Money can spoil relationship

@Sreekala (34314)
India
April 20, 2019 2:40am CST
It is very truly said that ‘money can spoil relationship’. People love money than anything. Someone in our family asked the money which has been given to a relative for long time. Their son took the money, on reaching his home to get back the money, the son was not there, his wife, sister, mother, all refused to give a smile, even forget to invite them to inside home. It was shocking and disappointing. All these days the relation was healthy and strong, on asking the money (that also bit large amount) they behave like strangers. They have not paid and also behave in an odd way. Strange, isn’t it? We can’t also believe how they behave this way. They were sweet, friendly and cooperating for long years. Have anyone had any bad experience with money?
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@anil02 (24688)
• India
20 Apr 19
Yes I also have this experience. So I don't like to lend money.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
It is disappointing to become a culprit after provide money to some one.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
@nomus24g But surely you won't get it
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
@arunima25 (84953)
• Bangalore, India
20 Apr 19
I have heard many stories like that among my relatives and friends. I have still not experienced anything personally like that. But once my husband had lend some money to his drunkard cousin and it never came back.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
I have done the help but not bothered when it has not come back, so I am safe Here in this case, the amount is in lakhs and it hard earned money too. The person got this money on retirement so naturally wish to get it back.
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@Sojourn (13832)
• India
20 Apr 19
@Sreekala Sad, this kind of people are aptly treated by moneylenders.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
@Sojourn You are right.
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• Pamplona, Spain
20 Apr 19
With the family closest to me yes I have. Ones very close to me then did behave like that also. Once when I asked my brother to please lend me five pounds he almost had a fit. I never asked him anything again ever and I had always lent him money before no questions asked ever. Hope they get their money back soon.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
I have a different story about my brother. When I was in need of money my brother offered money to me by himself and also told do not let it out. Being so much honest I told this to his wife, thinking I will pay back that money to him (I treated it as a debt). But things become upside down with my honesty. She took it as a big issue and created a fight with him, then her father interrupted and shut her telling if he does anything for his sisters, you don't have any right to ask. They are his sisters. Till that date her position was in my heart, very high, I given a high position to her than my brother, but that day everything spoiled. I understood why my brother told me to keep it as a secret.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Apr 19
@lovinangelsinstead21 yes i felt so bad and felt for my brother too.
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• Pamplona, Spain
20 Apr 19
@Sreekala Oh dear and I can bet you really felt bad about all that too. Is she still the same way with you then? Her Father was right that was between you and your brother not her business at all.
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@allknowing (130088)
• India
20 Apr 19
There is an apt saying "Neither a borrower nor a lender be; For loan oft loses both itself and friend."
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
Very true, but at times, we don't think much and offer money, especially when we have money. If there is no money no worries.
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@florelway (23097)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Apr 19
As an old saying says Money is the root of all evil. It creates greed, power, envy. Some people owed me some money but I do not want to destroy the relationship by forcing them to pay me. But sometimes it's hurting when you find them having fun while I am struggling with my finances.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
I can relate with your problem so I understand it quite well. But I am glad I successfully kept my patience and forgot the money. Still I am struggling to pay back those debts. I treated it as the 'result of my actions in the past'. What is the use of blaming those people.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Apr 19
@florelway once it is broken then it is like that for ever. Money can't restore it back .
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@florelway (23097)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Apr 19
@Sreekala you are right, money can be recovered but it's hard to repair broken relationships.
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@Nevena83 (65287)
• Serbia
20 Apr 19
I never borrowed money to anyone. Maybe because I do not have enough for myself.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
haha that is good dear. If some one asks help we can politely says we don't have money. What do you think if some one has no money so take debts to help others? I am that much great and struggling to pay back that debts still. Since I have not asked to pay back, I am still a great person
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
@Nevena83 Yes, it was mistake to become that much broadminded. Nothing can be done at present, after believing some one, will pay back it correctly. On realizing the mistake, I can only learn lessons from it. But at the same time, I have to keep my head up so has to pay back that debts by my own.
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@Nevena83 (65287)
• Serbia
20 Apr 19
@Sreekala I do not think I'm taking that money to help others, and I know I can not get it back. I help others only within their capabilities.
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
20 Apr 19
This is the sad truth among family and relatives and even to friends. when money gets in the way, relationship is starting to fall. Maybe if we can only be honest telling the truth and ask sometime to return whatever we owe them then things will be better. communication can always help to patch things up.
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
25 Apr 19
@Sreekala Family will always be family so hope they can talk nicely and settle things.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
25 Apr 19
@chavezrmc Yes, I do agree. My hubby interfered and talked to them, they nicely treated him and promised to pay back the money within a week. Have to wait and see what they will do.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Apr 19
It already long time to hear excuses. So they decided to visit and surprised to see the change of behaviour.
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@psanasangma (5881)
• India
21 Apr 19
Its happen, once you are not able to provide money, your value of not being provider goes down sometime, this kind of act give stress and unpleasant environment.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Apr 19
When some one asks money if you refuse then also some bad thing happens in between relation
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@acelawrites (19274)
• Philippines
20 Apr 19
As they say, "money is the root of all evil!" It's bad that relationships are destroyed because of money.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Apr 19
Very true. It is sad when money won over people
@db20747 (43404)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
20 Apr 19
The person who borrowed should say something!! Offer to pay back a little at a time!!!
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Apr 19
The person is giving reasons and postpone dates for paying.
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@resukill22 (25054)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
20 Apr 19
For me money now is powerful, in many things
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
Yes, money is powerful on many ways.
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@resukill22 (25054)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
20 Apr 19
@Sreekala yes true
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@ARN4567 (1061)
• Baguio, Philippines
20 Apr 19
Yeah, I too have some experiences about like what you have but it is our neighbor...when they ask for money and promise to pay it later they are like so kind and friendly...but when it comes to paying even beyond the promised deadline they are like ghost with amnesia...although it is a small amount, it is still money...
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
It is disgusting all of a sudden they treat us like an enemy. They can behave the normal way since the other party showing respect and asking it politely.
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@ARN4567 (1061)
• Baguio, Philippines
21 Apr 19
@Sreekala As we know it money is good but the love of it is the root of all evil...peace.....
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@debjani1 (7211)
20 Apr 19
Money can do lot of things. It can make friends. On the other hand it also creates enemies. It also helps to become selfish by nature. So be aware from lots of money.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Apr 19
Money can play an important role in that way in our life.
@jonnyjoe (214)
• Nigeria
20 Apr 19
Yea..this is true but it is only for people attached to money and are greedy . They enjoys receiving but hates giving or paying back.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Apr 19
Haha very true. I dont know how people can behave this way. If we borrowed then it is our responsinility to pay back.
@hereandthere (45671)
• Philippines
20 Apr 19
did they borrow money? or did they take someone else's money?
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
They took some money for some purposes. But they failed to do the works so naturally they have to return the money, which they are not showing any interest to pay.
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@rakski (112993)
• Philippines
20 Apr 19
True. Money can ruin a lot of relationship
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
Else we have to forget and never ask that money.
@Shiva49 (26163)
• Singapore
20 Apr 19
When we lend money to a friend, we may not only lose the money but also the friend! It is worse when it comes to relatives, as they feel slighted if we ask for a return of the money borrowed. I give only what I can afford to lose and that way I do not press for repayment - siva
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Apr 19
That is good policy of yours. Here those people can only learn lessons out of it.
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@dya80dya (33034)
23 Apr 19
Money can spoil everything.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
25 Apr 19
True indeed.
@Sojourn (13832)
• India
20 Apr 19
Such a bad experience didn't happen, though my dad lended money before. People are getting worser than ever.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
20 Apr 19
You are lucky and be safe.
@Sheali (7461)
• India
21 Apr 19
I also heard similar stories.. People nowadays value money to relations
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
21 Apr 19
Yes but it is a very sad situation.
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@Sheali (7461)
• India
22 Apr 19
@Sreekala Yes, it is.. but that's how now people are
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