Wise words - neither a lender nor a borrower be
By Judy Evans
@JudyEv (325345)
Rockingham, Australia
December 13, 2018 7:52am CST
When you borrow something, do you take better care of it than if it were your own? We do and it is disappointing when friends borrow from us and are careless with our items.
Today an associate borrowed our car-trailer. Vince left the guy to hook up the trailer while he went to fetch something. They checked the lights and the friend drove away. Ten minutes later he was back at the door.
Halfway down our drive the trailer had bounced off the tow-hitch and headed for the bush. It hadn’t been hooked on properly. Then, while trying to turn his car, it bellied out in some sand so he had to walk back to the house.
He hadn’t bothered to attach the safety chains between the trailer and car but thought that was a lucky thing as the trailer might have run into the back of his car. He failed to realise that if the trailer had detached itself on the highway it could have easily smashed into someone else.
Luckily no damage had been done to the cables connecting the lights but how stupid! This guy isn’t really a close friend but is even less so now. It’s bad enough if it’s your own property but you’d expect someone to be extra careful when borrowing items.
PHoto of the car-trailer behind the bus with my Hyundai Excel on board.
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38 responses
@DianneN (246334)
• United States
13 Dec 18
How aggravating for you. At least no one was hurt. Friends like that we do not need. We went through something similar with our soon to be ex-neighbor, Dr. Jay. My husband had our car checked out totally today, and thank goodness nothing else was wrong with it.
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@Marilynda1225 (79592)
• United States
13 Dec 18
As you said, things could have been far worse but even the mishap in itself was enough to make you realize that this guy didn't know what he was doing. Did he get it all hooked back up and continued with your trailer or did you send him on his way without the trailer?
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
13 Dec 18
I don't suppose he will have the courage to ask for it again another time
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@wolfgirl569 (94778)
• Marion, Ohio
13 Dec 18
The photo didnt show. We wont loan to my brother for that reason. He takes no care of borrowed stuff at all.
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@wolfgirl569 (94778)
• Marion, Ohio
13 Dec 18
@JudyEv Yeaaa a photo. Many people wont loan to him. I have very few people that I will let use my stuff anymore.
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@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Dec 18
It's very rude and inconsiderate isn't it? And it happens quite often even with good friends.
@AmbiePam (85298)
• United States
13 Dec 18
That drives me nuts. My dad always taught us to bring something back in the same condition, if not better. Borrow someone's car? Bring it back with a full tank of gas. Tear someone's book? Better buy them a new one. Yet most times in my life I get my things back in pitiful condition. It's disheartening.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Dec 18
We never lend our car to anyone except for the brothers of my husband. But they are reminded by my husband to take care of it well, because if something bad happens to the car, he will be responaible for whatever damage he has accidentaly done to it.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
13 Dec 18
hope you took the trailer back off him after that - he could have really injured someone
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
14 Dec 18
@JudyEv hope he brings it back safely and pays for any needed repairs
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@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Dec 18
@arthurchappell There was no damage done thankfully but it could have been so much worse.
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@cindiowens (5120)
• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
13 Dec 18
I didn't see a photo, but yes people should take extra care and be very mindful of other people's belongings which they are using.
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@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Dec 18
@playertwo It is very annoying. And what if the trailer had careered across the highway and hit an oncoming car.
@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Dec 18
It's hard to say 'no' to friends when they want to borrow things. I just expect people to take a bit extra care with things that don't belong to them but that doesn't happen.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
13 Dec 18
When I borrow something I take excellent care of it. Once I borrowed a personal stereo. I was enjoying listening to music and had a wonderful time. Then to my horror it stopped working. I went to an electrical shop and bought the same model of personal stereo. I gave the new personal stereo back to my friend. Always hook the trailer back he found out. I was in a coach one night and a door opened. Someone told the driver all the luggage had fallen on the ground. The driver had to go onto the road to pick up all the passengers luggage. It was going from Brisbane to Sydney.
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
14 Dec 18
@JudyEv In those days I had a backpack however must other people had a suitcase. Yes, a lot of the suitcases got damaged. These days it is my son's wheelchair that others don't look after. It fell off the roof of a taxi in Morocco. It was broken coming out of a taxi in Poland. Worst of all it got badly broken on an airline between India and Sri Lanka earlier this year. They broke the back of it and the left hand side handle.
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@JamesHxstatic (29237)
• Eugene, Oregon
16 Dec 18
How awful! I hope that you did not retrieve it and then let him take it again. He is quite careless.
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@JamesHxstatic (29237)
• Eugene, Oregon
16 Dec 18
@JudyEv I suppose it would, but that is a worrisome friend.
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@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Dec 18
@JamesHxstatic He is one of the group that Vince plays golf with. We're friends but really only in the context of that group.
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
14 Dec 18
It's the pits really.
I think they need to be extra careful when borrowing things.
The house looks do good...Wide open spaces
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@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Dec 18
@responsiveme We are hoping that too.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
16 Dec 18
@JudyEv I hope it won't be for a long long time.
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@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Dec 18
I was really cross. And we've just had huge problems with our caravan after having a couple stay in it. The problem was simple in the end. They turned a switch without turning it back and we had no end of trouble trying to work out the problem.
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