I Am Happy , He Isn’t Irritable Anymore

@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
October 29, 2018 4:03am CST
My hubby during the more than 5 months that he has no job, was always irritable. This attitude would sometimes get into my nerve, so I would quarrel him about it. Though sometimes , I try to understand him. But aside from that , having no job yet, and waiting for any of the applications he submitted to different companies to be answered , he is just at home and does the cooking of our main meals, to which I am openly happy. He cooks deliciously and I , being a foodie, likes that, especially when I arrive tired from work, at night. He likes it when I tell him at the dining table, that his dish is delicious and also when the two of us eat out sometimes, my treat of course. Thus 3 weeks ago, when another courier company who hired him, finally called again & agreed to a higher salary he asked since he will be the operations supervisor and will be visiting other branches , he was ecstatic. He is now working with them and is now in a happy disposition always. I am happy for him that he has a new job now. I know where his being irritable was coming from, before. Although, I miss the nice dishes he cooks. What makes your partner/ hubby irritable? What do you do when he/she is in that mood? Note : picture if from google
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@simplfred (20608)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
I'm glad that your hubby is working again. I think my wife easily gets irritated when I give her less money. Ha ha.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
Of course, she will feel like that.
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@simplfred (20608)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
@SIMPLYD Seems irritation works for all wife, if the case happen. Ha ha.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
@simplfred Sure na sure! But when my hubby has no job, I don't feel irritated, because anyway I have money of my own.
@flapiz (22402)
• United Kingdom
29 Oct 18
Hi D! I can fully empathise with your husband’s irritability for being jobless. When I had to go home to the Philippines cause my visa expired and I had to leave a job I was good at, I felt so useless and crippled. I also became irritable towards my folks. I think a great part of it comes from my broken pride. I’m glad your husband has found a good job and is back on his feet.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
Yes, I understand so well where his irritability was coming during those days. So, you too have experienced that. Refresh my mind please, aren't you back yet to Australia?
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@flapiz (22402)
• United Kingdom
29 Oct 18
@SIMPLYD Nope I’m still in the Philippines. I’m in Cebu instead of Bohol as I’m doing my IELTS review. Glad you’re very patient and understanding towards your husband.
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@flapiz (22402)
• United Kingdom
29 Oct 18
@SIMPLYD Well he is lucky he have you as a wife. Bless you both.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
29 Oct 18
A good man needs to work. It is hard for him to be happy with no job. Glad he's working again. Maybe he could cook a bit on the weekend.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
I agree. Yes, he sometimes cook on Sundays.
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
30 Oct 18
It was natural for your husband to lose his cool. Happy that all is well now but sad that you no longer get to taste food cooked by him (lol)
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
Yes, that's why I have to really be understanding, but sometimes when it gets too often, I have to stop him by speaking up my annoyance. He stops for some days but he can't control it with others in the house.
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@sofssu (23662)
17 Nov 18
Congrats.. I am happy for both of you. Now you can treat each other to a good meal outside. My hubby is very sweet .. doesn't get angry.. only my younger son sometimes makes him angry.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
18 Nov 18
Wow you are lucky because your husband doesn gt angry with you, unlike with my husband
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Nov 18
@sofssu Yes, I know that. Good thing, he has a job now.
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@sofssu (23662)
18 Nov 18
@SIMPLYD True, I am blessed. But in your case I guess that is the natural frustration of a man not being able to earn and provide.
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@just4him (305350)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Oct 18
I'm happy he has a job again and isn't irritable any longer. Having a job makes a huge difference in one's disposition.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
Yes, that is very true. When a man has a job, his ego is boosted.
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@just4him (305350)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Nov 18
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@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
7 Nov 18
Oh well I guess its very hard for a man to just stay at home while the wife does the working. It may be one of the hardest thing to swallow while waiting for a new one. Glad that you were able to ride on his mood swings because that is just I believe temporary while he looks for that job.
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@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
7 Nov 18
@SIMPLYD Yes, it is indeed. I could tolerate it if the wife earns bigger than me for as long as I have my own job. But depending on my wife alone for financial support is really heavy feeling inside.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Nov 18
@rsa101 Yes, I know.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Nov 18
I understand how he feels so I was so patient with him. I know how it feels for a man with no job and it's the wife who is working.
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• China
5 Nov 18
Congratulate your husband on finding his niche as an operations supervisor ! I relate to your husband. I don't know how a man there thinks of losing job,here some would think that they live on women if they are out of a job.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
5 Nov 18
Yes, i congratulated him for rhat. I knwo that he feels that way indeed when he was out of job. But i assured him i don't think less of him as a husband.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Nov 18
@changjiangzhibin89 Yes, i know.
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• China
6 Nov 18
@SIMPLYD I know you definitely treat him as used to,but he can't help thinking so.
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@wolfgirl569 (94703)
• Marion, Ohio
29 Oct 18
I ignore hubby when he is like that. But he is retired so he has no excuse.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
Really. But I suppose , it is seldom that he is like that. Sometimes, our hubbies has their moods too, just like us of course.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
@wolfgirl569 At least he makes up for those times.
@wolfgirl569 (94703)
• Marion, Ohio
30 Oct 18
@SIMPLYD It isnt often. But he makes up for that when he is lol
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
1 Nov 18
I am so happy that your husband has a job. That would definitely make anyone irritable. My husband has an even disposition. Nothing ever changes his mood. I think that's his personality and in his genes.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
2 Nov 18
Wow, that is so nice. You are lucky to have a husband who always have a happy disposition.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Nov 18
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
6 Nov 18
@SIMPLYD He is the best! Love him to bits. lol
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
This time, I think it will be you who will be irritable because when you arrive home tired from work, there's no dinner waiting because your husband is late from work :)
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
The helper cooks our meals again. Hubby has taught him some menus and I also instruct him what to cook for lunch and dinner. He can cook delicious ones now also. Hubby cooks on Sundays or sometimes me.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
@SIMPLYD One of these days, he will cook you :)
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@anya12adwi (6029)
• India
29 Oct 18
Yes, sometimes the active persons get irritated when they stay idle for long.. And some people, or most of them too get irritated when don't have rest..
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Oct 18
@anya12adwi I am too.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
That is very true. Everyone has their own things or manners that can irritate them indeed.
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• India
30 Oct 18
@SIMPLYD Yes.. I am glad that his mind will be occupied now..
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@porwest (78761)
• United States
8 Nov 18
I am glad he had a new job. Being unemployed is surely no fun. But it does provide a life's lesson. NEVER EVER expect you will have a paycheck. Live your life, and save your money as though you will NOT have a paycheck and life will be so much better when it doles out a surprise.
Never, ever, EVER rely on simply a paycheck to pay your way through life. If you do this, you will surely wind up at the end of the road broke. It's not a...
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
8 Nov 18
Yes, that's what he wasn't able to do. When he was offered an early retirement plan, he invested most of his money in the buy and sell of used cars. It takes quite sometimes for the used cars to be sold. He also keeps improving them so much so that he ended spending a lot and when they were sold they were of little profit only. He also invested in another business., That too didn't make money. He was hired for jobs one after another because he didn't like those jobs , where he is a clerk not the team head anymore. My prayer was answered when finally he has this latest job where he is an officer. He likes it and i keep praying he will have it until he reaches his mandatory retirement.,
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Nov 18
@porwest Yes, he did them head on without thinking if it will prosper or give him sure income.
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@porwest (78761)
• United States
8 Nov 18
@SIMPLYD When one invests in anything one needs to have a strong bit of knowledge about what it is he or she is investing in, otherwise you are sure to lose your money chasing some dream. I hope he gets it right and figures it out and comes out ahead in the end. But seems like he might be blindly chasing dreams rather than actually researching where he is putting his money, and that could be a problem.
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@septabchips (1142)
• Nigeria
29 Oct 18
Glad to know that your husband now has a new job. Congratulations to him. Its also good to know that you were supportive and understanding in his down period.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
Thank you. As his wife, i should be always supportive to.my husband. It is at that point in life where understanding and support is very much needed by a husband going through this phase.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
@septabchips Thank you.
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• Nigeria
29 Oct 18
@SIMPLYD Please keep it up!
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@LadyDuck (457312)
• Switzerland
29 Oct 18
My husband has a pretty bad temper, his clients sometimes get on his nerves. Computer problems also get on his nerves. I have the habit, we started to work together before we got married. I keep quiet, say nothing, until he is quiet.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Oct 18
Really , he is that too. I am like that too sometimes, specially when it comes to computer. Indeed when one is angry, we should just keep quiet. As wives, we know when to be just quiet.
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@LadyDuck (457312)
• Switzerland
29 Oct 18
@SIMPLYD Work sometimes may be exhausting, I know when it's better that I keep quiet.
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@Shiva49 (26187)
• Singapore
31 Oct 18
I am retired and no longer looking for a job though, at times, I feel I should do something. My wife worked parttime but she has also given up on jobs. We agree to disagree but mostly have common interests - siva
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
1 Nov 18
That's good to know. At least, you have each other to e joy things together.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
2 Nov 18
Oh yes a man out of work is no fun omg
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Nov 18
That is becaus3 their ego is deflated. So, we really have to be so understanding and loving despite him being irritable.
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@meganjaxt (190)
29 Oct 18
To me, I believe what makes a perfect union is being there for the other in times of need. I know he will love you more because you never nagged at him when he was jobless. I believe, he will be finding time when he is off duty or on Sunday if he doesn't go to work to cook your favorites.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
Yes, I absolutely agree. The wife or any partner should be supportive to their partners when they are in their down times. As to my husband, it is when he was jobless. Indeed, on Sundays, when he has no work, he sometimes cook when he sees me busy with cleaning. Though, sometimes he asks me to cook. I take that as missing my cooking.
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
Hooray, congratulations to your husband! Well, my partner tends to be irritable when I am not in the mood. He hates it when I am being cranky and overly sensitive, sometimes.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
So you cause his irritation, And when he gets irriated with you, what do you do?
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• Philippines
30 Oct 18
@SIMPLYD I get more irritated. Kidding aside I just stay quiet
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@debjani1 (7207)
29 Oct 18
Congratulations to your hubby for new job. Ask him to prepare food only once in a week.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Oct 18
Yes, I let him on SUndays. Although, sometimes he asks that I cook. He also misses my cooking.