These things are killing me.

@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
December 13, 2018 9:49am CST
I feel bad about myself at this moment. You know that kind of feeling when you are too overwhelmed by the fact that you help a friend get her forever and at the end of everything, she will dump you out of the scene and have someone who happened to be your ex-best friend as her next go to friend? How do you feel about it? Do you think it's an insult? Well, for me, it is in my part.
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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13 Dec 18
Things like that happen in life.. My dad used to say if you don't except anything you won't be offended or disappointed. Just do what you have to do.
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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14 Dec 18
@JustBhem Listen to your boyfriend , from whatever you say he is trying to help you feel better.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
I tried to ignore the fact that they are making me worse, and I can't help it. The boyfriend always telling me I should let it go. But every time I see that someone, it tics me.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
@sofssu Yes, as always. He does not want me to feel bad. Because it will only drain me.
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
17 Dec 18
That is a terrible thing she did. And I'm sorry she did it. Maybe you can contact her to talk about it and how it made you feel. Sometimes that helps.
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Courtney
@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
18 Dec 18
@JustBhem I get that that's how you feel, but you never know, if you were to try talking to her maybe things could be communicated to where things are good with you again.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Dec 18
@Courtlynn I've talked to her in the past about it, instead she still never understands me.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Dec 18
It won't matter to me Courtney, the fact that she already hurt me and the less I can do is ignore her and never talk to her anymore.
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Always smiling
@allknowing (130067)
• India
13 Dec 18
Just take things in your stride. There is no other way
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Always smiling
@allknowing (130067)
• India
14 Dec 18
@JustBhem I am watching you. You are doing fine with accepting what cannot be changed This serenity prayer will help you further .
Serenity Prayer
www.beliefnet.com
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time…
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
@allknowing Thank you for this one.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
Yes, it left me no choice but to move on. I know it's hard, sometimes it makes me cry.
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Simone
@Janet357 (75656)
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14 Dec 18
I kmow that feeling. As for me, i stopped getting close to someone. People will just disappoint you.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
Sometimes I would like to treat myself as an isolated one because I know people will only give you that pathetic look and will use you for themselves.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Dec 18
@Janet357 Yes, and I learned my lesson well.
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Simone
@Janet357 (75656)
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15 Dec 18
@JustBhem thats why the only thing you can do is to never expect anything from them. You may befriend them but dont expect, because they are there to fail our expectations sometimes.
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G
@freelancermariagrace (27219)
• Philippines
14 Dec 18
I'm sorry to hear about that, Bhem. Yes, it happened to me, too. But life must go on. People change, anyways.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
You are right Maria, people nowadays will do things to get what they want even a friend will do that to you for their own good. It's up to her if she feels sorry for the things she did for me. Karma is digital.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Dec 18
@freelancermariagrace I believe that.
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G
@freelancermariagrace (27219)
• Philippines
15 Dec 18
@JustBhem Yes, what goes around comes around
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Arya
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
14 Dec 18
I had that very painful experience while I was in High School. It has scarred me for life.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
I think this will scar me too, it keeps coming back the pain.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
@yoalldudes You are right about that. I should let go.
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Arya
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
14 Dec 18
@JustBhem We are born alone, we will die alone. People come and go. Enjoy what we have for today that is my coping mechanism now. It helps keep me together.
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Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Dec 18
I'm sorry for how your friend treated you. I have been there and it does hurt. However, we can either allow someone to steal our joy or not. I choose not to let anyone take away the joy God gave me now. =)
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Dec 18
How I wish I am stronger like you. I mean, maybe I am strong but I also have weaknesses too. And it's hard.
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Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Dec 18
@JustBhem We all have weaknesses but He is my strength! I'm nothing without God, not strong at all.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
@LovingMyBabies I always pray but sometimes I doubt if He can hear me. Maybe I was too frail.
LK2018
@Letranknight2015 (51498)
• Philippines
14 Dec 18
Not easy, but in my case, it's my brother. Glad he doesn't come around much like he used to. You should do your best to move on. I think your Boyfriend should be the GREATEST friend of all. Being hurt this much proves you're still holding on to that connection. I agree with them, let it go.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
God knows how much I tried to just let it go and move one @Letranknight2015 but the more I am seeing that one person it keeps coming back. I am happy when she was not around with our mutual friends, now she's back and looks like some of my friends are not bother about her come back. I know some of them doesn't want to offend her and of course me, but space is getting smaller.
DianneN
@DianneN (246334)
• United States
13 Dec 18
I’m sure we all have been through it. It is a nasty thing to do, and I’m so sorry!
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DianneN
@DianneN (246334)
• United States
14 Dec 18
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
Yes, Miss D., There will always that one friend that will bite you.
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Elizabeth
@Poppylicious (11133)
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14 Dec 18
I think it is sad. But - unfortunately- it's what happens. Friendships change, people change ... sorry that it's happened to you. :(
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
Yes. I feel sorry for myself too because I let this scumbag of a friend use me for 8 long years. Who will not feel bad about it?
Judy Evans
@JudyEv (325398)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Dec 18
That's very sad but try to choose a different way to think about it. Don't give your treacherous friend the compliment of letting her upset you for too long.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
I feel very bad about it. That ex-best friend though she didn't say it, but the fact that she is always around our friends make me irk. It's like their slapping me.
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ingrid
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Dec 18
if that person prefers another one rather than you, i can only say she is not worthy to be your friend.
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ingrid
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Dec 18
@JustBhem karma will eventually eat her, hija. the good you did is not worthy to be returned with bad attitude from that person.
Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
I agree with you. It's just that I remember those days and nights that I spend with her just to make her feel better because I know how it is to be alone especially in a place you don't want to. She is a user.
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Hanni Harel
@Hannihar (129379)
• Israel
14 Dec 18
@JustBhem People can be very cruel and you do not need that.
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Hanni Harel
@Hannihar (129379)
• Israel
16 Dec 18
@JustBhem Thanks.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
You are right on that Hanni Harel.
putri
@leny34 (8506)
• Sidoarjo, Indonesia
13 Dec 18
yes maybe I will also feel very sad about that, but I think you have to be patient, maybe one day your friend will realize it
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
@leny34 I'm sure that she will not feel bad about what she did to me. She has a thick face.
Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
I doubt, she already got what she always wanted.
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putri
@leny34 (8506)
• Sidoarjo, Indonesia
14 Dec 18
@JustBhem so are you not sure about that?
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Marlina
@marlina (154166)
• Canada
13 Dec 18
Better forget about that person as fast as you can.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
How I wish that easy. But I will try Marlina. Thanks.
Alfredo Rossi
@amadeo (111948)
• United States
13 Dec 18
sorry there.Why do you always get in this predicament there. It is not how I feel about it.Is how you feel about it.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
Maybe I am too good to experience such.
Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (305561)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Dec 18
I'm sorry that happened to you.
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Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Dec 18
The first time that happens to me, Val. I was too naive or gullible enough to fall for that almost 6 years.
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