RIP Helen

@akalinus (40322)
United States
October 31, 2018 2:26pm CST
I lost one of my best friends last night. We have a long history together. We met in NY when our kids were little and have been friends for these many years. We had many zany adventures together. She moved to Nevada and I moved to Florida but we have remained friends through the whole time. It is just sinking in that she is really gone. She has been sick for a while and we knew she could not last but the shock is real. How do you cope with losing one of your best friends?
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@LadyDuck (454906)
• Switzerland
1 Nov 18
I am so sorry, it's hard to lose someone we love. There is not a lot we can do, try to remember all the happy days you spent with your friend.
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@LadyDuck (454906)
• Switzerland
1 Nov 18
@akalinus Your friend will be in your heart forever.
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@LadyDuck (454906)
• Switzerland
1 Nov 18
@akalinus This is our hope, to see one day those we loved.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
1 Nov 18
@LadyDuck Yes, she will and I will see her again sometime. I will miss her in the meantime.
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@Hannihar (129074)
• Israel
1 Nov 18
@akalinus First of all, I am very sorry for your loss. I have lost my grandfather, friends and my animals and it is very hard. I will always miss them and remember them.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
1 Nov 18
I'm sorry for your losses. Learning to live without someone or a pet is hard.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
1 Nov 18
@Hannihar Animals are a part of our family. It is hard to lose them. Cherish the ones close to you now.
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@Hannihar (129074)
• Israel
1 Nov 18
@akalinus Thanks and same to you. It was very hard to lose my dog and cat, ,but, I have Sophie to talk to and enjoy.
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@amadeo (111956)
• United States
31 Oct 18
very heard but you cope with it.The best you can
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@amadeo (111956)
• United States
31 Oct 18
@akalinus still very sad there.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
1 Nov 18
@amadeo Yes, the people left behind have to cope the best they can.
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
31 Oct 18
Thank you. Yeah, but she really is in a better place. She went through a lot of heartache in her life and now it is over.
@TheHorse (203666)
• Walnut Creek, California
15 Nov 18
Just happened to me too. Can't put it into words yet. But I will.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
15 Nov 18
I'm so sorry. Those special types of relationships are so painful when the person passes on. Take the time, you nee, there is no timetable for this sort of thing.
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@TheHorse (203666)
• Walnut Creek, California
28 Dec 18
@akalinus Exactly. I just try to carry them in my heart.
@DianneN (246452)
• United States
31 Oct 18
Oh, no. I am so sorry for the loss of your best friend, Jo Ann. Keep her memories alive in your heart. This has been a rotten month for us.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
1 Nov 18
Thanks so much. I will always love and miss her. What happened this month?
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
1 Nov 18
@DianneN Pets are hard to lose too. They are family members. So sorry.
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@DianneN (246452)
• United States
1 Nov 18
@akalinus We lost a precious cat and my brother's therapy dog. They were members of the family.
@just4him (303325)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Oct 18
I'm sorry for your loss. My friend just lost her husband last month and it's hard for her. The only significant loss in my life was my dogs. I know it seems heartless with my parents and brother gone, but we were a dysfunctional family.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
1 Nov 18
Thank you. I am sorry you lost your pets. Deep down, you must be sorry about losing family members.
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@just4him (303325)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Nov 18
@akalinus Deep down.
@vandana7 (98517)
• India
15 Nov 18
Sorry Jo Ann. One reason I am glad with online friendships is, that loss would not leave me feeling helpless. I do understand your pain. That said, I am more scared of losing people I take for granted. There are many friends in my life who I believe keep on helping me directly or indirectly and are there for me, when chips are down. I have not given them I feel the status they deserve in my life. I mean, they talk in vernacular, they are traditional, they are orthodox and they don't joke much and they are older than me. Nevertheless, they are like the pillars of the building that will suddenly make you realize how important they were. I fear losing them.
@vandana7 (98517)
• India
15 Nov 18
@akalinus I feel any appreciation is well short of what they mean to me, and have done fore me.
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
15 Nov 18
@vandana7 Maybe you could give them a token gift for whatever holiday comes next.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
15 Nov 18
I am sure you are glad they are there and have an interest in helping you. How do you show your appreciation?
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• Preston, England
4 Nov 18
such sad news - hope she lives on through your happy memories of your times together
• Preston, England
4 Nov 18
@akalinus yes very much so, as that is when we realize how valuable our friends really are
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
5 Nov 18
@arthurchappell I have lost so many but she was someone special to me.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
4 Nov 18
Thank you. There are many happy memories and some sad ones too. Sad events make people stronger and closer to each other.
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@moffittjc (118204)
• Gainesville, Florida
10 Nov 18
So sorry to hear about the loss of your close friend Jo Ann. I hope you are holding up well in this time of loss. We are constantly reminded how fragile and short life is when we lose friends, family members and other loved ones. That's why we should cherish every waking moment with all those close in our life. I have never lost a close friend yet, but I've been worried about my friend for years, as he has become obese. I always worried that he would have a heart attack. However, he has recently met this wonderful woman, and he has been working out like crazy and eating healthy so he can look good for her. I'm proud that he is now taking care of himself, and hope this means he will have another good 50 years or so in him!
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
10 Nov 18
Good for your friend. I'm glad that his love interest is changing his life for the better. Life is short and fragile. There have been too many losses in recent times.
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@moffittjc (118204)
• Gainesville, Florida
10 Nov 18
@akalinus That's why quality time with our friends and loved ones is so important!
@moffittjc (118204)
• Gainesville, Florida
10 Nov 18
@akalinus Wow Jo Ann, you've really been through a lot. To have someone pass away right there in front of you, that has to be surreal. My condolences to you and your son for the heartbreaking loss.
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@RubyHawk (99437)
• Atlanta, Georgia
3 Nov 18
I’m so sorry.You can only grieve. I lost two of my best friends from childhood a few years ago and I still think of them often.
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
3 Nov 18
That was sweet of you. I am sure that you made them feel special. I am missing too many as I am sure that you are too.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
4 Nov 18
@RubyHawk Sometimes, it is just shocking. Another friend was a passenger in a car hit by a drunk driver in a pickup truck. Everyone in the car was killed or in critical condition.
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@RubyHawk (99437)
• Atlanta, Georgia
4 Nov 18
@akalinus Yes, I do miss them. They left too soon.
@dya80dya (33053)
1 Nov 18
I am so sorry. I don't know how can we cope with this. Losing best friends is very difficult.
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
3 Nov 18
Yes, I hope it has not happened to you.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
4 Nov 18
@dya80dya It is painful to lose family members but the pain of losing a best friend is greater, if that is possible. I am sorry about your family. There is nothing to equal them.
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@dya80dya (33053)
4 Nov 18
@akalinus I lost family members. Not best friends. But I think it is the same.
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@porwest (78726)
• United States
5 Nov 18
In the end all you can do is just accept what is and move on. It's not easy. But it's all we can do. Very sorry to hear it though.
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
5 Nov 18
Yes, we can't people here when it is time for them to go. Wishing is not effective.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
6 Nov 18
@porwest I understand but it seems that my friends are leaving much more often now. I just never thought it would happen to her.
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@porwest (78726)
• United States
7 Nov 18
@akalinus It can happen to anyone, any time, any age, old or young.
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@septabchips (1144)
• Nigeria
1 Nov 18
Ohhhhhh Noooo! Its always painful when one looses a friend. I am so sorry to know that your friend is gone. May her soul RIP.
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
1 Nov 18
Thank you. I wish her the same and will see her again one day.
4 Nov 18
Im sorry for your loss.. I know it's hard but be strong..
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@akalinus (40322)
• United States
4 Nov 18
Thank you. It is hard but we all need to be strong.
@cindiowens (5120)
• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
31 Oct 18
Oh no, I am so sorry. The loss of a dear one is never easy. You just have to take your time, and work through the feelings in your own way. You will always miss her. Remembering the good times sometimes helps the heart heal a bit, but there will always be an empty spot where she once was. It will get easier to deal with, but the loss will never completely go away. Much love and hugs.
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
31 Oct 18
Thank you, Cynthia. There will always be another hole in my heart that only she fits into. Memories are flooding back.
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• United States
6 Nov 18
Sorry about your loss. I lost my best friend a few months ago and I know how hard it is. Nothing but time takes some of the loss and pain away. Good memories help.
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
10 Nov 18
I'm so sorry about your loss. Good memories help a lot. You remember the fun times, the funny times, and the simply goofy times.
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@CarolDM (203478)
• Nashville, Tennessee
31 Oct 18
So very sorry. I lost a good friend about six months ago to cancer. It is hard. You just have to hold onto the memories.
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
31 Oct 18
I'm sorry you lost your friend. There are many memories. We go way back as friends. The first time I saw her, she was pulling her 2-year-old daughter on a sled. I felt like I have known her all my life.
4 Nov 18
Im sorry for your loss.. I know it's hard but be strong..
@akalinus (40322)
• United States
4 Nov 18
Thank you. She is not the first friend I have lost but she is one of my two best friends in the whole world.