addressing a women/girl dude sounds ridiculous to me. Dude seems like a slang and I being a man, do not like if somebody addresses me as Dude.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
30 Aug 18
@toniganzon Yes, there are other sober words to address a stranger.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
@dpk262006 Right, we don't even have to mention the name of the user at all especially when we find it too difficult.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
I consider it a slang and rude way to address anybody even if you don't know their name.
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@antonbunot (11091)
• Calgary, Alberta
24 Nov 18
L0L . The Beatles should have titled their song -hey, dude instead of hey, Jude. .. .. “hey,dude .... so let it out and let it in ... the movement u need is on your shoulder...’ .. I don’t like this song. It is a pervert’s song. Hehehe
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
25 Nov 18
it's not a pervert song. It's the one listening to it and have that interpretation that's a pervert!1 person likes this
@antonbunot (11091)
• Calgary, Alberta
25 Nov 18
@toniganzon Ngek ..! Am getting out of here. Hehehe
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@asfarasiknow (3341)
• Bournemouth, England
29 Aug 18
I used to have a co-worker who called everyone 'mate' - including a woman in her sixties. It wasn't well received.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
@Aquitaine24 It's a common expression among English people.
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@Aquitaine24 (11653)
• San Jose, California
30 Aug 18
Was he from Australia or another foreign country?Or maybe a pirate?
@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
31 Aug 18
Aw man!
I know sometimes I use the expression above - overly much.
I don't mind it only in certain contexts
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
1 Sep 18
I find it rude to call strangers dude.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
2 Sep 18
@toniganzon Yeah strangers is a little off putting. Friends, in certain circumstances is cute.... not all the time though
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@nitirrbb7 (4317)
• India
30 Aug 18
I guess not, I don't like to be addressed as dude.
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@nitirrbb7 (4317)
• India
30 Aug 18
@toniganzon Yeah even though, I can guess how the ladies feel about it.
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@arunima25 (85274)
• Bangalore, India
30 Aug 18
Nobody has called me dude yet. But I have noticed it being overly used violating the rules of the language. In my daughters high school they use it as a cool way to call their friends irrespective of their gender.
They have wrongly taken Gender equality.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Aug 18
Coz young people see it as an expression, I see it as a slang word that is quite rude. My teenager doesn't use such language at all.
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@arunima25 (85274)
• Bangalore, India
30 Aug 18
@toniganzon I am also particular that my children do not use a slang.
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