What do you call for a girl who messaging a guy first?
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
October 17, 2018 6:54pm CST
I don't know how I feel at this very moment.
I have palpitation plus a headache is troubling me.
But this is not about me, this is about the boyfriend.
Last night, I check his messenger as I always do before going to bed.
I know he does the same for me.
Unfortunately, I was surprised by the changing words between him and someone and it is a girl. This is the first time that he replied to a conversation.
I confronted the boyfriend about it, and he said he has no intention. But the thought that the girl was the one who messages first is somewhat bad feeling for me. And as the girlfriend, I need to stop it first or else.
Ever this happened to you with your husband/partner/boyfriend?
Mood today: 
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12 responses
@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
18 Oct 18
@JustBhem We are married from 48 years and the secret to be happy is to trust the other. I would get mad should my husband look at my phone. I have nothing to hide, but this would be a sign that he want to check what I do and I could not accept this.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
18 Oct 18
Well I understand your worries of course but it could be nothing at all. I think there are only two ways this could go either he is guilty or he is innocent in his actions. If he is guilty now that you found out he may go underground and hide further so that you will not discover this again. If he is not, you only have to monitor him if he does this again.
As for the girl's intention we would never know unless you confront her and ask her.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
18 Oct 18
No, never happened to me.
But I am not the jealous type and I never check his phone or any of that. If a man wants you he will stay no matter who he talks to, but someone nagging and being jealous all the time will surely run him off.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
18 Oct 18
@sharon6345 I hate it so I would not do what I hate to another.
@Kasjnak (4492)
• Romania
18 Oct 18
Well, I don't check my wife's facebook or mails, but she used to check mine 
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Dunno what to say about your situation. Sometimes I get messages from girls on facebook, but I don't care much about those. I always tell my wife: it doesn't matter what other persons do, what I do is important. As long as she can trust me, this kind of things are meaningless.
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Dunno what to say about your situation. Sometimes I get messages from girls on facebook, but I don't care much about those. I always tell my wife: it doesn't matter what other persons do, what I do is important. As long as she can trust me, this kind of things are meaningless.1 person likes this
@Kasjnak (4492)
• Romania
18 Oct 18
@JustBhem well, why he answered to this one, what was different? That should be the question. But if you want some true answers, you should never try to interrogate him. Ask him, yes, but don't put him in a defensive position. Nobody likes that and you may get the wrong answers.
If I were you, I would mention this to him, joke about it and check his reaction. The right answer should be: "It's nothing, but if it bothers you then I'll never reply again". Or something like that.
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@Letranknight2015 (51513)
• Philippines
18 Oct 18
I understand you're fear is starting to surge in. My thoughts were is that that girl has an agenda on him.
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@MarshaMusselman (38652)
• Midland, Michigan
18 Oct 18
I don't read my husband's emails nor messages. A gal at work and him used to hang out but she was interested in women at the time and after being friends with him switched back to only seeing men possibly for the first time in her life.
I have no problem with girls or women making the first move but if they know the guys are already with someone they shouldn't initiate any conversations.
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@Poppylicious (11133)
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18 Oct 18
If you trust him then there's nothing to worry about. I'd be more concerned if he had messaged her first. And the fact he didn't delete it has to be a good thing, no?
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
20 Oct 18
i know you trust your boyfriend much. but i think you don't trudt that lady.
''i trust you but i don't trust that girl''. hahaha. that is reality. even my son when he drives, i say " i trust you but i don't trust the other motorists''.
