My brother humiliates me.

@Nevena83 (18011)
Serbia
February 17, 2019 3:38pm CST
Good evening friends. I managed to keep Helem up to 22 hours, and then she fell asleep, now I should sleep all night. Today we were alone, because they all went to cut wood in the woods, and the two of us spent time outside. When I was supposed to bathe, my brother made a problem and started crying. I can not believe he's so insensitive. I constantly suffer his insults and I do not expect him to thank me for worrying about Helena, but at least to stop insulting me. Unfortunately this will never happen. How do you react to insults and humiliations?
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@Corbin5 (134645)
• United States
17 Feb
Do not react at all if you want him to stop. He wants a reaction from you, and if he does not get one, he will stop.
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@WiseGhots (13389)
17 Feb
This makes a HUGE sense, Deborah.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
17 Feb
Maybe you're right, but he'll never stop.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
17 Feb
@WiseGhots Yes, but sometimes I can not stand it, because he really knows how to hurt me.
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@hillhjill (17153)
• United States
17 Feb
I say something back!! I don't let people do that to me family or not. You need stand your ground and tell him how it makes you feel.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
17 Feb
But he does not care how I feel, he wants me to feel bad.
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@hillhjill (17153)
• United States
17 Feb
@Nevena83 then sometimes it best just to cut those people out of your life..you don't need that in your life at all.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
17 Feb
@hillhjill You're right, but that's almost impossible, because I live with my parents and he comes to this house.
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@dya80dya (12243)
• Romania
17 Feb
I try to ignore the insults and humiliations. Try to do the same.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
17 Feb
Yes, I'm trying, but I can not, because he knows how to challenge my reaction.
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@dya80dya (12243)
• Romania
17 Feb
@Nevena83 My brother did the same because I cared so much. He knows that you care and this is why he insults you.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
17 Feb
@dya80dya You're right, but it's a very difficult feeling, right?
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@CarolDM (19020)
• United States
17 Feb
I walk away and ignore such absurd behavior.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
17 Feb
It's good, but it's hard to escape, he's talking badly about me even when he thinks I do not hear him, he uses every opportunity to insult and humiliate me.
@Hannihar (55826)
21 Feb
@Nevena83 I am very sorry. My brother is no picnic either. He should not treat you that way. Has he always been like that?
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
21 Feb
He was not always like that, as a child was fine, but later he became very bad.
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@Hannihar (55826)
22 Feb
@Nevena83 I wonder why he became bad?
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
23 Feb
@Hannihar I do not know. My mother was always attached to him and always liked him more, always defended him, even when making mistakes, she always justified him ...
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@LadyDuck (208429)
• Switzerland
18 Feb
I fully agree with Deborah @Corbin5, he takes pleasure in offending you and he expects your reaction. Do nothing, ignore him.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
19 Feb
You're right, he wants my reaction and I always try not to get it.
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@LadyDuck (208429)
• Switzerland
20 Feb
@Nevena83 I know that this is what they want, do not give him this satisfaction, ignore him.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
22 Feb
@LadyDuck I do my best, but I think I can not endure it, because it has hurt me many times and once there is enough word that will force me to react.
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@WiseGhots (13389)
17 Feb
Well, I certainly would have a serious conversation with him... AT LEAST.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
17 Feb
You can not talk to him.
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@WiseGhots (13389)
17 Feb
@Nevena83 Why not?
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
17 Feb
@WiseGhots Because he is someone who thinks he is the smartest, not to be mistaken ...
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@moffittjc (50787)
• Gainesville, Florida
20 Feb
I do not let insults and negative words bother me. I just ignore them. I don't let the words of other people affect who I am as a person. If they say bad things, that's their problem, not mine. I choose to be positive and happy. If they choose to be negative, angry or sad, well that's just something they have to live with. I am choosing to enjoy life. If they choose to suffer through life because of their poor attitudes, then they are just not going to be very happy people. Life is too short for that.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
21 Feb
That sounds so good. I'd like to be like you.
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@moffittjc (50787)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Feb
@Nevena83 I know there are so many factors that contribute to our outlook on life. Our personality, our upbringing, our education, our health, etc. I have rough days where I feel depressed, angry or sad, just like everyone else. But I force myself to snap out of it and find the good or happiness in each situation.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
23 Feb
@moffittjc But it's hard for me to find the motivation to get up when I fall.
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@moonandstars (13304)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
18 Feb
Why did he cry, I don't get it? I react hurt, surprised and start insulting the person as well but, I don't feel good abou it. I always wanted for bad people to leave me alone.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
19 Feb
I always react emotionally, I can not hurt others
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• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
20 Feb
@Nevena83 And, as many said below, it is recognised as your weakness. Maybe trying ignoring your brother cause, it would give him less satisfaction. I know it hurts, trust me, I've been there
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
22 Feb
@moonandstars It really hurts a lot, sometimes the pain is unbearable.
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@LowRiderX (4121)
• Serbia
3 Mar
If I understood well, your brother was a grown man,right?
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
3 Mar
My brother is only two years younger than me. He is 34 years old, which could be said to be a grown man.
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@LowRiderX (4121)
• Serbia
3 Mar
@Nevena83 Than why he cry? Actually, I do not understand that part
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
3 Mar
@LowRiderX He is a very rough man and we both have a very bad relationship, but his daughter loves me and I think he can not accept it. And he will make Helena cry, to harm me.
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@Shavkat (72498)
• Philippines
18 Feb
For me, I need to call my siblings attention. It is not the right thing to humiliate or insult me. Then, we can talk about some concerns about why they feel that way.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
19 Feb
You can not talk to him.
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@Shavkat (72498)
• Philippines
20 Feb
@Nevena83 In that's the case. we can just let it go. It takes time for somebody or someone to realize what had happened. Let the time takes its course on this then.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
22 Feb
@Shavkat You're right, but he does not want to let me go, he enjoys hurting me.
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@1hopefulman (38665)
• Canada
18 Feb
Sorry! I am thankful that I do not have that problem. I have two great brothers for which I'm thankful.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
19 Feb
It's very nice to have a good family.
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@1hopefulman (38665)
• Canada
19 Feb
@Nevena83 Yes, it is a great blessing and a real pleasure to have a good family. I wish everyone had that but sadly not everyone does.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
19 Feb
@1hopefulman Unfortunately, many do not have good family relationships.
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@JudyEv (156503)
• Bunbury, Australia
17 Feb
I'm sorry your brother is so insensitive. I would try to ignore him too.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
18 Feb
Yes, everyone advises me the same, but sometimes it's very difficult.
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@JudyEv (156503)
• Bunbury, Australia
18 Feb
@Nevena83 Next time he is nasty, think of all your myLot friends lined up behind you poking their tongues out at him.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
19 Feb
@JudyEv I will try.
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@yugocean (9195)
• India
5 Mar
Unfortunately, you just wait for your chance and do the same, nothing else suggestive.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
5 Mar
But I can not do that. I'm not like that.
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@yugocean (9195)
• India
7 Mar
@Nevena83 Then do it partly, and make him remember how he behaved. Till then, ignore, or record his behave.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
7 Mar
@yugocean Yes, I'm trying to ignore him.
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@dalija (97)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
5 Mar
I'm sorry that way
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
5 Mar
Thank you. Do you have a brother or a sister?
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@dalija (97)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
5 Mar
@Nevena83 Yes 2 brothers and 2 sisters
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
5 Mar
@dalija really? Wooow. Do you all live close to each other?
@DianneN (109666)
• United States
20 Feb
You'd be wise to ignore him and not give him the satisfaction of letting him know he is upsetting you. Don't reinforce his nasty behavior.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
21 Feb
You're right, I'm trying to, but sometimes it's very difficult to ignore his bad behavior.
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@DianneN (109666)
• United States
21 Feb
@Nevena83 I'm sure it is, but if I were you, I'd just walk away rather than argue. It seems no one will change him, and why argue?
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
22 Feb
@DianneN Yes, he will never change, he behaves like that for his girlfriend. I'm sure it will be the same for his children.
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@Happy2BeMe (87101)
• Canada
17 Feb
I would ignore him. I know it's hard and like you said he will never change so you have to learn to just ignore him and react to his insults. He doesn't sound like a very nice person.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
17 Feb
Yes, it's very difficult to ignore him. It may sound ugly to say this, but he's a really bad person.
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@Happy2BeMe (87101)
• Canada
17 Feb
@Nevena83 that is terrible. I don't know how people can be so mean especially to their own family
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
19 Feb
@Happy2BeMe Yes, I can not figure it out either.
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@Susan2015 (23308)
• United States
17 Feb
Sorry that happened to you. I would ignore and not talk to him.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
18 Feb
Yes, you are right, but it's very difficult to be in the same house.
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@amadeo (87495)
• United States
17 Feb
@Corbin5 Deb says it all there.Good advice from her
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
18 Feb
Yes, you are right, she gave excellent advice and I know it, but sometimes it's very difficult not to react to very serious insults.
@fluffy69 (2938)
18 Feb
My mother is a bravado, she always insults me. But just to avoid confrontations, i ignore her.
@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
19 Feb
It's very difficult to ignore such people.
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@fluffy69 (2938)
20 Feb
@Nevena83 time will come, everything will subside.
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@Nevena83 (18011)
• Serbia
22 Feb
@fluffy69 Maybe, but I will not be the same anymore.
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