how would you feel if a man you love proposed without buying a ring?

how would you feel? - is it nessecary?
United States
November 28, 2006 3:04pm CST
do you think an engagement ring is completely nessecary? or do you think its just tradition? is anyone married that doesnt have one? i know you dont need the engagement ring, but should have wedding bands.. but would you still marry someone if they had no plans to buy one? for whatever reason be it money, tradition, or culture?
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12 responses
• India
28 Nov 06
proposing does not mean that there should be a ring.. yes at the time of engagement there should be.. so the porposing is the way to say the feeling and express the feeling which you are having for someone.. tlhere is no need of ring for it.. as i think so..
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• United States
28 Nov 06
so you feel that one should be produced if you accept the proposal? thank you very much for your response! makes sense~!
@srhelmer (6934)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
28 Nov 06
I think it should still be expected when someone proposes. Especially since, today, you can get engagement rings without having to spend a fortune. When I proposed to my wife, the engagement ring cost me about $125 at Walmart.
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• United States
28 Nov 06
wow! thank you so much for responding!.. and the extra input! do you mind if i ask how long ago that was or if you ever ended up upgrading to a more expensive one?
@jennifer611 (2502)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I think he can ask but he should get u a ring soon.. I can see him like not wanting to wait because maybe he just felt like right then was the time but if he is really serious its probably time he got a ring... If the man loves ya and wants to get married that badly, I think he owes a ring atleast to symbolize his love for the woman...
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• United States
31 Dec 06
thank you for your response!
• United States
28 Nov 06
well when I asked my wife to marry me i didn't get her a ring right away. Actually I took her with me to pick one out. I wasn't going to just get any ring for her and give it to her I wanted it to be something she liked and was ok with wearing forever. As far as bands go to me it doesn't matter if you wear one or not. I don't wear mine all the time because i work with my hands so much I'm afriad i'll lose it. I wear it when we go out or when I don't have to work but on days that I work I don't wear it. She does the same thing she won't wear her rings when she has to work either.
• United States
28 Nov 06
thank you very much for expressing that side of view! i usually hear it the other way around!..it seems you and your wife have alot in common as to your "ways of doing things" lol.. im glad you 2 found each other!~
@starr4all (2865)
28 Nov 06
I don't think an engagement is necessary. I got one but that's not the important thing at the time. I think the important thing is the actual proposal. I would still marry someone even without the ring. But I'm already married so that is a moot point.
• United States
28 Nov 06
thank you for your response and your experience!
@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
28 Nov 06
it is just a tradition but it is a added bonus most people like. my man hasnt bought me a ring but i will still be marrying him.
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• United States
28 Nov 06
thank you so much for your opinion! ... im with you.. mine hasnt bought one yet.. but he plans on it
@Meljep (1668)
• United States
28 Nov 06
A ring is a symbol. It shows everyone else that some one is committed to you and you're committed to them and that no one else can have you. The important thing is to have a wedding band, but you can buy an inexpensive ring for an engagement ring at almost any department store.
• United States
28 Nov 06
cheap or expensive? - do you opt for a cheaper ring or do you break the bank?
thank you for your response! but i have to ask .. since you feel like an engagement ring is a symbol of your feelings and committments.. do you think that buying a less expensive ring would be seen as a reflectment of a lack of feeling and committment??
• Canada
28 Nov 06
I would expect to get an engagement ring if someone proposed to me. It just wouldn't feel real unless I had one. And it would be hard to explain to people why when you tell them you're engaged and they ask to see your ring that you don't have one. Just like wedding bands I think an engagement ring represents love and commitment.
• United States
28 Nov 06
thank you for posting yor opinion! i understand why you feel this way.. however i also so tradition as a big part of it as well as upbringing..but i must ask, is a large part what you feel you family and friends would think? or not wanting to have to "explain" yourself?
@chukwudi (1100)
• Nigeria
28 Nov 06
i will feel great,the ring is not necessary
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• United States
28 Nov 06
thank you for your response!
• United States
28 Nov 06
well ive been married for 3 years now and i done have an engagement ring. i hate diamonds so i found a very pretty stone but he found one he liked and i didnt so it was me buy my own, him buy one i hated, or none at all. we saved the money. or in my brothers case she bought him a ring! gl
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• United States
28 Nov 06
wow! well i wouldnt say that i "hate" diamonds.. they are however not my favorite stone.. nice of you to share your experience.. and i agree that it would probably save some extra cash as well!
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
28 Nov 06
Yes I would as it is not the ring that matters as long as I know he loves me I don't need a ring
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• United States
28 Nov 06
thank you very much for your response and yor honesty!
@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
10 Jan 07
It happened to me! We had been living together at the time for a few years and while we were making the bed one day, he all of a sudden said, "I think it's time to get married." As you can imagine, I almost fainted. It made me happy that he actually wanted to make it official but, please...not at all romantic. If I'd had any sense at the time I would have said, 'no'; not until I see a ring and I'm asked correctly. But of course, I didn't. I think I feared he wouldn't ask again; even though, technically, he didn't ask, he just stated...lol