What to do with toxic people here in myLot?

@JustBhem (42788)
Davao, Philippines
September 23, 2018 10:09pm CST
I thought toxic people are only outside myLot. But I was wrong, there are also toxic people here. I made a list but I won't tag them here. At first, I really like them because of there honest remarks on their discussion and of mine. After a series of interaction, I found out that some of them become someone I don't know. Some of them become sarcastic, too honest that sometimes will hurt your feelings, too proud and the one that I irk so much is, she is mean. As I've said before, I'm not that kind of person who blocks people here because though they are mean, I want them to feel that I'm not affected. That I still consider them as part of myLot. I know for some I'm toxic as well. But at least I'm honest enough to open up my opinion and I do the same with them. What to do with toxic people? Never interact with them anymore?
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@LadyDuck (175633)
• Switzerland
24 Sep
I do not interact with toxic people. If they type offending comments I report, if not I forget about them.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
Some of them are offensive but that's their opinion.
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• Philippines
25 Sep
I do the same. I just ignore them. If they're being mean to me directly, I still try to answer them without being mean. I'm not easily offended anymore as I've been chatting online with people of different cultures since 1995. LOL.
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@LadyDuck (175633)
• Switzerland
25 Sep
@JustBhem You know that offend other users is against the rules here, you can report.
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@Kandae11 (40370)
24 Sep
I have said this before and I will mention it again. You won't find a gathering of saints at mylot and other similar sites. The people you find here are the same people you would normally meet as you go about your daily life. Whether, at home ,work or play. In business, hospitals, school,travel, the markets, university, church. People are people everywhere.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
I believe that.
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@db20747 (9375)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
24 Sep
That is true!!! Sometimes U R like, Where the heck did that come from!!!
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@cacay1 (33203)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
27 Sep
@Kandae11 , yes, they ar everything and anywhere.
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@just4him (126824)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Sep
I only know one toxic person here and when I see a comment from that person, I delete it. I have never blocked anyone intentionally. I did find I had blocked someone accidentally, but I got that straightened out.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
That's a good idea. But for sure they will know that I deleted them.
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• Philippines
25 Sep
That's happened to me too, Valerie. I've blocked someone accidentally. Good thing there's an option to unblock.
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@just4him (126824)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
25 Sep
@almostoveryou I'm glad too. I don't need to make enemies out of friends.
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@JudyEv (134359)
• Bunbury, Australia
24 Sep
Thankfully I don't seem to have run into any toxic people but then I always try to avoid any confrontations with anyone.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
Me too, but some of their responses are below the belt.
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@JudyEv (134359)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Sep
@JustBhem It is a shame this happens.
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@id_peace (7635)
• Singapore
25 Sep
You are so lucky
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@Starmaiden (7641)
• Canada
24 Sep
I just ignore them. Drama queens and kings do not rule my roost on mylot or in my personal life. That's how I like it.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
Yay. I like it. You go girl. Thanks.
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• United States
27 Sep
pssst @StarMaiden some of us drama queens are not actually toxic just irritating to those who have a mindset that is high fallooting like my sis can sometimes when she riles me up and drama spills . . .
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• Canada
27 Sep
@enlightenedpsych2 The trick is to not react when she wants one from you. Let her drama be her own.
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@andriaperry (58351)
• United States
24 Sep
I hope I have never been mean to you, that is never my intention.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
I am sure you are not. Nothing to worry about.
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@sharon6345 (137739)
• United States
24 Sep
I can't imagine you being that way.
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@hxrsha (100)
24 Sep
There's also some people on here that talk in a superior manner just because they've been around longer. I find that extremely condescending. Thankfully, for the most part, I have found people to be kind and approachable here :)
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
And I feel you. Though I've been here for 2 years and so, there are still members who are superior.
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@Janet357 (2883)
25 Sep
Agree.
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@DianneN (84978)
• United States
24 Sep
I never interact with toxic people, especially oddballs who are jealous, boring, mean spirited, and copycats by word or deed. I don’t follow them and never read their discussions or comments if I’m unlucky enough to come across them. I know they read my discussions and visit my friends. It’s a joke with several of my friends here.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
Yes, they are jealous and mean-spirited. Well, I let them be around and I will just ignore them, at least I have my list.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
@DianneN You have a point there Miss D, yes. Thank God we didn't see them in person.
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@TheHorse (72210)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Sep
@DianneN Ponies? I'm hurt! Oh, phonies!
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@Morleyhunt (20693)
• Canada
24 Sep
I read things that catch my eye....I comment when and where it seems appropriate. I've learned that some Mylotters don't really want your honest opinion....they just want a pat on the back and a "poor you" comment, I've learned who to avoid. I've probably (know I have) been blocked by some.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
And I agree with you.
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@TheHorse (72210)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Sep
I haven't met that many truly toxic (to me) people on MyLot. You know that I get a bit frustrated by those who seem to be here only for the pennies.
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24 Sep
I think it's important to remember that the written word can be very easy to misinterpret. You don't get to hear *how* something is said. An innocent question or comment can be misconstrued, especially when English is not your first language. And - of course - there are some genuinely toxic people who just like being mean!
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
And I believe that. Maybe some of them I misunderstood but there is also mean people here.
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25 Sep
@JustBhem I agree. I just hope I'm not one of them!
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@RasmaSandra (19615)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Sep
I haven't met anyone here and that is good but if you say there are such people here and you do not want to block them then just ignore them. Do not read their posts and pretend they are not here.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
That is what I'm doing now. I just let them around.
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@akalinus (21080)
• United States
25 Sep
There was a troll who is now gone. He was toxic. There is another guy here that really scorches my socks. I don't interact with him anymore. He could make a lot of cash here with his subject matter but chooses to dump on people. I wish him the best but I just read his posts and don't react.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Sep
I think I know that someone. It's like he is only thinking of himself. No interaction coming from him or if there was only says thank you, my friend and nothing else.
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@akalinus (21080)
• United States
26 Sep
@JustBhem I don't want to get embroiled in senseless arguments with someone who is a total opposite of everything I believe in. I will just pass them by.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Sep
@akalinus That's cool. Sometimes I get easily irritated. But I can still manage after.
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@sharon6345 (137739)
• United States
24 Sep
I have to say I am happy not to be in need of blocking at the moment. I had to in order to just stop the comments. I am now moving on from two other people. Not all at once just a little each week. I am fine with honestly. Just not tacky judgments from people that nasty. I am not saying anything just moving on little by little. I can't imagine any site being perfect.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
I see. And you are doing great Shay. I like you because you are so honest with me.
@sharon6345 (137739)
• United States
24 Sep
@JustBhem I am hoping to always be that way. Thank you.
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@db20747 (9375)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
24 Sep
I just bombed out about text speak!! Was told it is uneducated or something 2 that effect!!! Guess people get agitated about lotsa things!!!!
@BelleStarr (39654)
• United States
24 Sep
I don't blame you, I don't usually block people either but if someone was intentionally mean I certainly would be tempted to. Life is just too short to let strangers hurt you.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
Life is too short to let strangers hurt you. I like this. Thanks for sharing.
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@kepweng (18505)
• Waikoloa, Hawaii
24 Sep
i BLOCK Only 1 person here cause shes rude so mean Always Looking at me like shes Spying at me
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
That's mean. Maybe she was full of herself.
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@kepweng (18505)
• Waikoloa, Hawaii
24 Sep
@JustBhem shes Already Older like in her 50s and 60s
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
@kepweng So she is a senior, no wonder.
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@januar1986 (1342)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
25 Sep
You can block them. There are many toxic people here. They would be bothered when you know something.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Sep
Yes. I think I can just ignore them.
@Janet357 (2883)
25 Sep
Jealous they Re of you
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• Jakarta, Indonesia
25 Sep
@Janet357 You probably one of them. I don't know.
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@DWDavis (14048)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
25 Sep
I am not as tolerant as you and I will block someone who is behaving in an obnoxious or offensive way towards me or others.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Sep
How I wish I can do that, blocking anyone who is rude.
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@DWDavis (14048)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
25 Sep
@JustBhem I think you should. No one should abide being treated rudely in a place or on a site they visit in search of friendly interaction.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Sep
@DWDavis I will try but sometimes whenever I think about it, it makes me sad because I don't want them to feel how it is to feel being block by someone.
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@GardenGerty (102457)
• United States
24 Sep
Toxic people become invisible to me. If they make remarks that are violations, I report them. If they are just ignorant and rude but cannot be reported, I leave their comments alone so that the rest of the myLot world can see their true colors. They kill their own reputation.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Sep
I think I can do that. Thanks for sharing this.
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@GardenGerty (102457)
• United States
24 Sep
@JustBhem So sorry you run into some difficult people.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Sep
@GardenGerty Yes, for quite some time now.
• United States
25 Sep
Just ignore them. Some may be offensive perhaps they are having a bad day and when they come across somebody's discussion they look into that discussion and come out arguing or offending the host. What you are doing is right, not block just ignoring the person and like what Anna@LadyDuck said, you can report them. Nobody has the right to be mean during discussions. If they don't like the discussion, they can leave because nobody is obliged to answer all discussions. If they can't say anyhting nice better to stay quiet and move on to another topic. That easy.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Sep
I agree with you, I will just let them around and ignore them. Thanks.
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@allknowing (69325)
• India
24 Sep
This is a virtual world. There are many here who do not understand English and this is the main reason for such interactions. I used to get upset before but not any more There is plenty of fish in the ocean. Just pick the ones that make you comfortable.
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@JustBhem (42788)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Sep
I do get it now. Sometimes misunderstanding causes so much trouble.
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