Mirror, Mirror

@FayeHazel (22116)
United States
November 14, 2018 3:53pm CST
Ever notice when someone bullies you - they tend to pick on you for something they feel bad about themselves? What they say to you - is how the feel about themselves and isn't actually about you. Now I don't mean those cases where people actually are bringing legitimate concerns to light, I mean cases where people , sometimes people who are stressed out or hurting - see fit to try to hurt feelings or make too big of a deal out of things. If someone tells you that you are worthless - they feel worthless If someone tells you that you're ugly - they feel ugly etc. those kinds of things. Photo from Pixabay
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@dgobucks226 (14868)
14 Nov
Sounds a bit like projection? The person is miserable so they try to bring you down to their level. If that's what you mean I'd go along with that. I've seen that done to others and to myself. But when one does this they need to remember this about their comments.
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@shaggin (39929)
• United States
15 Nov
@dgobucks226 I love that. I am going to have to find that image online to share on Instagram and Facebook!
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@dgobucks226 (14868)
15 Nov
@shaggin go to brainy quotes. You will find it there. I think I typed in finding fault in the search box.
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@just4him (132954)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Nov
@shaggin That statement is so true.
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@Icydoll (27959)
• India
14 Nov
Yes there are people who hurt other by saying their feelings.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
True that
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@Mavic123456 (16471)
• Thailand
15 Nov
wow, beautiful realizations here. Hmmm... this is beautiful. thanks for a good thought now.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
SO welcome, happy I could help
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@Mavic123456 (16471)
• Thailand
26 Nov
@FayeHazel I am beautiful no matter what they say, words can't take me down.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
@Mavic123456 Great song and sentiment
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@Hannihar (46566)
15 Nov
@FayeHazel Bullies are bullies and horrible people and do not care about bullying you. They do not feel anything and will not admit that they are not nice. I have no feelings whatsoever about bullies. They need to live in a world with other bullies far away from decent people.
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@dgobucks226 (14868)
16 Nov
These people who bully are insecure and have a low opinion of themselves. They want to bring others down so they can feel better. It's a terrible way to behave!
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@Hannihar (46566)
18 Nov
@dgobucks226 So so true DB.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
I agree! Send them to their own island let them beat each other up
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@just4him (132954)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Nov
I dealt with that all my life. My mother is the one who said those mean things to me. It's taken a long time to get on the other side of those comments and see myself as a person of worth and pretty too.
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@dgobucks226 (14868)
16 Nov
Criticism to hurt one's feelings and make a person feel less worthy and inferior serves no useful purpose. As you pointed out, the damage it causes can be very difficult to overcome...
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
@dgobucks226 It is amazing how we can internalize messages
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
I'm so sorry you had to go through that from your mom no less. I will admit that it is my dad who inspired this post. It helps a little to know that it isn't about you, but it still hurts. You are worthy. You are intelligent and talented and beautiful inside and out
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@Ladanger (4245)
• United States
14 Nov
Thats is why you say "i know you are but what am i "
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@shaggin (39929)
• United States
15 Nov
@Ladanger do you remember the rest of that saying that kids would utter?
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
@shaggin What is the rest of that? lol.
@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
I love it!
@nela13 (10346)
• Portugal
15 Nov
Those people have a name: jerks! All they do is bullying the others because they are miserable
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@dgobucks226 (14868)
16 Nov
Very true!
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
True, a reflection of what they are on the inside
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@nela13 (10346)
• Portugal
26 Nov
@FayeHazel putting the others down It is a way to make them feel better.
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@DianneN (92603)
• United States
14 Nov
That's true and unfortunate. A bully must have such low self esteem.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
True, I wonder if they ever figure it out
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@DianneN (92603)
• United States
27 Nov
@FayeHazel I don't know if they can figure it out, but they hopefully learn how to compensate for their sickness!
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
27 Nov
@DianneN I agree. I hope people put them in their place enough so they get sick of it
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@GreatMartin (6625)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
14 Nov
I don't quite agree with you but in most cases just calling a bully on his/her bluff will them running!
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
Hm, different perspectives are always interesting to hear. IN most cases calling their bluff a few times should do it. I know one that loves arguing thoguh
@ilocosboy (40575)
• Philippines
14 Nov
I just ignore them
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
Smartest idea, since they are looking for a reaction
@Morleyhunt (19329)
• Canada
14 Nov
It was once pointed out to me...when you point a finger at someone else....there are three pointed back at you.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
That is a brilliant way of putting it
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@xander6464 (6124)
• Wapello, Iowa
15 Nov
You really would have been a good psychiatrist.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
Thanks! That was the original plan :-)
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• Wapello, Iowa
26 Nov
@FayeHazel I bet it could still work. You're good at figuring people out.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
@xander6464 Thanks, that means a lot to me. Sometimes I do wonder how it will all play out....
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@cintol (8895)
• United States
26 Nov
That is what we are trying to explain to my grand daughter right now, she has a couple of girls like this in school. People can be so cruel, we tell her to just kill them with kindness.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
27 Nov
Ah, that is great that you are starting young with this knowledge for your granddaughter. Kill them with kindness is great advice but can be oh so hard. I hope that her bullies leave her alone.
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@cintol (8895)
• United States
27 Nov
@FayeHazel It is hard for her but we tell her that if they insult her or call her names, it is because it is what they feel about themselves so if she is nice to them, maybe they will change. These girls are cheerleaders (5th grade) and think they are better than everyone else. Next year Shy will be a cheerleader and we told her to treat everyone with respect and not to forget her friends that she has now.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
27 Nov
@cintol That is a good lesson to learn at her age. It's unfortunate that the other girls are mean though.... I am happy you are preparing her now - she will grow to be an excellent person
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@porwest (10122)
• United States
16 Nov
That's generally the way it works. For whatever it is worth people who pick on others are 99.9% of the time insecure about themselves.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
True, there is some comfort in that, too
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@porwest (10122)
• United States
28 Nov
@FayeHazel There is. I feel MUCH better about myself knowing that the person who makes fun of me is a total tool who has nothing to look forward to except being an even bigger tool. Meanwhile, my life goes on, I accomplish things, while the tool just continues to be a tool.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
28 Nov
@porwest Good point. Those who jeer you aren't out accomplishing things. And they eventually expose themselves for being a tool. * nicer word than that which I was thinking. lol
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@sofssu (18782)
27 Nov
So true..Mean people call others those things they believe about themselves.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
27 Nov
I sometimes wonder if they even realize it
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@sofssu (18782)
27 Nov
@FayeHazel Nope they don't.. if they did they would correct themselves first.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
27 Nov
@sofssu Ah yes, if they realized it, they would work on themselves instead of pick on others
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@ledante (1157)
• Taipei, Taiwan
16 Nov
In much the same way that thieves are afraid you'll steal from them, or how cheaters accuse their spouses of infidelity, or how lawyers fear being sued...
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
Oh very good comparisons there too- they accuse because that is how *they* think
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@ledante (1157)
• Taipei, Taiwan
27 Nov
@FayeHazel we don't see things as they are; we see them as we are...
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
27 Nov
@ledante Beautiful phrase
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• United States
15 Nov
Yes, that is so true! I had someone do that to me for years and I always wondered why till I learned that felt that way about themself.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
I'm sorry you've been through it, too.
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• United States
26 Nov
@FayeHazel It's okay...in the end I didn't end up feeling bad anymore because of them. I ended up having to work with them at my job for a few years.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
@MommyOfEli2013 I'm happy you saw them for what they were
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@Nevena83 (5245)
• Serbia
23 Nov
I agree, but often I felt bad when my trust was destroyed.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
That is most certainly understandable
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@PatZAnthony (13282)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
22 Nov
Good point! Bullying is a terrible thing and it seems everyone has been a victim.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
Unfortunately I think you are right
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@Courtlynn (55134)
• United States
20 Nov
Yes, ive unfortunately noticed this alot in my life.
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@FayeHazel (22116)
• United States
26 Nov
Sorry you've gone through it, too
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