Sometimes women do not have a case

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There has been a lot of resentment against the men and their sexual bad behavior. In India, the latest is Tanushree accusing Nana Patekar. Naturally, I do not know the facts of the case. Apparently, Mr. Patekar held her hand to teach her how to dance and touched her inappropriately. Yes, it is not Mr. Patekar's job and is not expected of him. He should not have done it. And IF HE HAS TOUCHED HER INAPPROPRIATELY, HE IS WRONG. But I feel, in this case, Tanushree did not take the right step in time. I am not saying 10 odd years ago, she should have come out with it. No...back then people would not have supported her and made her feel ashamed of herself. Now, people are more understanding what with increased number of crimes against women. So that would not be the question I would raise. But I would certainly ask her, Madam, the dress that you wore in that sequence with choreographer, would you have traveled in Buses or local trains in that dress? Do you wear it at beaches? What about malls? What about dancing...do you dance like that in beaches, or malls or bars? If not, why not? You have a fan following they would copy your style. Why is it that they do not copy this style of yours? Is it because you expect some misbehavior in such dress and with such dances? If so, why did you not expect similar behavior in work sphere? If somebody had bottom pinched you in bus or train, you would not have been able to identify him. Would you still have been under depression? The time to say no was when dress was shown. The time to say no was when choreographer was showing awkward movement. Parents need to tell children what can be ok, and what is not. They want to be broad minded with some part, and not broad minded with other part, it does not work. I am not saying wear traditional clothes and be covered from head to toe. I am saying wear practical things, that suit you, and keep you protected from climate as well as help you in emergencies to run as fast as you can, or kick easily. I also do not agree with the statement that there is nothing wrong with the clothes, it is something wrong with the thinking. That supports fashion designers. If the clothes are not designed for practical usage, time we made fashion designers feel stupid. If we compare how men dress and how women dress, invariably it is women who are trying to expose some part of their bodies. Why is it so? If we are equals, we are at equal risk, right? If we choose to wear clothes that titillate others, how can we blame them? Our intentions were naughty! Time up for the bluff. Women are not innocent in all cases. Ignorant and not mature, I will agree. But innocent... if declared innocent in this case, I would understand why men are resenting women in this country. Let us not make it a gender war.