Doctor's appointment today
@GardenGerty (157485)
United States
November 5, 2018 8:13pm CST
The doctor just barely looked at Bob. He did ask him how he was feeling. He asked if he had been bleeding.
He answered some questions about a possible surgical remedy for some of this problem.
Next week we will try to have the catheter out again.
I insisted that they weigh him. No one has weighed him since August. He has lost twelve pounds in two months.
Between him being so low on his hemoglobin, and loosing weight he cannot afford to, I told him it is no wonder that he is tired and needs naps.He was thin to begin with.
While we shopped today he visited with many people that he used to see when he worked. He is hungry for the social aspect of working. He misses people. He is not an old grouch like me.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
6 Nov 18
Tony like to be social too, he wants to go fishing and hunting but I will tell ya, when someone is sick all those friends disappear that used to line up to go "with" Tony fishing or hunting.
Me? I don`t care, I can stay home for weeks and never bother me.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
I wish Bob had someone to fish and hunt with, or the energy to do so. Our friend Eddie showed us the spot on the river he and his family bought when it came to auction. He says Bob is welcome to use it, but Bob would rather go when there is actually someone there. It was a long, cute story Eddie told.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
Yes, when they lose too much weight they feel cold. Bob says he was always underweight. As a young person they tried to fatten him with milk shakes and egg nog. He just did not gain. He has lost a lot of muscle. The doctor encourages him to continue bowling, even if he has surgery. The other doctor he had for primary took him off one of the medicines that he says kills your appetite. I am sorry your husband has gotten too thin as well.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
@LadyDuck You do not want excess fat. Muscle is a good thing to gain. If you do not have some reserves of weight, it is harder to recover.
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@LadyDuck (457367)
• Switzerland
6 Nov 18
@GardenGerty My husband has also been underweight since he was young (I have always been too). He has not lost muscles because he exercises. I try to convince him to eat more, he says he is fine how he is, I do not insist, I am also not a fan of gaining weight.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
Anti depressants can make you gain or lose weight. It might even be a first clue if they stop working well. They also are dosed somewhat according to your weight.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
8 Nov 18
@shaggin Yes, even if it is a pain.
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@shaggin (71659)
• United States
6 Nov 18
@GardenGerty ahh I see so that makes sense why they keep a close eye on it checking me every darn time then lol
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@Tampa_girl7 (48887)
• United States
6 Nov 18
That's a big weight loss. I hope it goes well when they remove the catheter.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
Yes, we hope that one more week of keeping fluids up and being very careful will allow the healing needed for him to have it done with.
@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
I know that feeling. Yet it is one of the things I like about Bob.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
@JudyEv I get abandoned in stores, etc.
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@JudyEv (325346)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Nov 18
@GardenGerty I'm the same. I really like that he can talk to anybody but sometimes he does seem to go on a bit.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
I would agree with you there. He is talking about wanting a part time job when he is a little better.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
@Plethos He has done Meals on Wheels before we moved here and it would be good for him.
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@Plethos (13560)
• United States
6 Nov 18
@GardenGerty - or even as a volunteer somewhere until he gets a p/t job.
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@popciclecold (35022)
• United States
6 Nov 18
I hope they can give him something to help him. It's bad being tired all the time.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
I am not working now and I am insisting he eat more often and better foods. We will see if that helps.
@allknowing (130067)
• India
6 Nov 18
So strange that this is always the case. One will want to socialise and the other prefers their own company. I am the social kind.
Is there no way his hemoglobin can be raised?
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
8 Nov 18
He is eating healthy foods, that is the general treatment. Foods that are high in iron, including red meat. If he takes iron supplements he is prone to digestive issues that then make his other problem worse. I do have him taking B 12 which also helps with anemia.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
I am sorry. I think that there is not much to do for Bob right now. He needs to heal. I am just upset that they are not weighing him. He has been to one doctor or another or an ER or two for a total of at least six times. No one weighs him, but they ask if he has had unexpected weight loss.
@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
We will talk more about it next week.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
I am more reclusive than Bob is. His friendliness is one of the things I really love about him.
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@just4him (305442)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 Nov 18
@GardenGerty I'm like you. I love my alone time and don't like anyone infringing on MY time. Yet, I will drop everything if anyone asks, and they don't need to twist my arm about it either.
@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
I hope it was not for anything too serious.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
6 Nov 18
I hope he gains some weight back, and is better for good soon..
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
@leny34 Yes.He was taking vitamins and other supplements.
@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
Well, one doctor said taking vitamins can kill your appetite, and so we stopped those for now. I insist that he should eat three full meals daily and some snacks. He needs to build up muscle as well.
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@leny34 (8506)
• Sidoarjo, Indonesia
6 Nov 18
@GardenGerty so that's why he doesn't take vitamins?
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
It really helps him for me to go along and hear what the doctor says.
@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
When I was younger I was social. My first husband was not and neither of my kids really are overly social. They are both very nice, but content with their own thoughts, etc. They like to read.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
7 Nov 18
@GardenGerty my daughter is like your kids too
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@sallypup (57717)
• Centralia, Washington
6 Nov 18
I hope he continues to mend. My hubby has talked about when he isn't working any more. He doesn't think people will want to interact outside of the work place. This is one of the reasons why we plan to move for retirement years; we need to move where there are more opportunities for socialization.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
That is very smart. I like where we are, and hubby said he did as well, but it is very isolated as far as jobs, social, or even shopping.
@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
6 Nov 18
He can chow down on fast food and get away with it if needing to gain weight.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
He does not have the appetitie. We did have some very good burgers and fries yesterday at Hardees in a truck stop. I normally do not even like fries, but these were very good.
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@Friendlypink (3805)
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6 Nov 18
they should check everything before suggesting something. The weight the blood theh sugar level and all. Maybe you need to look for a second opinion.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
This urologist is our second opinion. We are, however, looking for a new primary care. He also has a heart appointment next month.
@aureliah (24319)
• Kenya
6 Nov 18
What I see in hospitals is that they weigh you and take your blood pressure before they can even start the treatment
@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
6 Nov 18
In the Emergency room they took his vitals, blood pressure and temperature, but did not weigh him. At the urologist, they did blood pressure and temperature, but I had to ask for a weight. At his primary whom he has not seen since August he was always weighed and measured first.
@aureliah (24319)
• Kenya
23 Mar 19
@GardenGerty I see hospitals here that you are weighed and blood pressure measured before you are treated
