Is Being Frank Rude?
By @acelawrites
@acelawrites (19273)
Philippines
March 4, 2019 3:39pm CST
Yesterday, I attended a prayer gathering for the one year anniversary of the death of a close relative, when a classmate from the elementary days suddenly blurted to me as she greeted me that I am gaining weight!
She said I wasn't like this when I was younger. So I answered her that she is ruining my day, because I am too is having a hard time trying to lose some weight!
Could they not just greet in such a gentle manner, not like that way? And to think she is not a close friend; just someone who had been a classmate so long ago.
She felt I was annoyed so she remained silent. But at least I sent my message clear.
What do you think?
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20 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Mar 19
@acelawrites I an also be tactless sometimes. I am trying to reform myself from being that. But sometimes, it still prevails. 
@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
Some people can be so tactless, not thinking they can hurt feelings.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
happened to me in a jeepney with a college classmate so although there were only a few passengers, i knew they saw and heard because her reaction was over the top. i'm glad i haven't run into her again yet.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
@acelawrites oh, yes. i promised myself that!
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@Letranknight2015 (51513)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
Probably the most insensitive thing a person can say. Reminds me of one of my mom's former parents in her school years. She made comments that got pissed off my grandma. Good thing mom wasn't there. We didn't get mad directly as she was having a dialysis. She should have been more sensitive. lot of us have gained weight as we grow older.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
I agree, and some people should know what to say that won't hurt other people.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
Yes, it was rude because pother were lots of people there when she said it.
@DianneN (246720)
• United States
5 Mar 19
@acelawrites She sounds like a dud and not worth knowing.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
@DianneN I don't even refer her as a close friend and had not seen her for a long time.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
It is true, can't they think of any greeting?
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
4 Mar 19
I agree,because I think it'snot their problem if I gained weight, and they acted as if they are more knowledgeable about my body.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
@CarolDM I could not walk away from her because we were seated in the living room where the prayer would be held.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
@moeybags that's what I wished she should had done; anyway, I sent her the message that I was annoyed.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
6 Mar 19
Your not rude , your just being frank. To think that she is not a close friend of yours who greeted you to start a conversation. but had picked the wrong words to begin with.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
6 Mar 19
@acelawrites Yeah, some people could be inconsiderate sometimes.
@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
6 Mar 19
You said it right; she thought I would be pleased by what she said. The wrong choice of words to greet me! Instead of saying "oh you look healthy now!" to say that I gained weight!
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Mar 19
We should all treat others as we want to be treated. Sadly not everyone does this, sorry you were treated that way. =(
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Mar 19
@acelawrites Sometimes, when kindness isn't easy it's the most powerful words ever said.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
They thought I would always be kind; but that time, I thought of being offensive too so she won't do it again.
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
6 Mar 19
I think she was very rude and that wasn't being frank it was being mean.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
6 Mar 19
So I sent her my message by being frank that am hurt by what she said.
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@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
6 Mar 19
@acelawrites This is something that no one should ever do, commenting on other people weight.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
Am really annoyed when someone comments about my weight; it brings me down because it is one of the sources of my depression.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
Yes; people should know that it is a "mortal sin" to mention about the age and weight of a woman! They should know it.
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@JESSY3236 (18923)
• United States
5 Mar 19
yes she was rude and that wasn't appropriate to say to someone at a prayer meeting.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
It was when we were still waiting for the prayer leader to arrive. Not the right place indeed.
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@Bullshark (3477)
• Netherlands
5 Mar 19
That was rude of her. You should have given your classmate a time-out... 
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
Maybe I had sent her the message that I got angry, because she felt silent when I said that "she ruined my day!"
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@Bullshark (3477)
• Netherlands
6 Mar 19
@acelawrites I hope she will greet you with respect the next time the two of you bump into each other... 
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
5 Mar 19
People are so happy to comment on others on their physical structure. Yesterday, I visited a hospital to see some one with another friend. Where people commented on my friend she gained weight. I am just opposite and I am tired up on listening, don't you eat anything, why you are slim like this way... etc. I have no interest to reply to them... it is the nature of some people.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
Yes,it is their nature as if they could not blurt out anything to greet you!
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@snowy22315 (169940)
• United States
4 Mar 19
I think that was very rude personally..Who wants to hear that?
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
5 Mar 19
It ruins my day when someone makes such a negative comment. Why can't they see anything positive in me to say?
@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
4 Mar 19
I didn't know if she was just naive of such good manners.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
4 Mar 19
Maybe she was; but she is not so close to me;not a very close friend.
