friendship

A frank talk with your friend will heal your wound.

Becca, I can so relate to your situation. I had to cut ties with someone who I considered to be more of a sister to me than a friend. We knew each other since childhood and called each other best friends all throughout middle and high school. After high school, our lives took different directions, and she made some choices that I didn't neccessarily agree with and certainly didn't understand. But despite this, I stuck by her and continued to support her and be the best friend I could. It took me a very long time to realize how one-sided our friendship was. I was constantly giving and she was constantly taking. The worst part was that despite many attempts to talk with her about it, she refused to acknowledge that there were any problems, much less take any responsibility for them. So even though it was very difficult and even though we had been "friends" for most of our lives, I had to cut ties with her. It was the only healthy decision I could make. And it was high time I started putting my own needs first in that relationship. And I will admit I have had moments of sadness since then, but I have NEVER regretted the decision to end the friendship. No one can tell you what to do, but hopefully this gives you another perspective to consider. 22 yrs is a long time but remember....QUANTITY is not more important than QUALITY. Good luck! :)

i really feel bad for you as you have been friends for 22 long years.......... Go through your phone book, call people and ask them to drive you to the airport. The ones who will drive you are your true friends. The rest aren't bad people; they're just acquaintances. this is what i would say .......find another one

well, there is i guess.

well.....when a friend starts to misuse ur trust.....from tht point ur faith on tht person and your friendship starts to faulter.....!!!

I would mention to her that that my personal business is getting around to her friends and see what she says. After that, she may not bother you anymore, once she realizes you are on to her. I would definitely not tell her anything personal anymore.

Well, i can understand your situation. One of my close one also did that to me. Nothing is permanent in this world, only god is truth and honest. I will always talk to god in my prayers and will tell him my problem and sorrows. I feel comfort by doing this,rather than to tell to our close friends and at the end they might disappear or this could be some kind of entertainment for them ! May god bless you !

it is best one relation for the our life. thanks for the yr discution good morning... bye all the best

Honestly i think if you cant trust her then there is no friendship really i say that both friendships and relationships need to be built on trust and if she is telling others things about your personal life she isnt as a good of a friend as you are to her, I know its hard considering you have been friends for long but i feel you need to cut all tie's with her and move on and find another friend who you can trust and who wont betray your trust!

I have been having a problem with a friend too. Friend problems are hard, especially when you have known them for a long time. can't believe that you and your friend have known each other for so long. Something like that doesn't come along often. However, it seems that you guys have grown apart. Although you don't need to sever the relationship completely I'd take a step back and seperate your friend from your intimately personal life. Meaning, talk about things that aren't very personal so it won't matter if she talks to other people about it. Don't tell her any secrets. You guys can still be friends, but I wouldn't count on being close friends with her anymore. I hope that helps! Good luck, and I am sorry you are going through this!

friends need, friends indeed! just smart off you choose a best friends! not all people is best for be a friend!

I think who doesn't know the meaning of friendship they should be the real loser in thier life.... After all u both have shared ideas views and moments(bad as well as good) together for 22 yrs and now she doesn't understand the meaning of friend then I will recommnend to braek up.. Its better to have no friend than one who doesn't know the menaing of the relations...

hmmm...... she probably is those girls who snitches alot (well not that im trying to be mean or anything). has she done this when you were small? probably, if she recently has been acting this way, she might of made new friends that are the same

I would saym it's time to break it off when you no longer feel like she's your friend. As to how, well, you can always just TELL her that you no longer feel like either of you really benifit from the relationship. You could also explain to her how her actions are hurting you and how she'd better treat you better or else not be in your life.

Why would you want a friend who decieves you and treats your business like it's everyone elses. I don't care how long I've known someone it's time to go if you cannot respect my life and treat me like a real friend instead of today's gossip column. I don't think it's wise to keep this person as a friend when they really are not.

I agree your statement

A frank talk with your friend will heal your wound

friend indeed is friend in need don,t break u r friendship

friendship can be formed with anyone and everyone, but good friends are always marked by the trust you have and commitment you have with them.. for the question you have posted, the answer is simple, when the trust is broken, better walk out of the friendship..

Only you know whether someone’s in your life for a reason or a season. Either or both can occur with one relationship. A need was being met with this relationship for one or the both of you. We are in each other’s lives for the reason we need them to be. You’ve been there for each other through thick and thin and now share some wonderful memories. However, when it ends, it ends. Be it through a misunderstanding, a clear understanding, someone acting up, simply walking out the door or sometimes dying. This can happen whether you are guilty of wrongdoing or not. Acknowledge the fact that IT HAPPENS. Now that it has happened to you, moving ahead with your life is a must. Appreciate what you were able to share and learn through this relationship. Lessons we learn through the relationships with others, serve us a lifetime and often serve others that you will inevitably cross paths. You had your turn. Wasn’t the season fun for the time it lasted? That time will forever be yours with that person. No need for drama. Enjoy your future. Peace, Keep_It_Real