Why Was I Never Told?
By Angie
@andriaperry (116860)
Anniston, Alabama
September 22, 2018 8:42pm CST
I went to walmart today and I seen my sister in law there, she told me that my brother has melanoma skin cancer and about his treatment.
I let her know that our sister has had melanoma twice. I added this maybe hereditary and she said it is, your mother died from it.
WHAT?
She told me that he said she had a mole on her back and it was melanoma, well I remember that mole and I remember it being cancer, but I thought she had breast cancer and that was what killed her, she said she did but it came from the melanoma.
I reckon I never asked the older siblings the right questions growing up. This brother is 9 years old and I have a sister than is 14 years older than me. They never told me and Now I have to call my little sister to tell her because we always listed she died of breast cancer.
Have you ever had anything like this happen?
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@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
23 Sep 18
you are right things like this should be known to family if this is hereditary or in the genes. So that you will know the symptoms or you will know what you should avoid things like that
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@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
24 Sep 18
@andriaperry true, then now you know you can make all the necessary actions to avoid it.
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Sep 18
How about that?! You never know.
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@wolfgirl569 (95015)
• Marion, Ohio
23 Sep 18
It is understandable if you were on the younger side when she passed. But it would be better for your medical records to change it. They then know that it could be hereditary and to test for it sooner if needed.
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@RasmaSandra (73326)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Sep 18
First time I have heard of such confusion. Hope you get it straightened out. I am trying to figure your family out you are saying that you have a brother who is 9 years older than you, a sister who is 14 years older than you, then there is you and a sister how much younger than you?
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@TheHorse (205553)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Sep 18
@andriaperry That's a tough age to lose a parent.
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@1creekgirl (40488)
• United States
23 Sep 18
I'm sure that was quite a shock to you. Hopefully you can get it straightened out on your family history medical records.
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@TheHorse (205553)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Sep 18
@andriaperry Why is that?
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@TheHorse (205553)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Sep 18
@andriaperry No friendly Aunts or Uncles who liked to keep the family history alive?
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
24 Sep 18
I know nothing about my people.
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@popciclecold (35078)
• United States
24 Sep 18
I am really sorry to hear that, but I am glad you found it out.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
23 Sep 18
Yes, there have been situations when I learned that something was quite different than I had been led to believe. 
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@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
24 Sep 18
@andriaperry yes they had, may be they did not want you to get disturbed by knowing it.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
24 Sep 18
But they had 41 years to tell me
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
25 Sep 18
No. But some people in the neighborhood told the kids that their father left abroad but the truth was he was killed.
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@LadyDuck (457832)
• Switzerland
24 Sep 18
@andriaperry This is true, when we are kids we cannot know what causes some problems.
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Sep 18
I knew about the lumps under her arms, when she found the first one she asked us if we felt it, we did but we were little and didn`t know what cancer was.
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@JudyEv (325584)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 Sep 18
@andriaperry That sounds a good idea. At least you'd have it all then.
@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Sep 18
I`m thinking about buying a copy of her records if possible.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Sep 18
@andriaperry
Oh, maybe they are not sure about it that is why they didn't let you know.
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@CarolDM (203454)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Sep 18
@andriaperry Indeed it is, life throws us curve balls when we are not looking.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
23 Sep 18
Strange that you heard about it for the first time after so many years.
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
24 Sep 18
as long as you get correct story. Family history is important.
@Srbageldog (7716)
• United States
23 Sep 18
That must have been a huge shock. I can't recall anything like that ever happening to me, although I never knew what autoimmune disease my grandma had (which eventually killed her due to kidney failure) until I was older.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Sep 18
My little sister has lupus and she has her kidney function tested often, her sodium too.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Sep 18
OMG! that is way worst than my situation.
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