why does problems exists in most of marriages from the first two years of living

@exotika6 (301)
Romania
November 29, 2006 1:49pm CST
pls specify if u r married and if not just imagine yourself
11 responses
@disturbedgd (1822)
• South Africa
3 Dec 06
i think it can also be coz it was rushed
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@exotika6 (301)
• Romania
3 Dec 06
rushed to have a baby and the new role of a parent asks for more responsibilities
@jaginfo2006 (1757)
• India
1 Dec 06
i am not sure of that.
@exotika6 (301)
• Romania
3 Dec 06
i think that the first problems comes along with the first baby cause the parents role are more responsible roles than even..and in that moment u can see a fact for sure
• Brazil
30 Nov 06
I think its because people dont plan orthink ahead how sharing yourlife with another will be like. Imcurrently living with my fiancee for a 3rd year, we've earnedthe hard way how togive each other space,and how to please the other, when we marry we'll have no problems. Have a nice day!
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@exotika6 (301)
• Romania
3 Dec 06
yes space is very important especially in a marriage...i have a friend tahjt has a lot of problems with her husband because he wants to control her so much..every step she take
@cubanito (597)
• Italy
30 Nov 06
I think the first years are the hard for marriage because their must adjusting the life of couple, live together is difficulty
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@exotika6 (301)
• Romania
30 Nov 06
sharing the things even when they are at the bathroom and seeing that the husband has more bigger place for putting his things and viceversa..lol
• United States
30 Nov 06
I think it's a combination of a few things. You're supposed to do the "what's yours is mine, what's mine is yours" mentality but it takes some time to get used to it. Also, alot of people feel like they got married, the person is "stuck" with them, so why keep up the effort. They begin to take things for granated, not put the effort into the romance, time spent together and communication. I know some girls who got so carried away with the wedding plans, the showers, gifts, the big day, the honeymoon and all the planning that when it was all over they felt depressed. Like all the romance of their marriage was done and then "now what?" My husband and I have had our high ups and low downs, but the most important thing I learned through it all was that old and veryt true saying: the more you both put into a marriage, the more the both of you will get from it.
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@exotika6 (301)
• Romania
30 Nov 06
yes you gave the most accurate answer ..this is about sharing the things between the two and accepting the things of a man in the bathroom or viceversa..
@Artsimba (1335)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I am married and I believe it's because they're getting to know each other which they should have done before they were married because after they marry they're going through a transition period of total committment to each other.
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@exotika6 (301)
• Romania
29 Nov 06
this knowing each other u don't make it before marriage ?i think that u need 2 lifes to really know a person
@chukwudi (1100)
• Nigeria
29 Nov 06
am married,we married men sometimes lie to our wives about our finacial state,and some ladies are not what they told you they are before marrige ,then after marriage they can not hide again,then the trouble
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@exotika6 (301)
• Romania
29 Nov 06
maybe they lie from the beggining because they r affraid not to remain alone all their life and never marry.what u say?
@DRoddy77 (1779)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I think the first 2 years are the hardest because you are adjusting to married life, being with each other every day, learning your differences. One big problem is communication. A lot of couples dont know how to communicate the right way. I know from experience because my husband I are separated right now after 3 years of marriage.
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@exotika6 (301)
• Romania
29 Nov 06
i have a friend who is married for 2 years and from the birth of their child he become someone else ..she is feeling lonely and he distryed all her friends even me but i did not accepted ...she comunicates with him but not a chance for him to change..
@ducktales (273)
• India
30 Nov 06
i think its understanding between the two... if they succeed to understand each other then no problem arises at all...
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@calvin222 (1607)
• India
30 Nov 06
marriage - marriage
well after 2 years you are over the honeymoon period and now notice the zits on each others backsides not so lovingly. tolerance levels are dropping and one sees that things are not going quite the way you imagined. time for midcourse corrections! but why doesnt the other person make those corrections? why should i?
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@blueman (16516)
• India
30 Nov 06
no idea, depends there can be some exceptions.
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