When the queen is not around.
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
September 22, 2018 11:33pm CST
I kind of like the feeling when Mother is not around.
I cannot hear her annoying voice.
My Brothers feel the same way too.
No one is shouting, no will bother to mandate them.
My youngest Brother calls her The Queen because she always demands and commands to do everything even if it's just near her.
When all she does is sit the whole day outside our house, gathering info to gossips around and demands.
I hope she comes home later tonight.
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11 responses
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
23 Sep 18
Why do you say this to your mother? You dont know how it feels to lose a mother.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Sep 18
I guess you did not know about her. I have some discussions about her.
But I will tell you why.
We are not in a good relationship with my Mother, ever since she hated me.
When I got sick and almost die, she was the one who was not around during my struggle, she was out somewhere and when a friend of mine convinced her that I should I have a dialysis, she said she doesn't want to and that I would rather die. Now, tell me, is that how a Mother should think?
When I was 15 years old, I caught her coming home very late and drunk. I told her that a Mother should attend to her kids, but instead, she throws a hard thing in my face that I almost lost an eye. And she didn't even bother to have me treated. Until now I still have the scar in my face. And when she thought that I will be a hindrance to her life, she gave me away to my Father's Aunt. I finished my studies but my siblings are not.
My Brothers are living a messy kind of life and none of them finish high school. They are becoming lost boys because of her irresponsibility and selfishness, she becomes an adulterous woman. We even had a step Brother.
She is a good liar, a gossiper and she is a bad person.
My siblings hate her but then respect her. While me, she gets jealous of me and hates me.
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
24 Sep 18
@JustBhem then why stay with her. I am just asking these questions not to judge you ok I hope you will not find my questions offensive. I lost my mother and I miss her so much.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep 18
@Mavic123456
I'm sick, the boyfriend is working. We don't have enough funds for me to live alone.
Before I was living with the boyfriend in our rented room, when I got sick I need someone to watch over me while the boyfriend is working. When I move back here, Father was here, so I thought it is time for me to come back because I was long gone and at least before I die, I'm with my Family.
But later on, Father move out because Mother nags every day and always ask for money. Father that time was trying to fix his Family too by finding a decent job. But Mother was too bad she cannot wait. That time she has her own small business so I know we can still eat plus some of my siblings are working. Father just needed more time but Mother was too hasty.
I wanted to leave this house, but I'm thinking if I leave who will defend my Brothers who from the start was abandoned by my Mother. Who will love them? Even if we have a love-hate relationship with my siblings, I love them and they love me. They are the one who takes care of me.
And I always pray for her to change and ask forgiveness from all the wrongdoing she made in the past, but Mother is still the hardest.
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep 18
@LeaPea2417 Me too. I've been always praying.
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@Morleyhunt (21736)
• Canada
23 Sep 18
So sorry this is your relationship with your mother. I didn't have the greatest relationship, but at least it seemed a bit better than yours.
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@Morleyhunt (21736)
• Canada
23 Sep 18
@JustBhem somehow it doesn't seem appropriate to hit the like button, but I feel for you...I read recently on Facebook that a mother's voice is the most soothing sound we can hear. I wondered how people would respond to that....many agreed.....many, like me.....said no....their mothers pushed their blood pressure up and caused them great distress.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Sep 18
@Morleyhunt
Then just recently that my Aunt, my Father's sister told me that my Mother is not the one who takes care of me when I was still a baby, it was my other Aunt, my Father's eldest sister. Mother was too scared to have her responsibility, maybe she is not yet ready when I was born.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
23 Sep 18
but still after all, she is your mother.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
26 Sep 18
@JustBhem i think you can recall a user who also has a mother who left her here in our country. good for you because your mother's presence is still here and you can see her, than if she is living far away from you.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Sep 18
I am so glad I had good parents.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
23 Sep 18
I read from your reply below the reason why you don't like your mother; I just wonder why she is like that to her children, and to you who is sick!
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
23 Sep 18
@JustBhem so sad to know about this. Maybe she should not get into motherhood if she didn't like her children; or maybe she is suffering from some kind of depression.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep 18
@acelawrites
How I would like to think that way Ace, I can easily understand it but she is not. If she was, she wouldn't commit adultery, right?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Sep 18
I don't know, sometimes I wonder if I'm her real daughter.
Ever since when I was a child, I never seen her very sweet for me.
She always gets jealous if Father will buy me new things for school, new shoes.
Sometimes Father will sneak around at school to fetch me because she does not want my Mother to know about it. I don't even remember she did buy me toys and clothes. She always yells at me if I did a little wrong. I was a good kid and did very well at school. Whenever I ask her to attend the PTA meeting, she will not come.
When I was confined in the hospital, friends and relatives gave me money, she gets jealous then she stole our money, supposedly the money is needed to buy some medicines I need during my confinement. I was crying during those times.
She is very hard on us, not only to me but to my other siblings too. She wants my siblings to hand her money all the time when in fact she didn't do her responsibilities as a Mother.
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