A nice weekend until I left my boyfriends

@shaggin (71634)
United States
November 18, 2018 6:59pm CST
Saturday I saw we were out of hot cocoa mix so I used a recipe I found on Pinterest and made some for my son. The boots I bought this summer for winter are not waterproof at all. In the meantime before I am able to shop for some I decided to try to coat them with Vaseline. Well I didn’t have any but I had A&D ointment. It didn’t help they are still soaking through and now they smell funny. My daughters friend come over and they bundled up and walked to town. Crazy girls bought ice cream and brought it home to eat. Her mother made a pumpkin roll cake and sent one to us with a little Happy Thanksgiving note. It was so thoughtful and yummy! I made the girls pierogies for dinner. My daughters friend had never had them so when I asked if she liked them and wanted some for dinner she said sure. She hates potatoes and didn’t realize they had it in the center until she bit into them. So she are the edges and the rest was thrown away. A few awesome things were I got a puppy chow sample in the mail from PinchMe, I got a $33.62 check from sendearnings and I received a $25 Amazon egiftcatd from Toluna. My daughter got an offer in her email for 3 months of Spotify premium for 99 cents so she used her allowance towards that and is really happy! Today I went to my boyfriends house. He had a truck and so he didn’t even think about shoveling out the end of the driveway. I tried to pull up in and got stuck. I left it where it was as it was just off the road enough. We watched the 5th episode of Haunting of Hill House and hung out for a bit. When I left I tried to back up and turn to go down the hill but I got caught on a dip and slid a bit. It did some damage but I thought it could be fixable. He got in and got it rocking back and forth and floored it out of the dip it was stuck in. As he did it ripped the whole front of the bumper off. I was planning to go grocery shopping for Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow but it’s not driveable like this. I’m a little stressed and looking forward to bedtime shortly. Photo collage is a piece of the pumpkin roll cake, my van without the bumper, the hot cocoa mix and my boyfriends dog insisting on going for a ride with me after the bumper incident.
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@snowy22315 (169474)
• United States
19 Nov 18
Oh wow, if it is not thing it is another! Is there anyone you know who could fix the bumper? This boyfriend..I am not sure..he sounds like a piece of work most of the time. You can't make a silk purse out a sow's ear.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
19 Nov 18
@snowy22315 he is blaming it on my driving instead of the fact I never would have gotten stuck if he shoveled. He has a trucks so he drives right through it but my van is lower. I asked if I buy a new one if he will out it in and he said yes he will try. I called the salvage yard automotive place and they don't have any bumpers for my vans make and model I am borrowing my mom's car and going shopping today and stocking up a ton in case I can't get back out for a few weeks!
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
19 Nov 18
@snowy22315 we've broken up many times over the past 6 years . His choice all but once. We always wind up back together though. I love him more then I probably should. He and his son tend to be know it alls. He messaged me and said my insurance may cover the cost of the bumper. I told him I only have state minimum and that anything you turn in raises the cost of the insurance. He wrote back "why do you have such crappy insurance you aren't a teenager anymore." My van is 16 years old and has a few problems it would be in fair or good condition. A vehicle that old is not worth having high insurance on. I looked up the blue book value of it and sent him a screenshot. If I totaled it and it's in good condition and had full insurance it is only worth $263-$814. Why pay a lot per month (he pays $200 a month for us Chevy truck) when if you wreck it you won't even be able to get another one with that. Better to save my money and just pay for another vehicle if I do wreck this one.
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@snowy22315 (169474)
• United States
19 Nov 18
@shaggin Honestly, it sounds like 90 percent of your problems are related to him. Maybe it is time to take a break and re evaluate. I am sure there are good things otherwise you wouldn't be in it, but sometimes the bad outweighs the good. I mean, if it isn't him it is his son, who doesn't sound like he is on a good path at all.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
21 Nov 18
Maybe your boyfriend will be able to fix it in the morning, at least you have some cocoa to drink while you bundle inside and plenty to eat. :)
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
22 Nov 18
@cintol I called 2 auto salvage places within an hour drive and neither one had a front bumper for my old 2002 van My boyfriend said he looked on Amazon and I can get that part and all the fittings for $100. Next time he is over he will go on my Amazon account and order it. Then hopefully the following weekend he will have time to work on it for me.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
23 Nov 18
@cintol eek I hadn't thought of that possibility that would be terrible!
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
23 Nov 18
@shaggin Oh, thats too bad you couldn't find one at the salvage yard, tell him not to wait too long to order, it may be gone. Good luck, I hope you get it fixed soon.
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@Tina30219 (81539)
• Onaway, Michigan
19 Nov 18
Sorry to hear about your bumper I hope you can get it fixed soon. Your pumpkin roll cake looks good I am looking forward to it we will be having a Thanksgiving meal at therapy tomorrow and then again at my moms Thursday looking forward to it.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@Tina30219 two Thanksgiving dinners that is awesome! Since the aren't on the same day you can eat as much as you want and not have to worry about saving enough room for the second one. Are you making anything to take to the dinners?
@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@Tina30219 I was hoping to read a post about your dinner at therapy but I looked and there wasn't an update.
@Tina30219 (81539)
• Onaway, Michigan
21 Nov 18
@shaggin I am thinking of taking some pumpkin bread. The meal we had today was yummy now we just have to wait til Thanksgiving for our next one.
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@sofssu (23662)
19 Nov 18
Sorry about your car.. Your boyfriend's dog looks so cute and that pumpkin cake looks very inviting
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@sofssu his dog is pretty and very friendly but a trouble maker ha ha. That was the first time my kids and I have ever had a pumpkin roll cake. I was so excited about to and it was yummy!
@shaggin (71634)
• United States
22 Nov 18
@sofssu I looked it up a few years ago and it said it was easy to make but it looked pretty tough to keep it together without it crumbling apart so I never tried it. My daughter ate the last piece last night.
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@sofssu (23662)
21 Nov 18
@shaggin Glad you and the kids enjoyed the cake.. I need to look up how to make a pumpkin roll cake.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
20 Nov 18
Sounded so good until the end. So sorry.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
20 Nov 18
Before I left his house I was thinking to myself what a nice weekend I had
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
22 Nov 18
@Courtlynn my grandfather always used to do that.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@shaggin should've knocked on wood after thinking it.
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@kobesbuddy (74327)
• East Tawas, Michigan
19 Nov 18
Oh no, sorry about your vehicle getting damaged! I've made hot chocolate from a recipe, it was wonderful! The pumpkin roll cake looks yummy:)
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@kobesbuddy I made hot chocolate from a different recipe before where I melted chocolate in a pot on the stove. This was a powder mix that I can heat milk up in the microwave and spoon in the power to quickly make hot cocoa. I don't like milk so I won't try it. I didn't have regular creamer so I used hazelnut. My son said it had an odd taste to it but it was good. The odd taste I am sure is due to the hazelnut flavor.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
23 Nov 18
@kobesbuddy condensed milk you mean?
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@kobesbuddy (74327)
• East Tawas, Michigan
21 Nov 18
@shaggin My mother use to add canned milk, to hot cocoa.
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@Madshadi (8849)
• Brussels, Belgium
19 Nov 18
Sorry to hear about your vehicle. Could you share that Pinterest recipe? Was it good?
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
19 Nov 18
@Madshadi Thank you. I will private message you the link for the Pinterest recipe. I used hazlenut creamer as that is all I had. My son said it tasted funny but was good.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
20 Nov 18
@Madshadi exactly what I did
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@Madshadi (8849)
• Brussels, Belgium
20 Nov 18
@shaggin I will keep that recipe in case I run out of cocoa someday. Thanks
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@LadyDuck (457195)
• Switzerland
19 Nov 18
I am sorry about your boots, there is a spray to make things waterproof, you could try it. It's hard to find someone who does not like potatoes, what a shame to throw the center of the pierogies. I am really sorry for your car.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
19 Nov 18
@LadyDuck my son doesn't like potatoes either or pizza two foods which almost everyone loves. If it was my kids I would have ate the rest of the pierogies so they wouldn't go to waste gut she was not my child so I cant stomach eating after someone else's kids. I hate wasting food but I wouldn't make her eat something she didn't like.
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@LadyDuck (457195)
• Switzerland
19 Nov 18
@shaggin I understand you very well, I do not even eat the food left by my niece.
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@noni1959 (9856)
• United States
19 Nov 18
Sorry about your van. That pumpkin roll looks wonderful. What a cute dog wanting to go for a ride.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
22 Nov 18
@noni1959 have you ever made one before? I found a recipe which said it was easy but it seemed hard so I never tried making it.
@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@noni1959 thank you! The pumpkin roll was yummy . my boyfriends dog loves going for rides but my dog hates it. They have very different personalities.
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@noni1959 (9856)
• United States
22 Nov 18
@shaggin It's funny how they can be so different. I'm wanting to make a pumpkin roll now.
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
24 Nov 18
Yikes! When it rains it pours. I hope your bumper was fixable and without costing a fortune. Your boyfriend's dog is so cute!
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
25 Nov 18
@DianneN she is a pretty dog I was able to find a new bumper and all the fittings on Amazon last night for $100. I had enough gift cards in my account that it covered the cost of it. Would have much rather used those gift cards on something else though she he better shovel his darn driveway next time
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
25 Nov 18
@shaggin That's great, but I hear ya! And he better!
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@JudyEv (325105)
• Rockingham, Australia
19 Nov 18
That is really sad about your vehicle. What a shame.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
19 Nov 18
@JudyEv There is a place about a half hour from me that you can go pull the parts off the cars and the prices are low. I could have gotten a bumper there this weekend for about $25 but it is so cold no ones going to want to be out there doing that with the vehicles covered in snow. There is a place next door that fixes cars and they take the parts off for you. It costs more but I will call them today and see how much a bumper would be from them. Hopefully not to much money.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
19 Nov 18
@JudyEv yeah they would pull me over it's not legal to drive without one
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@JudyEv (325105)
• Rockingham, Australia
19 Nov 18
@shaggin Can you go without a bumper until you can get to the cheaper place? Or perhaps the police would pull you over.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 Nov 18
Some days we should just stay home! I am sorry and I feel bad about your van, but you got cake!
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
19 Nov 18
@andriaperry my boyfriend was coming over for 2 hours later while his son was at archery practice. I knew I would be busy making dinner and eating so we wouldn't really have time to spend together so I went out there around noon. My son told me I shouldn't go since he will be coming here later anyway but I didn't listen. If I had known he didn't shovel his driveway and there was about a foot of snow to get stuck in I wouldn't have gone. He is at higher elevation so he always gets more snow then us. Now I'm stuck paying the cost for a bumper but at least he will put it on for me.
@Icydoll (36717)
• India
19 Nov 18
Sorry to hear about your vehicle.. pumpkin roll cake looks good to me
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@Icydoll thank you! The pumpkin roll cake was yummy. I have wanted to make it myself for years but when I looked up a recipe it seems hard to make so I decided not to make it.
@leny34 (8506)
• Sidoarjo, Indonesia
19 Nov 18
it seems like I will feel sad listening to your car like that, hopefully it can be resolved soon
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@leny34 I can order the parts on Amazon for $100 and my boyfriend will put it on for me. If I had just stayed home none of this would have happened so I am feeling more bummed about it by the day being stuck without a vehicle.
@GardenGerty (157427)
• United States
19 Nov 18
This time of year is really hard on vehicles. I am sorry this happened.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@GardenGerty I wish it was summer year round. I absolutely hate the cold and snow!
@sallypup (57603)
• Centralia, Washington
19 Nov 18
I'm sorry that you have winter weather. That's too bad about your van. Better day tomorrow?
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@sallypup I have living here more and more every year. My days can't be too bad for awhile since I won't even be able to leave the house so not much can go wrong lol
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@paigea (35612)
• Canada
19 Nov 18
Yikes, too bad that happened. The pumpkin roll looks delicious.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@paigea wishing I had just stayed home as this is going to cost me about $100 to have fixed.
@thelme55 (76455)
• Germany
19 Nov 18
Sorry to hear about your car. That pumpkin cake looks yummy.
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@shaggin (71634)
• United States
21 Nov 18
@thelme55 thank you! The pumpkin cake roll was pretty yummy. There is one piece left I am hoping my daughter eats up soon as I am craving it and seeing it sitting in the fridge tempts me.
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