When a person suddenly stops talking to you without any reason . i don't know what to do!

Japan
December 10, 2018 10:20pm CST
its weird that when someone stops talking to you without any reason.. i mean if i don't like someone or if she or he make any mistake,i tell them it directly and i don't behave like a kid.. i am really surprised that kind of people.. and he is pretty old and mature,,, what is wrong ? what did i do? these questions kill me ... should i care it ? or just leave it ? please give me some ideas.. i really need your help ..
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@VivaLaDani13 (60219)
• Perth, Australia
11 Dec 18
@japanesesamurai Communication! Just ask this person why the sudden change. Don't be rude, just be sympathetic and get straight to the point. Did you do something to offend them without realising? Did they do something embarrassing in front of you and now shy to speak? Was there some negative gossip going around? Is this person anti-social? Is this person dealing with something in their life and not wanting to speak? Just ask. Once you know the answer, then you'll know want to feel and how to deal with it.
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@Daljinder (23228)
• Bangalore, India
11 Dec 18
@VivaLaDani13 Its difficult and near impossible of that person cuts all sorts of contacts with you then years later you find out it wasn't anything that you did but just something they thought they had to do.
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• Japan
11 Dec 18
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• Japan
11 Dec 18
i should do it,i know but pretty hard to ask.. i am confused now,,i hope i can do it soon.. your advice is just great..
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@noni1959 (9858)
• United States
11 Dec 18
The person can be embarrassed about something, may have not liked something you said or did and may have tried to tell you but you didn't listen, or many other things. Did you ask why? It's hard when that happens and not know why.
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• Japan
11 Dec 18
I will try to ask if he doesnt change his behave.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
11 Dec 18
Just leave the person and have your patience. If you haven't done any mistake the person will come to you by himself.
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• Japan
11 Dec 18
This is an another option.. i am sure that i didnt do any mistake but who know.. i will wait more..
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
11 Dec 18
@japanesesamurai Let the person comes to you then... but you need enough patience.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Dec 18
When that happens, you should talk to the person. You will never sttle thw issue if you keep silent too. For sure therr is something that irks him by you.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Dec 18
@japanesesamurai Well, maybe he was forced to talk to you because he has tgive some instruction. Maybe this is the nice chance to joke him about his non-speaking attitude to you the past days.
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• Japan
15 Dec 18
@SIMPLYD IT was just a good morning actually .. lol
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• Japan
14 Dec 18
strangely today he started to talked to me.. i am confused.. maybe sometimes giving a break or just waiting is a good idea..
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@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
11 Dec 18
This is me... I am usually patient and I always give way.... but, when i reach the end line, i just keep quiet. that's it. for me to be settled... apologize and just move on. and keep quiet. don't ask what and why anymore. just keep it cool as well.
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• Japan
11 Dec 18
i will wait little bit more, then i will do advices here i think, thanks
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
11 Dec 18
@japanesesamurai yes. just take it easy, for me, as I told you this is me, and BF is more frantic when I get upset because I don't speak. he said he doesn't know what I think. now he knows that he should stop talking too and just wait for me to cool down. in my case i just need to breathe. i need space
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• Japan
11 Dec 18
@Mavic123456 after some break and breath time, if you are ok ,there is no problem..
@Daljinder (23228)
• Bangalore, India
11 Dec 18
Ooooh I knooooooooooow! I swear its the most maddening thing. You are right it creates self-doubt. What did I do? You analyse your last conversation and interaction bit by bit to find a clue where you have offended them somehow. And slowly start going over ALL interactions with that person in the past. What exactly did I do? You wont get an answer. I would know. I went through it. Still am with the same person but its helluva better coz now I know that I didn't anything. It is on them. Let them come to you on their own. Keep the lines of communication open. I mean don't give them the idea that you won't be talking to them if they approach you.
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• Japan
11 Dec 18
thanks a lot.. i really feel as you described... i keep the lines of communication.. i dont try to start but sure if he tries to talk with me i will talk back for sure...
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@deazil (4723)
• United States
11 Dec 18
I agree with those who think you should maybe ask him why. I know it would drive me crazy if that happened to me and I didn't know the reason. It could be so many things.
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@deazil (4723)
• United States
11 Dec 18
@japanesesamurai I can understand that. But you'll make yourself crazier if you don't find out why he stopped talking to you. It could be a lot of things. He might be upset about something but he may not be a very confrontational person so rather than confront you he just prefers to not talk to you anymore. Then again, it could be something minor. Not knowing him, it's hard for anyone here to tell. Or you can try to make yourself forget about it.
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• Japan
11 Dec 18
it drives me crazy , today i thought about it all day... its really annoying.
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• Dallas, Texas
11 Dec 18
Often a person will chose to stop talking if they are at a loss for words, and to avoid argument, they might stop talking and then you might wonder, Were they listening to me in the first place? or was I being flat ignored? This can lead to a moment of awkward pause. It happens but don't let it get to you. Walk away and figure it was not worth the effort. There will be others who will listen and talk to you. It's like that sometimes. Rude, yes it is, but is it normal behavior? to a certain extent, yes.
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• Japan
11 Dec 18
I really appreciate your advice! I love listening mature people here! Really it means a lot to me! Thanks
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• Dallas, Texas
11 Dec 18
@japanesesamurai You are welcome.
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@debjani1 (7207)
11 Dec 18
You can ask him about the matter? If he doesn't give answer then just leave it and go ahead as time never waits for anyone.
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• Japan
11 Dec 18
you are right!! if i dont get an answer. i will just leave it.. i am really fed up with this situation..
@debjani1 (7207)
11 Dec 18
@japanesesamurai thats the spirit. Move on your way.