Telling Men Their Fly Is Down: Okay for Women to Do It?
November 29, 2006 1:14pm CST
I read an etiquette column in which a female wondered if she should tell a customer she didn't know very well that his fly was down when there weren't other men around. The columnist suggested that it was better if she could find a man to say something to the customer, but otherwise she should discreetly tell him. I was surprised that there is apparently a taboo or something against women telling men their fly is down. Do you personally believe in that? Why? I don't think it should matter who speaks up -- the guy probably wants to know. It's counterintuitive business like that that makes people question the legitimacy of etiquette in general.
7 Aug 07
I had this same experience with my Master Degree classmates. We were 7 in the group (composed of 2 single ladies and 4 married guys), one of out team was a 66year old doctor of medicine. We were going out to get some coffee when I noticed that his fly was open. It wasn't open as if I could see the inside, I just saw that it was open. Honestly, I didn't know what to do. I didn't know how to say that to anyone plus I was afraid that other people might see him. So I approached one of my male classmate (the one younger than him but older than me he's 41) and told him, at first he panicked and didn't know how to tell him but eventually we ladies went ahead and he was beside him and told him as subtle as can be. Then it was fine. *LOL* But I couldn't believe it's really easier said than done. It's different in theory and when you are really dealing with it. Because you don't want to humiliate your friend, and you don't want others to see him like that as well, but you just can't go up to him and say 'your fly is open' specially if you're a girl. =)