I'm already over my brother coming back and he's not here yet.

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I'm pretty much on the verge of going crazy here lately. My mom is yet again catering to my brother who isn't even here yet. I am so tired of having to hide everything and put things where she thinks he won't find them because he can't be trusted. She expects us to go out of our way for him and I'm over it. My son is selling boy scout popcorn and my mom wants us to put all of the boxes in our room so he won't eat it and I have zero room in my bedroom because it's already full of other stuff. I told her that and she told me that maybe I should be rearranging it then because if he gets into it it's on me then. I about lost it. I had to keep my mouth shut because I am just not in a mood to argue and deal with her. If he eats it knowing we have to return what we don't sell that isn't on ME that's on HIM and possibly HER. She invited him in knowing what he has done and will continue to do and said that if he eats everything it's on me. That ticks me off. I am so sick of catering to who should be a felon. The fact that he's not proves the justice system is not what it should be. My brother needs help and refuses to get it. He is going to come back here and do exactly what he did and I'm so tired of it all. I would love to move but can't afford to because all of my money is going to bills and now will be going to food since I'll have to replace it since my brother eats 24/7 and always goes after my food despite marking it. My mom won't let us tell him to not touch it because he'll throw a tantrum and she doesn't want to deal with it. If I had another place to go I'd gladly tell him my opinion of him. I'm currently looking into a job and plan to try and get some money together. Unfortunately, my credit is bad after some issues I've had in the past so I'm going to have a fun time finding a place. I'm working on some stuff trying to get everything taken care of. If we move and stop paying rent my mom won't be able to afford this place and my brother would end up being homeless anyway since no one else would take him in but that doesn't seem to click with her. It's not even a matter of him staying here. If he were serious about getting better I'd be the first person to step up and help but all he does is use us. He has no respect for anyone's stuff. He eats us out of house and home. He throws tantrums when he doesn't get his way and honestly I don't know what he's capable of. If he stayed rent free that wouldn't bother me if he was at least buying his own food and personal supplies but he doesn't even do that. He eats like a horse and doesn't pay for any of the food. He uses our personal hygiene products. He killed my last razor and didn't ask to touch any of it. He just used it. He has no money so that means he can't buy his chew and then he throws a tantrum when my mom won't buy it for him so she gives in and buys it after telling him she won't and he KNOWS he can control her. I just want him out of my life until he can grow up and realize he has a problem. I shouldn't be forced to help enable him and yet I am. I am expected to pay half of the rent here meaning I have no way to put back money to move out and he gets to pay nothing and gets to have everything bought for him. He won't do anything to help his situation either like going to get help. He was court ordered to do stuff and then flatly refused and went back to jail. He just doesn't care. I honestly hope that during one of those bus stops he gets off and makes a run for it. Of course, my family would hate me for saying that. It's not that I hate my brother I just don't like him. I love him but I don't like him. I don't want to see him dead or in a ton of pain but until he's ready to get help I want nothing to do with him. I'm over helping him. He's had enough help and their enabling is going to keep him from getting it. He's never going to change. If something happens to my mother he will be out on the street because no one else is willing to step up and I guarantee I won't. If I can find my own place he won't even know where it is. If I could become more self-reliant I would probably disown my family for a while until they are ready to see reason.