Do you think children should come before marriage?

United States
September 11, 2006 9:13pm CST
Let's be accurate about this subject, but many children are being born out of wedlock, and the world doesn't find nothing wrong with it. Matter of fact, no one wants to talk about it either.
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15 responses
@rainbow (6763)
14 Sep 06
Other creatures mate for life, do they have a little piece of paper forcing them to stay together? I have a loving partner and 2 georgeous slightly difficult children, we are a family. Think if the choice, save up and pay the mortgage off and have a good car, lifestyle ect or save all the money you earn for 1 day of feeding relatives you hardly ever see, buying fancy dresses and suits and worrying about everyone elses happyness. I think a wedding is a luxury and am quite willing to put it off until I have all the things we need.
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@chalmette69 (3011)
• United States
14 Sep 06
I think marriage should come first, but lets face it. This is not a perfect world and sometimes marriages don't work out. I think if you can be a good parent without being married,meaning if you can take care of yourself and a child, than you don't have to be married. I am not refering to all these young girls who are just having babies and can't take care of them. I am refering to hard working woman who have not found a husband and want to have a child. I think there are many meanings to a family these days and it doesn't have to just be man, wife, child.
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@lizabeth (666)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I think marriage should come first. But if the girl gets pregnant first, I'm not sure if she should marry the boy just because she is pregnant. Most marriages that begin that way don't work out. I think it is best to wait a few yrs. after marriage to start a family.
• India
18 Dec 06
no i dont think that children should come before marriage. in my opinion its not right.
@ambkeb (782)
• United States
17 Dec 06
Ive been with my Fiance for 5 years we have two children together. We've been engaged for 2 years. Probably going to get married in April, but im not really sure I want to yet. LOL In my eyes its kind of a waste of money. The only difference between now and if we were to get married is that peice of paper stating that I am his wife and that I have his last name. Im a stay at home mom, so he claims me on his taxes, Im covered on his insurance. Nothing will change except my last name and we will have a piece of paper. WOOHOO...lol Im not in that big of a hurry to spend boocoos of money on a wedding. So if im going to do it I want to do it once, and I want to do it big. LOL So who knows if we will actually get married in April or not...this is our 3rd wedding date that we have set and changed. So we will see LOL
@paul8675 (750)
• Australia
19 Nov 06
Certainly not. The bible gives us guidelines for wise living, and we should follow these guidelines.
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
27 Sep 06
Having kids in or out of wedlock doesn't matter. What matters is that you can care for the child and you have the fiances to afford a child and their needs.
@LovingIt (5398)
• United States
27 Sep 06
Having raised two children sometimes as a single parent and sometimes not, I think it's definately best to do it the old fashioned way, with two loving married parents that both adore the children. Can that be acheived in today's world? I don't know.
@Aali311 (6127)
• United States
27 Sep 06
I think marriage should come first, but in today's world it's the opposite and I guess that's ok.
@rladiga00 (1166)
• India
24 Sep 06
In countries like Inida, one in million can have child before marriage. The social set up is so strong, that any one give birth to child before marriage is looked down. Also the child's name has to be registered and without the father's name it cannot be registered.
• United States
24 Sep 06
I dont think that having children before your married is the worst thing in the world, i had 2 children before i got married, we were engaged the whole time but some people just dont think it is necessary to get married
@sugga05 (22)
• United States
13 Sep 06
I believe in God and I know what is word says. However I was like alot of ppl and chose not to listen. When I decided that i knew what was best, i had a child. I do not regret what i did or having my daughter. In an ideal world, marriage would come first. You also have to remember that God planned your life b4 anybody even knew you were comming. Look at the society we live in. some kids dont have parents to guide them in the right direction. how do u guide yourself, when u have no idea what is going on?
• United States
12 Sep 06
I had my daguther while I was just dating her daddy. I am not ashame of it so I talk about it. It would be better for me if we were already marriage but things happened. We got marriage after my daughter came home for good from hospital which was 3 month later. Sometimes things go easier than following the tradition.
• United States
12 Sep 06
It is talked around here. I have always been happy that my mom was married. I was born in wedlock and I am happy. I had my daughter in wedlock and I also divorced her father. kids are always callin others out on this. I am very glad I had my daughter under my marriage. plenty of peple care and don't say it. If you just having kids by different men. How does this not bother the child. I see alot of woman who have more than 3 kids by 2 or more men. This can't be good for the child. How can it be your half sisters father takes care of her and your dad is on the beach....
@bhchy1 (6052)
• United States
12 Sep 06
Some people wish to be parents with out the desire to me married. Whether they adopt or have their own child all that matters is that the child is wanted and loved. Why should get married then end up divorced because you wished to raise a child? No wants to talk about it because it really isn't a big deal these days.