Did your opinion change

By sofs
@sofssu (18589)
December 6, 2018 5:07am CST
Sometimes you meet people and instantly like them at other times you watch them and you are sure you don't have much in common with them or you even dislike them. .. Suddenly out of the blues you get an opportunity to interact with the person you thought you disliked and you realize that you have much in common with them... and you are ready to over look their flaws.. This is not an uncommon occurrence. Have you experienced it?
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@bluesa (15242)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
6 Dec
There have been times when I thought I didn't like someone to then later find out they are not so bad. I guess till we really spend some time with a person we shouldn't make snap decisions. Though there have also been times when I thought a person was nice and it turned out they were not.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@bluesa absolutely.. it happens both ways.. i agree.. It is more pleasant when we find the one we were not so keen on turns out better than expected.
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@bluesa (15242)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
6 Dec
@sofssu , yes, I also much prefer that someone turns out to be better than expected.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
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@Sreekala (24432)
• India
6 Dec
Yes, I experienced the same. I consider a friend as true and honest and it was shocking for me to realize after a certain period, I was wrong. You can't make it out easily. Sadly I realized the truth.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@Sreekala So you experienced the opposite and felt betrayed. Sorry about that experience.. hope it has not made you look at everyone with suspicion.
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@Sreekala (24432)
• India
6 Dec
@sofssu I learnt how to judge people. Who may be the deserving one for getting help.
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@suni51 (3185)
• India
6 Dec
I am so sorry that you keep changing your opinion
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@tech40 (10574)
• Philippines
6 Dec
Opinions are kept on changing from time to time, it depends on the situation. Even me, I fight for this opinion but after being corrected I have a chance to change my opinion.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@tech40 if you believe in something strongly perhaps your opinion may not change that often. However have you experienced the situation mentioned in the post?
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@tech40 (10574)
• Philippines
6 Dec
@sofssu It's so hard to stay to your belief if you know that you're wrong
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@tech40 Beliefs are formed when you are convinced about something.. which means you have done your homework. I do agree when you are mistaken you have to change your belief system.. but that doesn't happen too often.
@responsiveme (18343)
• India
6 Dec
Yes, the liking part is easy..You sort of gel. The disliking part needs some interaction..
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@responsiveme haven't you ever come across people who you feel you want to keep a distance from even though you have not interacted with them.. And that too for no particular reason.. I had recently written an article very close to this subject but focused on dislike and hate.. it is a very normal thing for people to feel.
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• India
6 Dec
@sofssu Oh dear, rereading my response I find that actually I was not very clear in my reply.. .What I meant was ...To get rid of the dislike which I had formed in my mind needs some interaction. In any case I keep working on being non judgemental
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@responsiveme Oh ok I understand now.. I guess all of us have a certain amount of preconceived ideas coming from the experiences of the past that get into play.. we all need to be aware and work at being non judgmental
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@allknowing (73238)
• India
6 Dec
There are so many factors that lead us to a lasting friendship even though initially we may have been indifferent.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@allknowing Agreed, but have you experienced something similar to this or something totally the opposite?Would help to share your experience.
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@allknowing (73238)
• India
6 Dec
@sofssu The only thing I have noticed is as long as kids are small friendship continues but later children rule the roost in that they choose who their parents should befriend and so on. I have experienced this. On the reverse when the children leave the nests friends get closer.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@allknowing Hmm Never heard of this.. its pretty new to me.. now you've got me thinking.. Thanks for sharing..
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@Davictech (202)
6 Dec
As for me, I treat people special when we have common grounds but as soon as that common ground is not there any more, it will just be like they never existed still thinking if that trait is right sha
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@Davictech Oh my goodness it is one extreme or the other.. maybe it would help to strike a middle path.. don't you think so.. ( not offering advise just asking)
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6 Dec
@sofssu yes I think that should be.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@Porcospino (19825)
• Denmark
6 Dec
I have experienced that. I have a old friend, and I meet some of his other friends when he is having a birthday party or another celebration. It is a group of 6 friends, and I liked them all except one person. He seemed unfriendly, and I had a negative impression of him. One day my friend was having party and the 'unfriendly' man and I shared the same table. When I got to know him better I really changed my impression of him and we had a lot of fun together.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@Porcospino .That is exactly what i am talking about, Just because some people, seem not too sociable or unfriendly we tend to judge them differently. Has he become a better or a closer friend to you? I am asking that mainly because I have heard that from others.
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@Porcospino (19825)
• Denmark
6 Dec
@sofssu I don't see him that often because he lives in a different part of the country, but we have a nice time together when we meet
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@Porcospino That is wonderful. thanks for sharing.
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@sharon6345 (147955)
• United States
6 Dec
I might not get to the point I will find things in common with them. If I feel something I stay away and that means all the way.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@sharon6345 I agree, We may not usually do that voluntarily but sometimes circumstances make that happen.. would you still stay away all the way?
@sharon6345 (147955)
• United States
6 Dec
@sofssu Yes, I would because stress causes me pain and I won't second guess myself anymore. I would stay away.
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@allen0187 (34432)
• Philippines
7 Dec
Experienced it a lot of times and other people have experienced it with me as well. That is why it is best not to judge a book by its cover.
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@sofssu (18589)
7 Dec
@allen0187 absolutely.. I am in complete agreement with you.
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@suni51 (3185)
• India
6 Dec
Ummm not so easily! I mean I don't like people so easily (unless they are well shaped ladies of course ). No I don't think anyone needs similar qualities to make me interested in them. Maybe they have better qualities even if not common with me.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@suni51 So you re influenced by physical appearances, you do not need similar qualities but you need common interest to establish a relationship.
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6 Dec
hmm hmm, are you from Africa??
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@sofssu (18589)
7 Dec
@Davictech it would help if you tagged the person to whom you address your comment.
@betlynfrnds (1705)
• United States
7 Dec
Yes, I have had changes of opinions about people before. Sometimes the change is for the good and other times, not so much. I always like to give people the benefit of the doubt. That along with the fact that I'm generally a very friendly person can, at times, backfire. Then there's the awkward moment when I have to somehow tell the person that they are not my cup of tea. Usually I just try to avoid spending much time together. That is always much easier than hurting someone's feelings.
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@sofssu (18589)
7 Dec
@betlynfrnds True it happens both ways.. giving people the benefit of doubt is a very open minded approach to life. and I agree that its easier to interact less then tell them off.
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• United States
9 Dec
@sofssu That is true, thank you. I really don't like hurting anybody's feelings so I keep a safe distance.
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@sofssu (18589)
10 Dec
@betlynfrnds Its not worth hurting anyone because we hurt ourselves in the process.. all that guilt keeps troubling us..
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
7 Dec
Yes, I have but, in the end, when some small conflict occurs, it proves that you were right from the start
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@sofssu (18589)
7 Dec
@moonandstars Could it be because you subconsciously help that opnion all along?
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
7 Dec
@sofssu No, doctor, I don't think so
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@sofssu (18589)
7 Dec
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@Janet357 (6795)
7 Dec
Yesss. I used to dislike someone then after i had a chat with her, i simply found out she wasnt that bad, hahahaha
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@sofssu (18589)
7 Dec
@Janet357 so the instinct is not so accurate after all.. That is what studies say too.
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@Janet357 (6795)
7 Dec
@sofssu yes. Just like what they say, never judge a book.
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@sofssu (18589)
7 Dec
@Janet357 absolutely, I am in total agreement with you.
@Moon24 (2531)
• Serbia
6 Dec
The first impression is often lying. When we meet someone for the first time, it is normal that that person is kind and wants to leave a good impression. When I get to know people better, I know who is right for me and who does not.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@Moon24 You are right .. but consider this scenario some people may not be very friendly at first, they maybe shy and seem aloof.. how would you judge them.. we really need to interact before we form opinions..
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@Moon24 (2531)
• Serbia
6 Dec
@sofssu I agree. I have a friend who talked a little when we were not friends. After she then spoke normally. Some people do not like to talk a lot when are not friends with someone. Maybe they have fear. I also had a fear.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@Moon24 Yes, fear, shyness make people to act aloof.. but that is the facade the hide behind. they just need some prodding to come out of their shells.
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@nawala123 (3612)
• Indonesia
7 Dec
yes, as long it fits me and give benefit, no problem
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@sofssu (18589)
7 Dec
@nawala123 are your relationships are made to suit your needs?
@nawala123 (3612)
• Indonesia
7 Dec
@sofssu yes, it is
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@dgobucks226 (14833)
7 Dec
The answer given by Catherine I go along with completely. Sometimes first impressions are lasting ones, but other times you can be pleasantly surprised in a good or bad way after being around a person.
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@sofssu (18589)
7 Dec
@dgobucks226 I completely agree with this but have you ever been through this process yourself?
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@dgobucks226 (14833)
8 Dec
@sofssu Of course, many times. I imagine almost everyone has experienced this at one time or another. I've met people I thought were snobbish for example, but maybe they were just shy, nervous or they possessed a quiet personality. It happens...
@shubhu3 (24180)
• New Delhi, India
6 Dec
I have experienced this too. It is just like we should never make a judgment on 1st impression with someone or in few meets. After knowing her/him, we get to know the real person and nature.
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@shubhu3 (24180)
• New Delhi, India
9 Dec
@sofssu Yes.
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@ethal2018 (362)
• United States
7 Dec
Oh yes been there.
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@sofssu (18589)
7 Dec
@ethal2018 wanna share your experience here?
@GreatMartin (6607)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
6 Dec
Not really--my initial instincts regarding people are usually right!
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@GreatMartin amazing.. I don"t think I have met anyone who has such accurate instincts.
• Philippines
6 Dec
Yeah, it's hard when you assume something when you don't even know the person. But sometimes some people can be good in hiding their dark side and reveal them when you're no longer.
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@sofssu (18589)
6 Dec
@Letranknight2015 I agre with you completely.. but there is something as a gut feeling when you meet someone which could be wrong?
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