Poor girl
By Dominique
@dodo19 (47038)
Beaconsfield, Quebec
September 12, 2018 12:15pm CST
This morning was rough for my middle one. She just did not want to go to school. I asked her why she didn't want to go to school, and she kept saying that she would miss me. She cried quite a bit, saying that she didn't want to go to school. I tried to reassure her, but didn't work.
On the way to the bus, my eldest did try to help as well. She would talk about things she liked about kindergarten, and that she'd be there on the bus, and she could see her at recess. It was so sweet. But that didn't seem to help too much.
So, she went on the bus, still crying. She very reluctantly go on the bus.
I know that she has had some fun at school, but I do think she may still have a difficult time adjusting. It did make me sad to see her go crying. I have to admit that I have been a bit worried about her. As a mom, it can be hard not to worry about your kids. Hopefully, she's okay.
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@HazySue (39264)
• Gouverneur, New York
12 Sep 18
How sad, My middle child was not happy with going to school. She wasn't getting in trouble, she just wasn't ready. I ended up having her repeat 1st grade. It was my choice not the schools. As soon as she found out she relaxed, had a good summer, and happily went back to school.
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@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
12 Sep 18
I'm glad that things worked out for your middle one. Sometimes, they're just not ready for it. You definitely made the right decision for her. Maybe that's the issue with mine, but we'll see. I'll give her some time. After all the year just started, and we'll see.
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@Juliaacv (48272)
• Canada
12 Sep 18
She was probably just a bit tired and we all know that its easier to stay at home where we are comfortable and everything is familiar when we feel like that then to go out.
As a Mom I know how hard it is to see your child like that and then send them off, but I'm sure in the long run you did the right thing.
Try to give her some extra loving tonight and maybe she'll sleep better and have a brighter morning tomorrow.
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@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
12 Sep 18
It is very possible that she was just a little tired. And yes, it can be just easier to stay home.
Thanks for your nice comment. It's nice to know that there are others who understand. I will definitely give her some extra loving tonight when I get home. I'm sure I probably did the right thing. Although sometimes, it doesn't always feel that way.
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@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
26 Sep 18
There are days when there are no problems, which is good. I picked them on Friday, and got a chance to talk to one of her teachers. It seems that she will cry a little at the beginning but will be fine afterwards. It's only for a few minutes. I might still try to talk to her teachers again.
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@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Sep 18
@DianneN I think it probably just is separation anxiety. School can be really overwhelming. I know her teacher has said she’d sometimes cry a bit in the morning but would be fine after a couple of minutes. The last few mornings she’s been pretty good though.
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
28 Sep 18
@dodo19 When I taught first grade, it was considered very normal when kids cried. After I shooed the parents away, the kids always settled right down and were fine all day. I know your daughter will be fine, too. Just a bit of separation anxiety. .
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
12 Sep 18
Is that the first time she's been like that, so far?
If it was, and it was me, I would've kept her home for the day but told her it wasnt going to hapoen a second time because she needs to go to school.
I hope she ends up having a good day
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@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
12 Sep 18
She did have a bit of a hard time the first day, when it was time for her to go in, but she's been fine since. I was definitely tempted to keep her home, but unfortunately it wasn't really possible. Not today anyway. I'll talk to her and see. If not, then maybe something we can do tomorrow.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
13 Sep 18
@dodo19 i can understand not wanting to go the first day.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
12 Sep 18
Maybe she got into trouble or something, or the people she wants to be friends with has rejected here. Ask her those questions while you share making something or having cookies or something. The kids always wanted to talk more when we were cooking.
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@snowy22315 (169643)
• United States
13 Sep 18
Aww, it is definetly harder for some kids to separate than others. She will get used to it I think, like we all did..
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@MarshaMusselman (38616)
• Midland, Michigan
1 Oct 18
I didn't want to go to school when I started either. I don't think I head a problem with kindergarten but maybe because the school was near us and wed played there before. When I went to first grade I want happy. I don't know how long it took me to adjust. I am the oldest so no one paved the way for me. I probably knew a few neighbor kids riding the bus but I was quite shy back then.
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@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Oct 18
It can be hard for some kids to adjust. My eldest had no problems with going. She went in and was excited. She's very outgoing. However, my second is a little different. She's more shy and reserved. I know she's having a good time, but it's just taking her some time to adjust.
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@MarshaMusselman (38616)
• Midland, Michigan
1 Oct 18
@dodo19 I was going to ask if she was more sent. Maybe the she ones are always the ones that drag their feet for school and other events where they might be the center of attention.
At this age if might be hard to discover her actual fears as she probably can't put them into words but as she gets older it might help her to know that when other kids and teachers are looking at her they aren't judging.
I love my extended family cousins etc and spent time with them most holidays but even then I had to push myself for what I thought was still wires on me when others beat my family there. I eventually worked my mind to not worry about it and eventually got over that dread.
Had my mom recognized and encouraged me or even asked about my fears possibly they wouldn't have lasted so long. It's have to talk with as professional to get more input.
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@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Sep 18
@compslick That's what Mums do whatever their age. 
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@everwonderwhy (6696)
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18 Sep 18
A poor little angel. I hope she feels safe secure,somehow, every time she leaves the security of her home. It must be so hard for you both to be away from each other. 
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@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Sep 18
Yeah I have spoken to her and she just said it was just she missed me. I spoke to one of her teachers on Friday and she mentioned that she would cry maybe a little at the beginning of the day but then she’s fine. It was kind of reassuring.
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@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
13 Sep 18
It really wasn't easy for sure. It broke my heart too. It was hard seeing her go like that. I was worried about her. I texted my husband to let me know how she was doing when he picked her up, and she was fine, which made me feel a little better.
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