Holding your Temper is a Discipline…

@ZedSmart (19754)
Philippines
September 21, 2018 1:11am CST
…or depending on how you view it. I think it takes a lot of good effort to hold one’s temper especially during the height of the situation. How do you keep cool during heated arguments when you want to release your patience and temper?
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@gjabaigar (2200)
• Philippines
21 Sep 18
Hi, eds. It is also a talent/skill holding on your temper. It is a negative emotion or one of your dragons that needed training or discipline. It is about how can you deal, treat, approach or control your EQ (Emotional Quotients). It is more important to have an ideal high level of EQ rather than with high IQ. If can't handle EQ, IQ is useless. Ask more about EQ with HR (Human Resource) Managers. HR managers do evaluate EQ also. And also some HR Managers conducts training or workshop dealing with EQ. One rule dealing with negative emotions (EQ) like temper, is to take a pause to clear your mind, then do deep breathing. Do mind countdowns from 3 or 5, 10, 30, 50, 60, 100 . . . depends on the situations or preferably to your comforts, satisfaction. And, if you are spiritually inclined, while taking the pause, have some of your spiritual guardians to help you or guide you or whatever to surpass such critical situations, and have the focus on the solutions.
@gjabaigar (2200)
• Philippines
21 Sep 18
@ZedSmart Yea. It is a special skill/talents having efficient and effective EQ like handling temper. I learned these from my HR Manager mentors/groups/friends and on some workshop/seminars/team building. Before that, I am a very hot high temper supervisor then in my office days, working on some data encoding company in Makati and also in Pasig. I want the jobs to be done on time without backlogs. But, you know in my cases it always in tight situations that is hard to contain stressed out jobs. Always in an emotional outburst. I'm one of those types of persons you can see flying throwing printers and computers to the windows. And, I do sometimes holding a baseball bat. And, for that effects, I ended in anger management when my blood has been rising on high alert until I got to an emergency room. Learn to read books, attending seminars, and have team building. And some spiritual enlightenment like from Bo Sanchez and others effective influential inspiring motivational speakers. And, lastly, I think this also helps to control my temperamental emotional outburst. By, going to some cheap talent/acting workshop of one my good friends who also on as an acting talent. In the workshop, you do anything emotionally controlled by own self thru interactions with others. Sometimes I do use how to control such emotions. By acting to it, so sometimes it feels like I am just to be pretending or not being serious about the situations. but I think it is an effective and productive interaction.
@ZedSmart (19754)
• Philippines
21 Sep 18
Thank you very much for this enlightening response. I also believed that it's more important to have a high emotional quotients than having a high IQ alone. And I agreed that the one's from up above will guide us if we asked for his guidance.
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@ZedSmart (19754)
• Philippines
21 Sep 18
@gjabaigar It's good to hear that you overcame that attitude. Thanks for sharing as well. This is a good source of inspiration. That in due time, we could change the flaw on us.
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
21 Sep 18
When I was younger, I easily get angry and explode at the office. Because of that, my officemates are afraid of me. So, I mellowed . When I am angry with an officemate, I text her about it. That way, no one knows our quarrel because it was done silently.
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
24 Sep 18
@ZedSmart At least, by texting ,shouting will be avoided.
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@ZedSmart (19754)
• Philippines
21 Sep 18
I think when we mature, we can easily control our emotions. Texting is nice way of telling also so that it would be between you and the person
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@shubhu3 (36465)
• New Delhi, India
21 Sep 18
It seriously needs a lot of self control. I tend to stay quiet or walk away from the place.
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@shubhu3 (36465)
• New Delhi, India
21 Sep 18
@ZedSmart Exactly.
@ZedSmart (19754)
• Philippines
21 Sep 18
Yes, sometimes it's good to not to speak anymore to avoid more problems.
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@sukhmani (881)
21 Sep 18
Well ..it's quite dufficult to hold your temper .,but in some extremely bad situation ,if you are able to do that ,you can prevent something wrong to happen
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@ZedSmart (19754)
• Philippines
21 Sep 18
You are right. It's still best to weigh and balance the situation.
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@sukhmani (881)
21 Sep 18
@ZedSmart yes that few minutes can save much precious relations in our life.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
21 Sep 18
I try to keep quiet and move away from that place.. I think I have lots of patience..
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@ZedSmart (19754)
• Philippines
22 Sep 18
It's good to know that you have this enough patience on you. Sometimes, it's no longer healthy to involve in heated arguments.
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• Philippines
21 Sep 18
It's hard to keep my cool when I am extremely mad.
@ZedSmart (19754)
• Philippines
22 Sep 18
It is sometimes. Let's just remember how things affect us tremendously if we're easily carried away with our emotion.