why do we lose friends as we age

September 6, 2018 8:15pm CST
A friend blames me tonight, saying that we are somewhat alienated. I thought about it carefully. It was indeed my fault. I was busy with nothing every day. I didn’t meet my old friends very much, and I didn’t make new friends. But it is not all my own problem. I also miss the years before ten years ago. At that time, there seemed to be a huge magnet in front. We had these iron filings coming from all directions and going in the same direction. Now the magnet disappears, we These iron filings are also in vain.
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Mavic123456
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
7 Sep 18
From my personal experience, as I went to a different path, but somehow we still meet along the way. And when we meet along the way, sometimes we reconnect, sometimes it is just like that.
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Mavic123456
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
7 Sep 18
@yamakuq yes, but if there is an awkwardness, it means, the friendship is gone. you have to start from the beginning.
Sophie
@yamakuq (5)
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7 Sep 18
yeah, Sometimes one friend and i don't chat for a long time. Once chatting, it’s still as familiar as before, without any sense of awkwardness.
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Ria Roy
@ria1606roy (2797)
• Kolkata, India
7 Sep 18
Friends come and go...it is no good to crave the old lives with old friends, but yeah it is good to remember and reminisce, and learn an useful lesson from it in our social lives. I used to keep to myself and spend a lot of me-time, not hanging out with friends as often as I should have, for which I lost friends too often. From that point onward, I have made it my mission to meet them as often as time permitted, coming up with new plans with existing friends, so that in this stage of life I don't lose the really good close friends in life!
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Sophie
@yamakuq (5)
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7 Sep 18
Yes, I should arrange my time more reasonably and cherish the important people in my life.
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Ria Roy
@ria1606roy (2797)
• Kolkata, India
7 Sep 18
@yamakuq just once-a-month heart-to-heart times with friends are more than enough sometimes all the best!
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Pitstop
@pitstop (13035)
• India
7 Sep 18
I seem to be making more friends. I don't lose friends with time - it's just that some of them are hard to stay in touch with.
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Sophie
@yamakuq (5)
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7 Sep 18
Life continues, I should also look forward
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wongchoiyee
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
8 Sep 18
I lose and gain friends since secondary school.
mesbakh
@mesbakh (2284)
• Indonesia
7 Sep 18
i feel the same. i lose some friend as i go
anamika
@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
7 Sep 18
I think because of new priorities it hapoens
scarlet_woman
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
7 Sep 18
sometimes we just realize after awhile some of the people weren't worth hanging out with in the first place.
Shasta
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
7 Sep 18
I've lost friends because I "changed". That's what they told me. I prefer to call it character development. Oh well, good riddance to them
May2k8
@May2k8 (18070)
• Indonesia
7 Sep 18
The more you age, the more responsibility increases. As we get older and life gets busier. Sometimes I chat on WhatsApp, if they are not busy.
ultraman cosmos
@id_peace (14005)
• Singapore
7 Sep 18
As we start to get busy, we tend to ignore our friends. Our stuff comes first.
Hanni Harel
@Hannihar (129388)
• Israel
7 Sep 18
@yamakuq Sorry about that. i hope things get better.
Simone
@Janet357 (75656)
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7 Sep 18
Because not all the time you stay in one place, work or what. Once you change your place, new friends come along.
Melody
@melody22 (291)
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7 Sep 18
Friends come and go. If your old friends wants to meet you but you can’t meet them they will get mad at you. It’s their problem not you. They should understand why you can’t meet them. But of course sometimes we can, not always as they want.