2 Jobs and a Bad Day

By Arya
@yoalldudes (35040)
Philippines
September 12, 2018 6:57am CST
I work, he works. We come home both stressed. I lashed out on him, he lashed back. Two broken hearts afterwards. So much for stable jobs.
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@maezee (41997)
• United States
12 Sep 18
Hope you both can applogize and move on from it.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
12 Sep 18
We would reconcile sure but the root cause of these needs to be solved.
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@anya12adwi (6030)
• India
12 Sep 18
communication is always the key.. So communicate and don't lash out.. Small small baby steps you should take to carry forward the relationship
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• India
14 Sep 18
@yoalldudes Yes, and always should reserve a particular day or time to enjoy your me-time
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
15 Sep 18
@anya12adwi I may be able to do this more because we will be moving to our tiny house soon where I have my own room. Right now the water system is still being installed. I don't know how transferring the internet will take.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
Stress makes us feel like on the edge. But you are right we have to communicate gently as much as we can.
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@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
Oh that happens when both are stressed out from work and both got at each others throat that will make your house a bit of a hell than a place to rest in peace and quiet. I think you should patch up before you end the day. I know you don't mean to hurt each other that way. It was just the way things get in the way that caused it. So before you go to sleep try to talk it out peacefully and amicably. It's never too late to reconcile things up.
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@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
16 Sep 18
@yoalldudes good i guess that was fair enough to avoid confrontation which could make things worsts. Probably when the two of you gets home things will be better.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
16 Sep 18
Technology helped us. We texted and made peace. He was back at work, then. Ugh!
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
16 Sep 18
@rsa101 We've reconciled as of now. But again it's start of the workweek lol
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@id_peace (14005)
• Singapore
12 Sep 18
Ouch i hope that both of you had recover now.
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@id_peace (14005)
• Singapore
12 Sep 18
What we do is that we leave the work on the doorstep just like our shoes then we will pick it up again over the next morning.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
@id_peace I would love to have that. We live in a small rural area where our lives is other peoples' business as well. Work is intertwined with personal lives. So stressful for me as I am a private person.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
12 Sep 18
Yea we did, through text. But the root of the problem is still there. 2 stressful jobs.
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@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
12 Sep 18
sorry to hear this, are you ok by now?
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
Yes. But the deeper problems in life has to be resolved. In the meantime, we are back to our happy selves lol.
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@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
13 Sep 18
@yoalldudes Is this okay, going back to your happy selves?
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
@Mavic123456 Hmm that made me think. I'm not so sure. For now, it is, I guess. In the long run, deeper issues has to be addressed.
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@shubhu3 (36464)
• New Delhi, India
12 Sep 18
Try to keep work stress at work and engage with eact other qualitatively when you guys come back home.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
12 Sep 18
I wish we can just have a small business.
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@shubhu3 (36464)
• New Delhi, India
12 Sep 18
@yoalldudes That's alright. Accept the way things are. Everything happens to teach us and make us grow. In this case, grow together
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
@shubhu3 But I feel we are apart when we focus all our energies on our works.
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@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
12 Sep 18
I'm sorry to hear that you guys had stressful days, which caused some tensions. I do hope that you guys can work things out.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
Thank you.
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
13 Sep 18
"After the storm comes the calm, after the calm comes the sunshine" You must have made up by now
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
Yes we did. Thank you. Sunshine ahead.
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• Philippines
16 Sep 18
I think it is better to love than to get lost by emotions... and don't feel too bad about what happened ( I know it is easy for me to say...) just kiss and make up. Love love love love... is what matters. Always save the day by a determined love to create cheerful memories each day. God bless.
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• Philippines
16 Sep 18
@yoalldudes That is so nice... heheheh and love is sweeter when you overcome a fight... hahahaha... God bless you and your husband and your whole family. As a mom keep your family through prayers. A family who have a mother who prays for her family every night is very bless... I read it from the bible, I can't remember the verse.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
16 Sep 18
Thankfully, we got over it.
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@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
12 Sep 18
It’s much better to let those pent up emotions out than to bottle them inside. Still someone has to make the first move and apologize.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
Yes it was inevitable. So many negative feelings from toxic workplace bottled up within.
@Hannihar (129379)
• Israel
16 Sep 18
@yoalldudes Jobs can be very stressful and sorry you both suffer from it and take it out on each other.
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@Hannihar (129379)
• Israel
17 Sep 18
@yoalldudes You are so welcome.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
16 Sep 18
That is true. Thank you for your understanding.
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@Kandae11 (53678)
12 Sep 18
You could both discuss your day at work and get it off your minds. at least you have each other.
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@Kandae11 (53678)
12 Sep 18
@yoalldudes If you are not happy in your marriage you would know. You would also know if the problem could be fixed.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
12 Sep 18
Your last statement touched me. But I feel that there are times it is better to be alone. In my circumstance I'm not sure but I feel the need to know.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
12 Sep 18
@Kandae11 Yes you are right.
@simplfred (20608)
• Philippines
12 Sep 18
I hope everything will turn right.
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@ZedSmart (19753)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
Let the stress fade away and everything will be alright. That's normal for a couple. The good thing is when you're able to discuss both, reconcile and get back to normal for your plan and purpose ahead of you.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
13 Sep 18
Gladly, we did.
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@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
17 Sep 18
sadly that's the reality. looking for less stressful job could be the solution but heck where is that job?
@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
12 Sep 18
Stressed. Maybe you should both try to cool down first. Listen to each other
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
12 Sep 18
You are right.
@arunima25 (85265)
• Bangalore, India
12 Sep 18
That is ought to happen sometimes in all healthy relationship. But we have to make sure that it is not very frequent. Then it affects it bad. Have a talk when you both are settled and ready for it.
@arunima25 (85265)
• Bangalore, India
12 Sep 18
@yoalldudes That happens. We vent out on our loved ones only...they often become our outlet.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
12 Sep 18
We both are stressed out so much, we vented on each other lol
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