What to do with him anymore?
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
September 19, 2018 4:07am CST
I plan to have my nap this afternoon but because I was busy watching movies, it is too late for me for that. So I decided to have a sandwich with cheese spread and a hot black coffee.
Earlier today, I was having a heated argument with our younger Brother who knows nothing but always facing his tab and talks to his transgender girlfriend. From the time he wakes up until he sleeps, they always talk, and this kind of relationship irk us so bad that we wanted to have this relationship to end. The thing is, he cannot focus his attention on the chores and also attending to our needs. He always in a hurry because his girlfriend will get mad at him if he takes time to face her. And then the ending is, no chores are okay, always in a mess.
I sort this thing to my Father who at the first place never approve of this kind. But since our Mother tolerates it because she cannot provide him with his school, she let it be and sot that she is free of the responsibilities.
Now the transgender girlfriend is manipulating his life.
One time we heard my Brother crying because the transgender gave him an ultimatum not to talk to some girls on facebook. The transgender girlfriend even makes him absent from school for 4 days. Imagine that kind of thing.
Do you think we should let this to continue?
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7 responses
@arunima25 (85274)
• Bangalore, India
19 Sep 18
That sounds like an unfortunate condition. How old is your brother?? If he is an adult, it is his choice to go with his life and learn a lesson a hard way. But if he is a minor you need to be strict with him. He needs help. It definitely sounds like a toxic relationship. Quite suffocating..he needs to come out of it.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Sep 18
Yes, but he seemed to like it. I also think he is in love with this transgender woman.
My Brother is good looking and tall, I know he can make a woman cry but having this kind of relationship is not what I want for him. Even my Father does not approve of it.
He is 21 now.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Sep 18
@arunima25
Yes, I know but he still needs our guidance since he still lives with us.
Maybe I will talk to him once I'm ready. Thanks.
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@arunima25 (85274)
• Bangalore, India
19 Sep 18
@JustBhem He is an adult and in full charge of his life. Maybe a good talk with a positive tone can help. Criticizing him or a complaining tone might backfire.
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@freelancermariagrace (27219)
• Philippines
19 Sep 18
I love the LGBT community. I don't care if his girlfriend is a transgender, just as long as he's happy. And who are we to judge, right? But based on your story, he is in a toxic relationship. The transgender is not a good influence, in any way.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Sep 18
Me too, I am not against it.
If that transgender really cares about us, he should let my Brother attend to us any time of the day.
I and my Mother are both sick, our younger Brother is the only siblings we have at home because two of them are working to give us food in our table.
And what happens is, the transgender gets jealous whenever our younger Brother will do something for us instead of facing her in their video call. Do you think it's right? I know they still have time to talk but not every second, every minute, every hour and every day. It's too much!
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@freelancermariagrace (27219)
• Philippines
20 Sep 18
@JustBhem The transgender seems to be the possessive type. Not good 
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
19 Sep 18
Not a good influence plus it is a wrong relationship. Tell your brother that he will not be blessed because it is a sin to have a wrong relationship.
Don't get me wrong I love the LGBT community but not tolerating the relationship.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
19 Sep 18
@JustBhem see what he does to your brother.
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@Ladanger (14582)
• United States
19 Sep 18
She needs to go. Sounds like a toxic relationship. How old is he? If he is a minor then he should obey what you guys say and if he is older then 18 then I guess he just will learn the hard way when they break up. Sometimes we just let things happen so that he can then open his eyes
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Sep 18
When he got to their relationship he was minor and not he is 21.
Actually, I have nothing against with this kind of relationship but it involves my Brother is somewhat like I cannot take though how many times I told myself it's okay.
It's bothering because this transgender girlfriend is manipulating him and he changes his attitude towards us.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Sep 18
How many times I talked to him, he listens but he never put all my advice in his head.
He said that until he graduates he will leave him and that, but I doubt. Transgenders are not like that, once they give someone everything there is no need to quit. They will own you.
