Are cousins not allowed to really get married?

@annierose (18926)
Philippines
January 20, 2019 1:33am CST
I am not sure how true it is that if a person marries his or her cousin, their future children will possess abnormalities. If I am not mistaken, there are some rich people that in order for their wealth to be intact, they let their kids marry their own cousins. I had a suitor before when I was still a college student whom I like but when we found out that we were cousins, we stopped that special feelings. He is now a widower and I am single again. Yesterday, he visited me and bring me my favorite ice cream. Our friends think there is a special reason behind it but I am not thinking that way. I always think we are cousins and we cannot fall in love with each other.
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@LadyDuck (454973)
• Switzerland
20 Jan 19
Well Queen Elizabeth and her husband are cousins... I think it's better to avoid.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Jan 19
That's interesting. How about their kids?
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
21 Jan 19
@LadyDuck I am not well knowledgeable about what their habits really are.
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@LadyDuck (454973)
• Switzerland
21 Jan 19
@annierose Well, I think you know who are the sons and daughter of Queen Elizabeth and Charles is well know for his weird habits and the others are pretty weird too.
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@hereandthere (45671)
• Philippines
20 Jan 19
don't force it if you don't really feel it.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Jan 19
I am not thinking that there is another meaning behind his actions now. I do not give colors on it although my cousin is really a good guy if only he's not my cousin. We have known each other since childhood and I think he is a good catch for any women.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Jan 19
@hereandthere What happened to their kids? We are third degree cousins.
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• Philippines
20 Jan 19
@annierose i hope he does. i did have a classmate way back in college whose parents had the same surnames because they were cousins, however, not first or second degree.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
20 Jan 19
First of all, it isn't true to say that the children from a union of first cousins WILL have abnormalities. There is a slightly increased possibility that some of the children might but the likelihood is thought by some to be no greater than the chance that any woman over 35 and married to someone unrelated to her is likely to bear children with disabilities. Some countries allow first cousins to marry while others do not. England, for example, has no law forbidding the marriage of first cousins and there are many examples of first cousin marriages which have produced perfectly normal children. Both Queen Victoria and Charles Darwin, for example, married their first cousins.
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Jump to navigation Jump to search Charles Darwin and his wife Emma were first cousins.Part of a series on theAnthropology of kinship Basic concepts Descent Linealities Household forms and residence Terminology By group
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
21 Jan 19
Good for them that the results of their love turned out to be normal.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
20 Jan 19
It actually depends on how far the affinity of your blood relations are wit them. By law there are limitations, I am just not sure how it is. Biologically speaking there is truth about marrying within family members. Genetics has somehow designed us to be match with those that are not related to us so we would be as diverse as we could be. If we are to be matched with those that are genetically related then there are higher possibilities that abnormalities may show in their offsprings because of the defective genes will be strengthened further.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
21 Jan 19
@annierose yeah the probability of getting those gets higher when the relations are nearer like first cousins, siblings and the like.
@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
21 Jan 19
It is a scary thing to think that the offspring of two individiuals which are closely related by genes will show abnormalities. I think that if they really cannot get away from each other because of their feelings, much better to not bear any child of their own at all. Or, perhaps, its better to just adopt kids.
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• United States
24 Feb 19
I have heard of people marrying their own cousin. In some places in the United States, they are called "Kissing cousins." I am an American but my background is Puerto Rican. In that culture, it was common for cousins to intermarry.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Mar 19
@ Montecristodog, that is interesting. How are their kids?
• United States
20 Mar 19
@annierose Unfortunately, one of them winded up being mentally challenged.
@a_jerobon (2304)
• Eldoret, Kenya
20 Jan 19
I don't know if it is true too but many say that the children born by cousins will have abnormalities.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Jan 19
Yes, that is the belief in here too.
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@mayka123 (16555)
• India
26 Jan 19
There are chances of kids of cousins having abnormalities so its best to avoid such marriages. If you can avoid it then would advise you to please avoid.
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@mayka123 (16555)
• India
29 Mar 19
@annierose Thats good.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Mar 19
@mayka123, Yes, we were able to do it. I divert my time and attention with other things now and he has his girlfriend now so I think it is okay now.
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@1hopefulman (45125)
• Canada
20 Jan 19
That's an interesting question. I found this article on it. Are you and your cousin, 1st cousin, 2nd cousins or what?
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/theres-nothing-wrong-with-cousins-getting-married-scientists-say-1210072.html
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@1hopefulman (45125)
• Canada
21 Jan 19
@annierose You are welcome!
@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Jan 19
thank you very much for sharing this. It is an interesting article. We are 3rd cousins.
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@antonbunot (11091)
• Calgary, Alberta
21 Jan 19
Okay, let us make this scenario clearer . . . Is he your first cousin? Anyway, keep this in mind . . . A first cousins are not supposed to be married because, chances are, some of your children will have some mental abnormalities. Same with third cousins. . . But second cousins can get married. I know some people back in the Philippines, who married their second cousins. Their children are normal like you and me. If you are second cousins, go for it! Don't delay! Be happy! Here's another thing that I suggest . . You said both of you are free again . . . If both of you agree not to have kids anymore, it does not matter whether you are cousins of the first degree or third degree . . If you love each other so dearly - - go, go, be happy! Don't delay . . life is short!
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Mar 19
Haha! Thanks Julito @antonbunot, I don't like to have a romantic relationship with my cousin. Thanks God that we were both able to pass the test and now busy with our own lives.
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@antonbunot (11091)
• Calgary, Alberta
21 Mar 19
@annierose Okay then. Just ignore what I wrote!
@just4him (303372)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Jan 19
You can get hemophilia from marrying close family members. Fourth cousins are allowed to marry because it is far enough down the line not to contract that blood disorder.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
21 Jan 19
I also heard about it to older people. If they are far relatives then there is no problem with it.
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@just4him (303372)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
21 Jan 19
@annierose Yes, no problem if cousins are at least 4th or more.
@Hannihar (129117)
• Israel
21 Jan 19
@annierose I know someone here that married his cousin. I was watching this show about religious Jews and everyone they dated wasn't the one and then these two cousins got a long so well that they wanted marry each other. They got along so well and if it someone you know very well why not. I used to think it was weird but now thinking if two cousins get a long so well why not marry each other.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Mar 19
Thanks @Hannihar, The one thing that makes people forget about marrying their cousins are the danger of having offsprings that has some problems. Many people says that genes play a big role on the personality or physical appearance of a person.
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@Hannihar (129117)
• Israel
20 Mar 19
@annierose Never thought of the offspring having problems.
• Guangdong, China
20 Jan 19
well, maybe according to some biologic books, they said for the health of the next generation, it was better not to married to some blood relations?
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Mar 19
Yes and the elders will be upset cousins marrying his or her own cousins. They think it is immoral and selfish for the future kids.
@Ladanger (14587)
• United States
20 Jan 19
That is what they say but i am not even sure if it's true.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Mar 19
Same here but its better to be safe than sorry.
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@debjani1 (7211)
21 Jan 19
Yes cousins are not allowed to really get married. They are our sisters in relation.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
20 Mar 19
I agree with you Debjani! Although it is difficult at first but time really can make us accept things that we cannot change.