It's been a rough two days!

United States
September 22, 2018 4:17pm CST
We got home from a rather fun trip to Gilroy California on Thursday night. We went up on Monday and saw a couple of Bill's doctors and I got to do some shopping at my favorite places, Goodwill and the fabric stores. Goodwill was great! I found a couple of faux fur jackets with collars and linings out of fake fur that I could use to make bears out of. I also found a couple of Coach bags the first day, they were priced under $10!!! SCORE!!! Then we went to Bill's first doctor's visit and after that we went to meet his daughter and son in law for dinner for Pizza. The next day I went to the fabric store and found some heavenly fake fur for making miniature bears and some other items. From there we went back to Goodwill and I found some more designer bags. Two of them were Coach bags that one was under $10 and the other was under $20. The other two weren't ever used and were under $8! They're going into my booth space at the antique mall that I sell through in Paso Robles. I also found a few other items to go into the space too. It's great bringing in new (antique or used) items for the space. The fake fur bears will go into the booth space too. Bill's daughter had just come home from a trip to Italy and she brought me a darling cat mug that fits the personalities of the type cats I adore having around the house. They're the kind that are smart but not too bright in other areas. They will get into a small area and not be able to figure out how to get back out of the area without help. Or they will come to me wearing a bag tangled around their middle and are walking with a walk like a belly dancer wanting me to get them untangled. I'm hoping one day to get another cat like that, one that can live in the house with Bill and me. We got to bed after midnight Thursday night and yesterday we had to get up at 7 a.m. so I could go see my pain doctor to get my pain in my neck and the base of my skull checked out. That required an EMG exam and also he gave me shots in the base of my skull and up in the nerves in my scalp around my skull. Talk about "PAIN"!!! He gave me Lidocaine shots to control the amount of pain from the shots in the head and skull area. They helped some but not as much as the doctors hoped. I received the injections and then when they decided I wasn't going to pass out on them from all the shots in the head they had me move to the next room. This was to do the EMG testing. That was the test where they insert a needle into your arm and pass electrical impulses through your nerves in your various nerves. The electrical impulses range from very very light to jump out of your skin strong. Fortunately the nerve damage isn't that bad. My worst problem is from arthritis. That's kind of a good news bad news type thing. At least I'm not going to be the type person to allow the arthritis to keep me down and away from doing my teddy bear work. I just won't be able to do the really strenuous things like I used to do....like digging deep holes for planting trees and roses around the house and things like that. But I can keep doing the milder work like the sewing bears and jointing them and even, maybe, cutting out the joints for them. I left the doctor's office rather high from the Lidocaine and went to the modular home sales lot to check on the costs of placing a modular unit on my lot to replace the home that was burned down by the power company last year. I left there feeling rather depressed. After a bad night's sleep last night from the pain from the testing at the doctor's office I went over to the lot where my house had been to take pictures for the modular home company to figure how large a place I could put on the lot and what kind of lot prep I needed to do for them to put a house on the lot. I spent about 30 minutes down there taking pictures for the company. It was extremely depressing. I really miss my own old home. I'd be working on bears right now and getting them cut out and ready to sew and stuff for the shop. I'd have my furry babies all over the place helping me out with the work. Either the television or the stereo would be going and I would be happier than a pig in mud. Going down and taking the pictures was one of the hardest things I had to do. Especially when I found one of the kitty bones up towards where the front of the house had been. I stood there clutching the bone to my chest and crying like a baby. I gently buried it under the weeping fruitless mulberry tree at the front of the lot. Fortunately the camera is a auto focus so I didn't need to worry about the focus of the pictures so that I don't have to try to retake all the pictures. I'm not in condition right now to try to send the pictures to the Modular home people today so I'll email them tomorrow so I can send the claim to the power company on Tuesday. I didn't think my home, possessions, and collections were worth much but I was really wrong! My next project when I finally get the paperwork finished is to try to find an insurance company to purchase homeowner's insurance from. Right now my biggest project is to get over the depression and sorrow of losing my home and furry babies. There are a lot of people trying to help me out, but some of the sorrow is really difficult to get past even with all the help in the world. As I have said in other posts, make sure you have an inventory of what is in your home and a estimated value of that inventory. Also it wouldn't hurt to have a video inventory of your possessions. I didn't have either and even if I did it wouldn't have helped as it would have been in the house. Keep copies of your inventory someplace safe away from your home, like a safety deposit box, with a trusted family member, at your work place if it is a permanent job. Don't count on a "safe", freezer or places that state that they are fire safe. Some of them are fire safe up to a point but past that point you'll end up with ashes or little squiggles of plastic cd's or other items you save data on. Also periodically update that inventory so that you are up to date on values. It is amazing when you look at the change of your worth over just a couple of years. As for the depressed part of me from the doctor's visit and my depression from going down and taking pictures of what is left of my "home" and lot, I was going to finish the work today but I think that I am going to try to find something happy on TV to watch and hope for the pain and depression to wane and that maybe the pain from all the needles will go away today and tomorrow and I'll start to feel a bit better....maybe some chocolate will help. Or some nice comments from my "myLot" friends will help. To all my myLot friends, have a wonderful weekend and enjoy yourselves! Love and tons of hugs from the crazy bear artist lady....Toni
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@RasmaSandra (73444)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Sep 18
You have certainly had a tough time. It is sad that you lost so much. Hopefully, you will be able to make up for it with more furry babies. Find things that will make you happy, perhaps some music you really enjoy and of course, chocolate always helps. Love and hugs.
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@RasmaSandra (73444)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Sep 18
@BearArtistLady I like your thinking of getting a cat that is what you really need. I am so much less alone and feel so much better having my Sid around. However, just mentioning chocolate makes me think that you might like a cat that is chocolate colored and call him Chocolate
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• United States
23 Sep 18
You're right about the chocolate! I have eaten so much chocolate that it is amazing that I haven't turned into one major chocolate bar! I found a chocolate briochettte that is to die for...at of all places, Wal Mart! We stopped there briefly after my doctor's visit Friday and I got a second one to last me through the week. One of them lasts me four days so I should be good until we go to town on Wednesday...if nothing serious happens where I need more chocolate! Your talking about finding happy things is interesting because that is something that I am naturally looking for right now. I look for happy programs on television and of course working at the shop helps a lot too. Then one of my favorite things is shopping at Goodwill for things for my booth space at the shop. I have worked hard at keeping things happy, but yesterday was just too much for me. After all the poking, proding, pinching, and electrical shocking going to my burned out home site was bad enough but then finding the cat bones was just too much! I miss each of the little fiends like crazy, and Smudge was just coming around and letting me pet her and handle her...just a couple more weeks. But she's free now and not having to put up with a human again. I just hope she's happy where she is now. Ooops, time for more chocolate! I keep the serious chocolate in the storage room...I guess I won't be able to get past the chocolate bag this morning! I should invest in chocolate stock the way I'm eating it! As I just said to @JudyEv, I hope that Bill will get me a Siamese kitten for my birthday. It's coming up in 3 weeks and it would be the perfect gift that would take care of birthdays, Christmas's, Valentines days and so many more holidays for a long long time. Just to have that meow beside me when I work on the bears....come to think of it, that's probably one reason why it's so hard for me to work on bears right now. Simply because I don't have a cat sitting near by helping. Thank you so much for the love and hugs...they are much appreciated. Tons more back at you!
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• United States
24 Sep 18
@RasmaSandra It might end up being a "chocolate point" Siamese. He or she may end up being called "Chocolate Chip" or Chipper for short. It's interesting that you have a cat named Sid. Mom told me that she wanted to name me Sidney when I was born but my father threw a fit because he wanted me to have an "Italian" name, so I ended up with "Toni". I do still have Petey, and he knew that I needed someone close by yesterday. He spent several hours in the house napping. I found the fake fur blanket I had bought and made him a "nest" beside where I was working and he curled up in it and purred himself to sleep. Pretty soon he was snoring like a buzz saw! He finally decided to go outside around four in the afternoon after having his lunch. It was pretty good because he was inside from nine in the morning until four in the afternoon. I have a funny feeling that Bill and his daughter are looking for a Siamese kitten for me. Bill knows how miserable I am without my furry helpers, especially the exotic ones with the blue eyes. My birthday comes up in about 3 weeks so I'm hanging onto hope that maybe the feeling will come to actuality and I will find myself with a one pound bundle of furry trouble that I'll need to spend time training to be a "proper" kitty that doesn't destroy the house. I guess I should get my tail in gear and get to work on the list for the power company. It'll be nice to have that off my desk and off my mind. I'll celebrate when it goes in the mail with the return receipt required slip in my hand. I'm not too sure how I'll celebrate, but I'll think of something. Hug and kiss Sid for me....and if he likes it give him an extra shot of cat nip too. Hugs!
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@JudyEv (325758)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 Sep 18
This is so sad. But you are doing so well. It certainly seems that way to me and I'm sure to others so hang in there and hopefully things will gradually get a bit easier for you.
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@JudyEv (325758)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 Sep 18
@BearArtistLady I would hate to be having to do that claim. It must be a real nightmare.
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• United States
24 Sep 18
@JudyEv I'm not a paperwork person to start with, but this is a huge nightmare! I kept putting it off because I knew how detailed it would be. As I go through and edit it I come up with changes that have to be made, and additions that I forgot about. But it's like I tell people, get pictures of some sort whether they're video tape, photos, digital shots, whatever. Keep them stored someplace safe and make sure you have more than one set. There is no bigger nightmare than trying to remember what you had in the house. I was about finished when I started remembering things like my Great Great Grandmother's quilt that she brought here from Germany in the late 1800's. And then there are the old old family pictures that were destroyed along with the antique frames that they were in.... Having all that information on video or in pictures someplace safe would have made the job so much easier! And the other thing I tell people is that if they go for pictures on paper don't store them in a "fire proof" safe. As hot as the fire got in my home the pictures would have been reduced to ashes anyhow. The safe would be like an oven for the pictures. Well at least Wednesday is coming soon and all that work will be on it's way to the power company. I was told by someone who knows that the claim will be denied right away and I'll get to hire an attorney. Nothing like more stress! But at least it will be in someone else's hands and I don't have to spend the hours and hours doing all the work. Then Saturday is Bill's birthday party! I planned it to be a surprise but had to ditch the idea of a surprise when I realized that he had a doctor's appointment on the 28th and he planned not to be home again until the 1st or 2nd. I had to tell him to tell his daughter to cancel the appointment then had to tell him "WHY". At least we managed to keep it a surprise until a couple of weeks before the event. That's pretty good when you live with a retired cop! One saving grace about doing the claim is computers. I'm doing all the inventory on the Microsoft Office program so that it's easy to add items in the various rooms and also have a running balance of how much value was lost....oops I almost forgot the fence, spa, bbq....I guess I should get my tail to work! Tons of hugs!!!!
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• United States
23 Sep 18
You're right, I'm doing well hanging in there. It's that tenacitiy that I had to have as a kid to survive with the rotten brother I had. It's been great at keeping me strong through all this misery. I just felt so awful going down to the site that had been my happy home for so many years. Between that and getting over the pain from the injections and testing. The doctors take classes in laying with a straight face I'm sure! They said I'd be okay in a few hours, it's almost 7 a.m. Sunday morning and my neck is still swollen and I still hurt from the injection site. Today I'm going to try to get the paperwork done for the loss from the fire. I think a big part of my problem is the anger. I would feel totally different if the fire had been my fault and everything I lost was because of my stupidity. But as the fire marshal said, I'm too careful to do anything so stupid that it would set my house on fire. I have a list 10 pages long to submit to the power company and when I finish today it will be another 10 pages I'm sure. I'm remembering more family antiques that were destroyed that bring on more anger...like my Great Great Grandmother's hand made quilt that she brought over from Germany...it's priceless to me, how do you put a value on it for a claim? As much as I love living with Bill, I also miss being on my own. It's a hard adjustment, especially when I feel that I am sharing the house with him and his deceased wife. The house is filled with her presence, especially the room that I have my stuff stored in. Oh, and the other thing that drives me half nuts is he can't pass a scale! I swear every time we go into a place with a medical scale that man is on it! You talk about women being weight conscious!!!! We are headed towards an exam room and we're missing Bill...we look back and there he is on the scale!!!!!! We have to wait for him to catch up. He could compete for Miss America the way he watches his weight!!!! I keep hoping that he will relent and get me a Siamese kitten for my birthday. It would make my year!!! He could forget about Christmas, Valentines and all those other holidays and birthdays. You're so right though, I will survive. It was just that going down to the site of the fire had me reliving it all over again. Even though it's been nearly a year it is still an open wound that will take more time to heal. And toughing it out is the hardest part. But the biggest part of healing the wound is getting that claim into the power company and hopefully I'll get that done today so I can mail it on the 26th.
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@celticeagle (159023)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Sep 18
Sounds like you've had quite a time these last few days. Hope you found a happy tv show to watch and are feeling better. Have a great weekend.
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• United States
24 Sep 18
Hi! I haven't heard from you in quite awhile. I'm sure you've been busy! The past few days have been quite a trial. I may have to visit the local "witch" doctor again to see what's wrong with my left ankle. After all the tests and shots Friday my left ankle decided it wasn't going to support my weight without complaining loudly. So I've been staying off it as much as I can and working on the paperwork for the claim on the house and working on bears. As for happy tv shows, it's nearly impossible on the weekends. I did get to watch the old reruns of "The Lone Ranger" and "Roy Rogers". I remember them from when I was a little kid. There was also a Lone Ranger movie on yesterday that was pretty good too. Bill enjoys "Gunsmoke", which isn't one of my favorites since there is so much killing on it. But I put it on for him. Then we watched "Columbo" last night. What really helped was working on the teddy bears and also the paperwork for the power company claim. I always do much better if I manage to keep myself busy. OH, and then I returned the call to a lady that wants special order bears made for her for Christmas gifts. That really boosted my spirits. At least the pain of the past few days is easing off. Once I get to the point that my ankle moves without horrific pain things should start looking much much better. Also mailing the paperwork out to the power company for the claim on my "property loss" will get a LOT off my mind and help keep me from worrying and fretting about getting it finished. Once they deny the claim then I need to find an attorney who knows up from down and start the law suit against the power company. But I'm already starting to feel relieved with having the inventory almost finished. It was just having to force myself to go down and take those pictures of where my home had been...then finding the bones of one of the cats....I'm working at looking towards the future rather than what was. Here's hoping I can keep looking forward now.
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@celticeagle (159023)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Sep 18
@BearArtistLady ......It must be very relaxing working on the bears. And feel good to get things checked off your to do list.
• Pamplona, Spain
22 Sep 18
Hope they srot out the pain issue for you and so you can keep making your teddy bears also. I would go and relax now for a while and then work tomorrow.
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• Pamplona, Spain
24 Sep 18
@BearArtistLady Oh I remember I think you mentioned it before about your house and what happened to it and really hope that it all gets sorted out for you. I love Teddy Bears always have done even though I never had one being small. I did have a doll or two and would have adored a rag doll and a teddy bear in fact I would still love to. Stay strong and enjoy all the rest and away time you can have to relax you deserve it.
• United States
24 Sep 18
I'm the kind of person who will work through the pain when I can. If the pain is too intense then I will try to find something else to occupy my mind. Fortunately I haven't had the arthritis hit my fingers and they are agile enough to keep working on the bears. When I get the paperwork finished for the claim against the power company I will be working like crazy on the bears. I will be picking up a military uniform jacket for a special order for bears for Christmas presents. Then Bill (my boyfriend) and his family and I will be going to Disneyland for their Halloween party next month. Hopefully when we get home I'll be able to attack making the bears more full time. I cut out the miniature bears and package them in a tote bag to take along on trips to town and longer trips...I hand sew them so they're really handy to have along. The larger bears I sew on the sewing machine and I do those entirely in the house so I'm kind of stuck when it comes to getting those done. But the miniature bears are fun to make and great for keeping me busy on the long drives. I also use the miniature bears as a total mind occupier for periods of time like the past weekend. I totally focus on the bears and shut out the rest of the world which helps me get over the pain of memories and also the physical pain from the doctor's visit last Friday. Since it's Monday and I need to spend the next two days working on the paperwork, it's off to work and editing the list of the loss from the power company burning down my home. Thank you for the wonderful response to my discussion!
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@sallypup (57869)
• Centralia, Washington
22 Sep 18
Oh dear. You sure had a heavy two days. You are so very strong. I can not stand the sight or thought of needles near me. You've lost so much. So very much. Please keep seeking ways to honor that loss. Part of your heart was ripped away so of course you grieve. Know again that I care. You love deeply and you are a good person. I mourn with you though I'm not there. Hugs.
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