Unschooling Teaches

@noni1959 (9876)
United States
January 13, 2019 4:43pm CST
Whenever I take one of my granddaughters to the store or other places during school time, someone always comments about why she is not in school. It's obvious these people don't look at the whole picture especially where I live that home schooling is a thing. I usually say she is home schooled and leave it at that but once in awhile, someone will pop off back saying she should be home in school then. Homeschooling can be classroom with set hours but can also be unschooling with a few hours of book work and the rest out exploring and learning. Grocery shopping helps with math, visiting museums helps with history, cooking class at home or other places helps with economics and some schools offer events to the home schoolers to participate. My granddaughter will be attending a culinary class soon offered from a high school to youth wanting to learn. Lillian is considered 3rd grade now and will test this year to see how well she is on track with requirements. Do you home school or understand how it works?
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
13 Jan 19
I know a few people who homeschool so I do understand how it works. Some people are rude and so judgemental. It is really none of their business but they want to make it theirs.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
14 Jan 19
They do. Those are the type that even make bad remarks about someone disabled that uses parking spots for handicap and walk in. I'm one of those who use them when I know I'll need to.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
14 Jan 19
@noni1959 Some people are like that wherever they go.
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@florelway (23092)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Jan 19
@noni1959, there are people who enjoys talking ill of other people. Rumor is their business.
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@JudyEv (325337)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Jan 19
Some people are very what? Confronting? Rude? I had to laugh at the retort 'she should be home in school then'. But such remarks must get very old. Home-schooling is reasonably common here, and there are quite strict guidelines in place to make sure kids keep up to scratch.
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• Philippines
14 Jan 19
@noni1959 it sounds like your granddaughter can hold her own. you're a great role model.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
14 Jan 19
Many do get rude and confronting. Some assume the child is skipping school and the parent doesn't care. I hear many remarks. Recently, I had my granddaughter with me at a coffee shop around 11 am and the lady next to us gave me a look and directly asked my granddaughter if her school let out early and she didn't ask nice. She was fishing. My granddaughter politely but firmly told her she is home schooled. The woman shook her head obviously judging and I told her calmly to mind her own business and not address my granddaughter anymore. She got mad and stormed out.
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@JudyEv (325337)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Jan 19
@noni1959 Good for you. Some people have no idea do they? They are so quick to judge without knowing the whole story - or any of it.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Jan 19
i certainly understand how it works and wish i had done it. today it seems the best way with how this world works
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Jan 19
@noni1959 good parents
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@sallypup (57717)
• Centralia, Washington
13 Jan 19
My hubby and I home schooled daughter until she went off to the last years of high school-community college. We did not have a computer to help in those days. What I couldn't help with, hubby and his engineering education did.
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@sallypup (57717)
• Centralia, Washington
14 Jan 19
@noni1959 We used to get snarky comments on Daughter's social times or lack of. Sure irritating.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
14 Jan 19
@sallypup My oldest daughter and I went on a cruise around 2011 and there were a few children on board. I would over hear people demanding to know why those kids were taken out of school to vacation. One father of one of the children got so mad at a snarky lady being loud to bring attention that he yelled, "he is home schooled even on the ship, you old nosey ____" I don't like name calling but actually wanted to applaud. It embarrassed her when she set out to embarrass him first.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
14 Jan 19
We might use the computer or TV once a week for a documentary or for ASL learning but most are work books, hands on learning and our own things we put together.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
14 Jan 19
I went to school but I learned more at home than in school, my siblings and parents had me reading and doing math before the first grade.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
I was reading high school in 1st grade. My dad read True Detective magazines and I wanted to know what they said. I would see the photos and ask my dad. He wouldn't tell me so I was determined to read. He helped me learn more than school not knowing my intent and I took off with it. He also taught me about writing checks, balancing a check book, cooking over a camp fire and more. I went to a regular school too but learned more at home.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
15 Jan 19
@noni1959 My dad was great at math and one of his best friends was the math teacher in my high school. My dad was determined to make me the best math student in the class. Everyday my dad would drop me off at the school on his way to work and ask his friend how his homework was the day before.
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@josie_ (9763)
• Philippines
13 Jan 19
For parents who have to work, sending their children to school would be more practical. It takes a lot of effort,determination and consistency to home school our kids. But given the quality of education especially in the public school system (I'm referring to our Philippine education), home schooling is a good alternative. I encourage my grandchildren, two who live with us that learning is a life long process and does not stop outside the school.
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@MALUSE (69416)
• Germany
13 Jan 19
The public school system in Germany is good and I'd prefer it any time to home schooling. But nobody has to make decisions as home schooling is not allowed in Germany.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
14 Jan 19
My youngest daughter still takes college courses and instills in her we learn for life. I was working full time until I retired last year and she in school full time plus having my grandson with Down Syndrome but we make it work each helping. She learns daily and not just five days a week. It can be difficult for working parents. We do most our home school part from about 9 am to 11 am and after that is other ways to learn. Like at meal times she does the recipe preps measuring and learning fractions, time, etc. Some home schoolers do a charter online class. The schools out here are not that great so it's best she is home schooled.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
14 Jan 19
@MALUSE I didn't know you couldn't in Germany. Interesting to learn.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Jan 19
I Home School my children and as you said most learning doesn't come from books alone. We take many different trips, even just walks and we learn so much! One day we walked when we first arrived in Georgia and we passed a cotton field. It took us on a history learning adventure as we like to call it! =) There are so many things to learn and many different ways to learn it all.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
Exactly! It's called unschooling here. My granddaughter has learned quite a bit about history at the Smithsonian and it was her favorite trip. She is learning about tree farming from my friend which includes identifying trees, math, logging, germinating, buying and so much more. It's real life and an interesting way to learn.
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
14 Jan 19
your methods show real life and current applications of what you learn
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
She does and every day reading, math, Botany, Psychology, Sociology, etc applies in most field trips.
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• United States
14 Jan 19
A lady I used to work with homeschools her children. She posts about their school work and also the trips she takes them on. I've also heard of Unschooling but am not quite sure how that works. I used to watch a youtuber that unschooled her children and they (the kids) had a lot of basic understanding and entry level skills that would help them with a future career. Such as woodworking or gardening etc. Honestly, people should just mind their own business most of the time anyway.
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• United States
15 Jan 19
@noni1959 Oh I see. I think that is a much better way to learn anyway. It gets her involved in things and wanting to ask questions. It's not just information being thrown at her, it's things she can interact with and be involved in. We have a science museum in my city called SciWorks it's for children around her age and features exhibits that can be interacted with. I haven't been in absolute ages myself but I can recall that it was fun when I was in school.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum When we first moved to Oregon, we took her to OMSI (Oregon Museum of Science and Industry) in Portland. She got to hold a real brain, learn about monkeys, King Tut exhibit, about Multiple Sclerosis, and more. She learned so much and wants to go back soon. I do too.
@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
Unschooling means there isn't a 8 am to 3 pm schooling work by a set curriculum and maybe charter online school. She does workbooks every morning at home like math, language arts, English, history... then she may go to a class we signed up for like art, music or something like that. I have her signed up for a cooking class with a high school culinary course. She is only 9 years old but they invite homeschooled and others to join them for occasional classes. We visit farms and learn about animals, raising vegetables, different types of plants, etc. We do marine life at the aquariums and more.
@Juliaacv (48256)
• Canada
13 Jan 19
I am not familiar with home-schooling, it doesn't seem to be the norm in our area. But I would never ever make a comment about a student not being in school during school hours-that is just not a stranger's right to be so openly judgemental. I think that if it were me, I would be prone to quietly look the person in the eyes and quietly say, mind your own business, and go about my day.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
14 Jan 19
There are so many who just assume about things and butt in.
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@LadyDuck (457349)
• Switzerland
14 Jan 19
When I was a student in my country homeschooling was not allowed, so I know nothing about this.
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@LadyDuck (457349)
• Switzerland
15 Jan 19
@noni1959 Now it is possible even in Europe, but very few are home schooled, because it's a problem for them if later they want to enter a college or to go to the University.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
I'm learning more and more about different states and countries that don't allow it.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
@LadyDuck Many here have no problem with it. They receive a degree when they final test. It's been interesting learning about other country's requirements and laws.
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@indexer (4852)
• Leicester, England
14 Jan 19
I can see that for children with special needs, home schooling can be the answer. For many children who do not learn at the same pace as others, or who do not respond well to a formal learning environment, school simply does not work. However, there are also big disadvantages, one of which can be the ability of an untrained parent to act as a substitute teacher. The temptation will be to reproduce the teaching that one had at that same age when at school, which will mean forgoing all the advantages that a teacher will have had during their training in the latest pedagogical methods. One must also not ignore the fact that most learning does not come from adults but from fellow learners. If you take the child away from that source of learning, you are surely putting them at a considerable disadvantage. You are also depriving the child from making friendships with other children that they would not otherwise meet, and that is very important if the school in question has a wide catchment from children of different social classes and racial and religious groupings. If everybody home-schooled, this would have a very bad effect on future social cohesion.
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@indexer (4852)
• Leicester, England
15 Jan 19
@noni1959 I fear that not every parent is as well-qualified or as caring as you. I firmly believe that, in matters of education, it is not the case that "one size fits all", and there is a danger that some parents will choose this option because of reasons other than the overall well-being of the child, including all the social and cultural aspects I mentioned before.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
@indexer Yes, some may but there are, at least in our country, guidelines, testing by the state and more that will identify those who are not thriving in an at home environment and will step in. The school district where my granddaughter would be going if she was in public school, contacts us periodically. She is also invited to take a class there while still being homeschooled. We have considered an art class. She has so many she goes to we don't want to overload her.
@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
I respect your opinion. Home schooled children are tested to make sure they are on board with learning. Both my daughter and I have experience with teaching and make sure she is learning correctly. She learns with others when meeting up with other homeschoolers and even those who go to school and other parents teach classes to them. She is 3rd grade but doing 4th and 5th grade work which is the norm for most home schooled to be a head. She has play dates, goes to the Gilbert House and interacts with other children, has cousins she plays with, and she knows about special needs children because her brother, my grandchild has Down Syndrome. We go to several Down Syndrome events and there are children who go who have other special needs. I also have a granddaugther who since have passed away, who had Pallister-Killian Syndrome. We have friends who are from other places like India, Costa Rica, Mexico, Africa and England. She knows about atheist, Muslim, Catholic, Methodist, etc. Not everyone can or wants to home school so social cohesion isn't a worry.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
14 Jan 19
I was homeschooled. I went on to go to a state University - I graduated Magna Cume Laude. But yes, I meet a lot of people who are totally clueless and feel welcome to tell me that I'm at an intellectual disadvantage because I was homeschooled. And yes, I think it's good for them to learn real world skills too - I guess there are college age young adults now, who, once they get out in the real world, don't know how to grocery shop, cook, pay bills, do laundry, etc
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
17 Jan 19
@FayeHazel You're welcome. I know many who can't spell, read and barely write, yet graduated from public school.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
I see so many high school graduates from regular schools who can barely read, write, spell, and do simple math. How wonderful you graduated Magna Cume Laude.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
17 Jan 19
@noni1959 It's amazing, isn't it? I used to doubt my educate myself - I didn't have anything to compare it with, so I wondered. But then, like you mentioned I noticed so many other hs grads who could barely function and I thought.... I must be alright :-) Thanks! It was a nice surprise for me
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@Janet357 (75656)
14 Jan 19
I have no children but had i had a child, i would have her home-schooled as well. I believe he or she could have learned more from it than attending a regular school. Bad influences from classmates, plus it the expenses on scholl bus or what. To be honest, the things you learn from school are barely used in our day to day lives. Homeschooling, you are right teaches your child of the practical stuff we do everyday
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
I think some people look at it like there is no actual learning but in reality there is more learning going on and it's year round with no summer breaks or holidays. We do of course give her Christmas off and most Sundays but even on those days we wind up doing something like watching a documentary, going for a walk and talking about tree species etc.
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@Janet357 (75656)
15 Jan 19
@noni1959 i agree with you.homeschooling provides a more practical knowledge,compared to the one provided by a real school.
@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
14 Jan 19
I do not, but my daughter does. She is more critical of herself than others are. Her kids are learning all the time. They have opportunities to participate in more than if they were tied to busy work home work. She also takes them many places and they see how "real life" works. I am proud of her for doing so. She is friends with many home school families.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
That is very nice to hear. I agree they have more opportunities seeing how real life works. My granddaughter is also learning seven days and week and all hours and not just a set schedule.
@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
14 Jan 19
There’s nothing wrong with homeschooling some still do not understand how it is because they are used to the traditional way of sending their children to school. They feel different if they see parents having their children attend school in a different setting. For me it’s ok for as long as the child’s social interaction with other of her age group is allowed. We are social beings and should not isolate them while in their growing years. I know there are some homeschool that offer students to mingle with the other children at some point of the school year.
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@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
15 Jan 19
@noni1959 Okay the only feedback I get from others about homeschooling is the lack of social interaction with other children outside the confines of the family. But I guess if parents are willing to allow them to interact with other kids that would be fine. I know of a local homeschool that arranges their students to have a time together:
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
My granddaughter sees children her age and near almost every day. There may be some days she doesn't go to other outings since we live very rural in the mountains but she has cousins she talks to on Skype and come here. She is extremely a people person.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
@rsa101 It's very important they interact outside the family. Most have them in many programs, play dates etc but there will be a few who don't for whatever reason. It's sad but happens.
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
14 Jan 19
I was a teacher and professor and didn’t homeschool. I know how it works.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
Nice career. I did substitute before my Gov career and still did some part-time even when I did change. It's rewarding to teach others. My children went to a regular school except in high school, my oldest became homeschooled and she thrived much better and learned so much more.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
@DianneN I agree it can depend on the child but think any child can be home schooled but the parents have to be on board to make sure the education they are receiving fits the child.
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
15 Jan 19
@noni1959 I suppose it depends on the child. Our younger son went to private school from 7th grade through high school and our older son went to public school straight through. I have two grandchildren. My granddaughter goes to public school in Manhattan (one she had to apply to and hope she’d get accepted), while my grandson goes to a private school due to being tested as a genius. He’d never survive in a public school.
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@Hannihar (129379)
• Israel
14 Jan 19
@noni1959 I have heard that homeschooling can be just as good as going to school. I found what people ask me something and I tell them they do not listen to what I say at times. There are people that like to stick their nose in other people's business and do not care.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
There will always be negative people or those who just choose not to open their minds to the possibilities.
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@Hannihar (129379)
• Israel
15 Jan 19
@noni1959 You are very right on that. I have heard good things about home schooling. There are always going to be those that do not understand why some homeschool their kids.
@arunima25 (85265)
• Bangalore, India
14 Jan 19
Homeschooling is not so common in India. But we have few parents who go with their conviction and home school. I am a group of those few who follow Waldorf curriculum. I am doing it with my younger one who is in Grade 6 now. I did not know about it earlier. I gave the choice to my elder one but she liked her school and friends and wanted to continue. There are many more parents joining us now and we all go through these kind of prejudices and confrontations each day.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
I agree. We also have given my granddaughter the decision of if she wants to try regular school when she gets older, we can give it a try. So far she does not.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
16 Jan 19
@arunima25 We are strict with her for reading, math, language arts, writing and geography but weekly she can choose something she wants to go learn. She wants to go visit an old state mental hospital that is now a museum.
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@arunima25 (85265)
• Bangalore, India
15 Jan 19
@noni1959 I feel children learn better when they are in charge of their learning. It puts less pressure and is more enjoyable.
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@florelway (23092)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Jan 19
These people are not exposed to the modern world. They believe that acquiring education is only through the conventional way where students sit on a desk while listening to teachers.
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@noni1959 (9876)
• United States
15 Jan 19
Many courses at the schools have been taken away too like some don't have business courses and home economics which are needed in life.
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@florelway (23092)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
15 Jan 19
@noni1959 which are very important in daily activities. Business subjects are very important.