How does mylot benifit you?

Thanks for the short word

@JudyEv I understand your reason. Thank You for your kind explanation. I remember you always being nice to everyone here...I am happy to see you are the same.

@ms1864 Exactly and the topics are so varied - from current events and disasters to recipes and just general fun things. I really enjoy my time when I can be here.

Thank You for you kind response. Your logic makes sense....if its a better alternative to something that is not so productive then mylot does make good for social interaction.

@ms1864 yes, i am here for quite a long time ... but i stopped for years and gratefully the money i earned the last time was still there... i stopped for 3 years or 4 maybe. good no problem here...

Wow...looks like you have been here a long time....I don't think we have interacted before. Thank you for your comment Mavic. People here are definitely nice enough to form friendships with. and thank you for asking...but no...i no longer have any issues here.

@ms1864 Oh, dear. This is definitely the misunderstanding of the year! It's a good example of how easily misunderstandings arise if one doesn't see each other during a conversation. Body language, tone of voice carry a lot of meaning, too. 1. I'm not mad at you. Not the least bit. It takes more to make me mad. 2. I did *not* bring religion into it! This is absurd. I don't read and discuss religious discussions here. Only recently I've mentioned in a comment that if I were the owner of a writing site like myLot, I would not allow religious posts at all. I mentioned Protestantism because what you've written reminds me of an attitude many Protestants have. That's all and nothing is wrong with that. You may have other features which remind me of an Italian woman or something like that. Comparisons are allowed to make a concept clear. Obviously, the comparison I chose misfired. Why have you written in your post that members shouldn't be *offended* by it? You've mentioned this even twice. This shows that you feel that you're attacking them with your questions. "Is the time that you spend here really worth it?" I can only read this question as a request for explanation and/or justification - and that is what raises my hackles. Devout Protestants have this attitude that everything a human being does in this life should have a meaning and not be superficial. Leisure and play should not be indulged in. "You might feel like people are sympathizing to your pain or your struggles...but everyone's life remains unaffected regardless of what they write here." This is a wrong perception in my opinion. I'm convinced that there are members who do feel comforted if others sympathise with them and/or give them useful pieces of advice. I'm not one of them. I don't have the urge to write about personal problems on an internet site. But each to their own. Of course, there are also members who fake catastrophes in order to get sympathy from strangers. They can only be pitied. Yet, no harm is done if something like this happens. 3. In order to answer the question why I am here, I would have to go back 18 (!) years when I discovered a writing site on the internet. I may write a post about the topic one of these days. Two reasons I'm going to mention already here and now are: Firstly, I enjoy writing English texts because I have no other possibility of keeping my active English on a high level. I read nearly only English books but that's not the same. I don't live in an English speaking country. Secondly, I don't need the money I earn here. But I derive a childish pleasure from earning some dollars. I can buy two to three cups of cappuccino a month(!) in a café with it.

Hi Maluse, I was happy to see your comment until i read how you might have misunderstood my post. But remembering my good communication history with you... I wish to answer your comment and questions. Please try read them calmly...i only wish to explain. Even though you say you say you need no reason to justify yourself ..you still posted to explain...I remember that you are very selective in which posts you comment on..so I am glad you made this effort...even though you sound a bit mad at me. For this very reason I had mentioned that one could feel free to skip this post. ...because I understand that no one here is answerable to me. I feel a bit sad that my words came across like this for you. I think all of us have a different approach to everything in life...not all who stay here are here for the same reason (which is why i thought to ask). In life when we are consistent with something...when we do it for long periods of time...there always is a stronger base reason that manages to hold our attention for that long. Be it relationships, friendships, need for social interaction etc. It's everyone own personal need ...but yes...most things we do...even menial things..have a deeper meaning. Everything we do on a daily bases, everything we interact with on some level takes us to the next day and the ones after that...just because most of them are done subconsciously...doesn't make them irrelevant. So yes, what we engage in, does change us. I am no one to tell what anyone is worth. Plus, my intention wasn't to ask people what others on this site are "worth" to them. I was solely asking what this SITE meant to them. Because once you meet someone you like here, it isn't necessary to interact with them on this specific social platform. One always has the option to communicate on other more interactive platforms. So here you might have inferred my words wrong. Again, understanding is subjective so I wouldn't blame anyone for not immediately understanding my intention. I apologize if my post wasn't clear enough. No one should force friendships ....so if you feel better by not considering me a friend, I shall respect your wishes and try never to force my interaction on you from this post onward. I am not a Christian. I think its unfortunate you had to bring religion into this. Not all Point of Views are based on religious beliefs. I could have just as easy formed an opinion based on my personal life experiences... like most of us do. No one spends time on things which they have no pull towards. There is always a satisfaction we derive from things we choose to do. Hobbies fall under the same category. It's not useless if it brings you anything good, be it happiness, peace or comfort. The intelligent people you mention are aware of this fact. Many of their biography's reflect this...if you wish to verify. You could pick any intelligent person and dive into their life..you will see that they never thought any of it to be a waste of time or even useless for that matter. Just because we don't understand how it enriches their lives doesn't mean we can't attempt to understand. Which brings me back to my main point.. I was just trying to understand the reasons. Which if you read the few comments I have received...people have kindly given. Even though just like you...non of them are answerable to me or anyone else. It's just that...if we don't ask...we may never know. Everyone has different priorities... its no crime to attempt to understand someone else's. It might just give me better perspective. Hoping I have explained myself better. And wishing you the best.

Yes ...there are no rules. By the way...your dp is super cute.

@ms1864 thank you, you also look very beautiful