After marriage girls should work or not?

India
September 12, 2006 12:16am CST
If you are boy will u allow ur wife to work? If you are girl would you like to work after marriage?
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• United States
12 Sep 06
Why would I not want to work after I get married?? I worked before marriage and now I am married and still working. Some women quit their jobs after they have kids because of high daycare prices but that is still considered a job staying home with them.
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@shameel (444)
• India
23 Oct 06
I am male, and for sure I would allow my wife to work - but only if she feels comfortable. If She don't have a support at home to look after daily domestic activities, then she must stay back. If my wife is willing to work, then I have no problem to work at home - even take of kids (though I am not good at handling house-hold work - but I am ready to learn!)
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@exodamus (1629)
• India
23 Oct 06
The above one is a good comment.
@daxdax (140)
• Finland
23 Oct 06
I think this is one of the culture questions again. Here in Finland, almost always both, husband and wife, go to work. At least I have an understanding that in other countries this is different.
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• United States
12 Sep 06
allow??? is she your wife or slave????allow????
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@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
23 Oct 06
I don't mean to seem rude or ignorant? But is that law still in effect in contemporary society? Because if it is I don't mean to appear judgemental but that is archaic and barbaric... It amazes me all the cultural and social differences in this world. I am so lucky to live in a country where my gender doesn't determine my social status and I am not considered "property" or bound by rigid religious and legal and social rules.
• India
24 Oct 06
I agree with u....they shud be independent even after their marriage...and that even gives them the strength of taking their own decisions...!!!
• Canada
25 Oct 06
Helloo "roztredtoes" ,,(Under the islamic law)???? Which law and religion you are talking about,, well honey first you should learn how to spell Quran than talk abt Islam.
@sedel1027 (17873)
• United States
12 Sep 06
No reason for women to not work after marriage unless they choose not to. I think most women who get married after they have a professional career stay working. I cannot imagine how bored I would be if I was home all day. The only reaosn I would quit working is to return to school full time.
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@yugandhar (105)
• India
12 Sep 06
They can. It depends upon their interest in their field and economical background. situations may vary from one person to anoyher. we can`t tell exactly because some may work for timepass and some may for family. but i leave the decission to the girls only.
• United States
24 Oct 06
I believe that whether a wife works or not depends on individual situations. If there is a financial necessity, than I believe that she should work and help contribute to the household. Without the financial need, I think the couple should discuss the situation together and decide what is best.
• India
24 Oct 06
I completely agree!!!!
@magnel (2264)
• India
24 Oct 06
But do you think, if only financial need arises, then the wife should work.
• India
23 Oct 06
yeap ofcourse..i'll allow ma wife to work...'coz it's her right to work..n i won't keep her from that...
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@atulleo25 (484)
• India
13 Sep 06
I wold say two things: Its upto the girl if she wants to continue with her career if she wants after marriage as well. The other side of the coin would be that she will be forced by her circumstances to leave the career aside to take of her family as when she will be pregnant and even after her delivery the baby will need her support. Thus, if she is very caring then she may quit the job after marriage to look after her family. But, if she is less caring more of career oriented then she may opt for continuing with job and won't give birth to baby until she want.
• United States
23 Oct 06
why not?
• India
24 Oct 06
ya obviously actually i wil marry to a working women men and women are equal no one must stop the growth of other
• Philippines
25 Oct 06
I would say my wife should stay home and take care of everything, especially if we have children already. That's what I first thought. But nowadays, if you don't have enough money, it is really difficult to live your life. So if you're on that kind of situation, I think both of us should work and thus, she should also work.
@maryannemax (12176)
• Sweden
12 Sep 06
depends on the couple. but if the woman wants to, why stop her? it's her choice.... then let her!
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@istanto (8573)
• Indonesia
8 Oct 06
agred with you!
@dawang (124)
• China
15 Dec 06
i agree with you
• India
19 Dec 06
It is not fiancial matter, it is matter of understanding between of husband and wife
@kaka135 (12174)
• Malaysia
21 Dec 06
I'd like to work after marriage. coz I like to be financial independent. :p working doesn't have any conflict with marriage too. My husband is happy that I go to work too. One of the reasons is because of financial, two incomes is obviously better than 1. Another reason is, if I don't work, I'll just stay at home and be lazy, I won't be able to grow up and learn. But my concern is, how about the kids? who's taking care of them?
@chetu4u (378)
• India
21 Dec 06
its matter of 2-3 years only..
@kaka135 (12174)
• Malaysia
21 Dec 06
You meant only when the kid is below 3 years old, then I have to take care of the kid? But how about if you have a few kids?
@ccoriel (571)
• Philippines
12 Sep 06
if i were a man i will allow my wife to work, thats it if her decision. i dont see anything wrong about it. she want to help, fine. it will be a big help for the family economically and self worth for the wife.
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@dawang (124)
• China
15 Dec 06
clever!
• India
19 Dec 06
what is the harm in wife working, only it should not effect ur marital life
@mona123 (912)
• United States
24 Oct 06
yes .. they should work .. infact this should be girls own dicission whether she want to work or not.
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• United States
24 Oct 06
gr88 reply
@jzcb87 (1801)
• United States
24 Oct 06
I see women and men as equals, so it's not a matter of should they, it's a matter of what her and her man agree on doing.
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@J_peso (2434)
• United States
24 Oct 06
exactly ........and she should propose that he not work.if he=me i agree:P
@niitta (194)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 06
It's up to the individual. As per my plannning i wanted to stay at home once my children starts their education, but things seem not as per planned. I have to work to support the whole family. have to survive !!!!!
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• India
19 Dec 06
Good, Adjustable lady
@jfeets726 (775)
• United States
21 Dec 06
I think that women, whether they are married or not, should be able to do what they want, including work. I am not married, but I am with my long-term boyfriend and we have a daughter together. I used to work at a retail manager, but I had to quit my job since then; it was like 50-60 hours a week I was working. I just stayed home with our daughter. When I started working from home, about a year later, my boyfriend was a little weird about it at first. He was always coming up with excuses about how I shouldn’t work or why he couldn’t help me with our daughter, so I could work. Everything is better now though. He explained to me that it was kind of weird at first because he was always providing for us and it felt good to him. However, we are both now glad that I am working.
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• Australia
21 Dec 06
yeah shell have to work i mean i dont have any money. imean i do but i spend it on stupid stuff that is no use to me just ends up collecting dust. so yeah if she cant feed me and pay my way why would i marry her!? im not stupid coz im a man im allways right
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• India
21 Dec 06
if my wud want to work...i'll definitely allow her to shape her own career
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@wvchell78 (564)
• United States
21 Dec 06
I worked after I got married until I had my second child. Now if I were to work it would only pay for day care and fuel to get to work. It doesn't really make since to me.
@hmshema (686)
• India
3 Dec 06
Yes, I want to work. I can help my husband financially. If he do not want my income to manage the house it will be my pleasure to save the money for some good cause. Sometimes it may help for an emergency. If I have my hard earned money in the bank, it means lot for me.
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• India
3 Dec 06
sure i would like her to work, work for her satisfaction & forget abt money, let her atleast enjoy the freedom of not having to work for oney but for her fun for her usage i wolud love to have a wife who wants to work coz she wants to so it & not bcoz of the money
@devilangelo (4528)
• India
3 Dec 06
yup , i will allow my wife to work if she wants to :)
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@krysy1982 (1042)
• United States
30 Nov 06
It depends on the person I think. If she wants to work by all means work.
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