What should I do to answer all this

@KOLAMsegaran1 What your mother does is emotional blackmail. If she really loves you, she must stop crying and even stop talking about you marrying now at all. It is a selfish act from her side.

I am confused what to do, because all the explanations that I say no one has succeeded in making my mother understand, and I am now in a very difficult position

I don't want to get married at the age of 24 this year And I want to get married at the age of 27-30 years later

@KOLAMsegaran1 So that is absolutely fine,I think.

@KOLAMsegaran1 hmmmmm, as a lady 30 is not that good. Based on the composition of the body.

@KOLAMsegaran1 Have you met the man you are expected to marry? Tell him how you feel

I am now in a very difficult position. Because my mother did not want to understand what I explained to them. And ha this really makes me confused, I personally have a choice, but I cannot use my choice, because my mother does not want to realize what I want for now

@arthurchappell I have a man who is very close to me, but until now we have never talked about marriage, and I also cannot be sure, who will be my partner in the future.

@KOLAMsegaran1 your mother is not thinking about you .. my late mother was very understanding. She always advised us to decide the best for my future.

Yes, I talked to my mother about it, and every time my mother's guess always cried asking me to get married soon, and this was not the right choice for me to get married at the age of 24. I still need a very long time to think about this. But I can't bear to see my mother talking with tears ...

@antonbunot Yes what you say is true, my mother always holds herself to her own interests. Whereas what happens if I follow what I have wanted, when I'm not ready to get married

@KOLAMsegaran1 If you are not sure that you want to be married, it is better not to. You would be miserable and take it out on your poor husband.

@akalinus Yes, I will be very sure to get married after I am 27 years old. Because for now I'm really not ready to get married

At the age of 24, I'm still too young, I'm not ready to take care of a child, I'm not ready to take care of my husband. what I want is that the marriage will take place when I am 27 years old

@KOLAMsegaran1 This shows wisdom on your part. Your mother will have to accept your judgement, don't let her rush you into anything permanent...

@ledante Yes, however, with what my mother did, but I can't turn away from her, because I'm also afraid of sin

yes, and I want marriage to happen when I feel ready and alone. because for now I don't want to get married in a hurry.

@KOLAMsegaran1 Maybe just tell her you said what you are going to say, if she is mad about it, it is her problem.

I've said that to my mother, but she doesn't know about it, and she keeps talking to get me married soon, but I'm confused what else to answer

@snowy22315 After I said he was not angry, but instead he cried for me when I said I did not want to rush to marry at an early age

@KOLAMsegaran1 Times have changed: if in the past, everyone had his job from his father, had his marriage arranged by family, today, we discover that we want different things to do. Our will from life changes the more we get to know the world around us, it is not enough to just keep living the way we were, we want to understand what life is all about, learn other things about life. Commitment to family seems a question: why do I need to commit to my family if I need to have hard time and work hard, for what ?

At the age of 24, I want to live freely, I don't want to be in a hurry to get married, and I'm also not ready to get married at my current age. I can say that I will get married if I am 27-30 years old. But my mother always forced me to get married soon, and I explained to my mother what I wanted. But my mother didn't listen to what I said, she was like a stubborn person.

@stringer321 I am very relieved after reading all the words from you. Because what you say is not in my mind, and now I can think more about this, after I read the words from you. And I think, I am worth listening to the conversation of more mature people. compared to me ...

@KOLAMsegaran1 she must understand you. You convince her that you are not ready yet to get married.

yes that's what I feared, I don't want to make my life futile because of something reckless, and what you say in my opinion is very true. If only I could melt my mother's heart to understand what I wanted, I thought it would make me calm

@KOLAMsegaran1 Then its kind of difficult.

Tik, my parents don't want to see my view

@KOLAMsegaran1 The decision is yours. I also think late 20's are great for marriage.

I do not want to get married in my current age, I will get married if my age reaches 27-30 years old, and I still want to live freely, but my mother always forces me to get married, and I am confused what to do

@Moon24 In your opinion, what would happen to my mother if I refused my mother's request to get married

@KOLAMsegaran1 I think you should listen to your heart. Afterall its your life. Be strong. But always take the correct decision so that you shouldn't repent for the rest of your life.

Yes, I tried to talk about it, but my mother did not want to realize it. He still forced me to get married soon. And every time this conversation, He always talks with tears, And I'm confused about which actions to respond to, because I'm not ready to get married,

@debjani1 So far there has been no satisfactory decision, Tati if if the time is fixed, then I will make the right decision for my future

@KOLAMsegaran1 you can exchange opinions with many people ...   I think here is the right place to find a solution to your problem ...   because here everyone is kind and friendly who will always help you to solve a problem

@leny34 Yes, I hope so too

You are the luckiest person in the world, because no one forces you to get married immediately. And now you can still live freely. And I explained, but my mother did not want to hear what was explained, She kept forcing me to get married soon But I'm still not ready to get married at the age of 24 now, because I'm not old enough to think about marriage But I'm confused what else should I explain to my mother about this, and every discussion that I made with my mother all seemed to have no effect at all They remain clean hard asking me to get married shortly, even though this was not a problem he wanted to match me with anyone, but this really confused me And what kind of attitude should I do, so that my mother would understand what I'm talking about about something like this, but behind all this I really love my mother. And I can't see them sad because of my actions that refuse to get married at an early age Problems like this make me unable to think clearly

Yes, maybe what you will be very useful for me, because I will never think long like what you are talking about, this will make me talk very much to you, because you have made it far to think long, and I admit that I am not mature enough to think about it, and in this discussion I will take the points here.

@KOLAMsegaran1 Thats okay, sometimes our brains haven’t really processed certain aspects of life yet, but I am always here if you want to talk further! :) I am a law student and I actually like to help people and hear their stories!!!!

@Nikkkki12 Yes and I say thank you for the advice you gave, you have educated me like my own brother. You are so attentive to me. I can't forget your kindness, because I have got a lot of experience from you about this ... It is very good for me to respond with all my heart ...

And I also hope that the marriage will be happy, after I am ready to marry later

Yes, in my opinion, you have said very logically, I like to read words from you. Because after I read your words, they will be motivations in my future life, And this is an interesting experience and I like it because of the way of thinking and adults compared to me

Yes, I will think about that in more detail

Actually my results are, I don't want to get married in a short time, because I'm not ready for that yet, but mothers and children won't answer it, they don't accept explanation from me

thank you very very well

The age of 24 can indeed be quite mature, but in essence because of what happened this is not mature enough to imagine marriage