what do you think about DIVORCE?

if you marry with the idea of a divorce...you are making a mistake iat the beginning!! You should be sure of the one you are marrying, even though this is really difficult if not impossible; you never really know anybody. What's more, you must think what a marriage is: many responsibilities, from house to children, many problems to solve together and some moments when it may be really difficult to keep on; but if both people really want a good marriage, they will solve everything. Marriage is not a bad thing, but it requiress hard work, 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Many people divorce today because they don't get this simple fact, they think that getting married is just like buying a new television: good, great..but when it does not work anymore I'll throw in the garbage bin. They are the problem, not marriage in itself.

Well for me i think there are advantage if there is divorced becoz what if u just get married becoz u are pregnant and while u are living u are not comfortable with each other and always fighting, so u rather separate and have divorce right?

I think most of the divorce is defeating the original purpose. It should be base on true love & an commitment to each other. I think most of the people will go for marriage without really willing to make it as a commitment. A commitment has to be made with careful judgement as well. If you found that it is not the righ one, then it is unwise to make the choice. Then all trouble will appear & finally come to an sad end - Divorce.

I personally I think that they should make it harder to get married in the first place. You should have a battery of know yourself, know your spouse type training. Get all the hard questions about money, kids, inlaws, divorce, etc. out of the way in the beginning. Even if you don't agree with your future spouse, you can get all of the opinions out in the open.

That's why don't rush things. Marry for the right reasons and most importantly marry the right person. If you can settle that, then you dont have to worry about divorce. But of course we can never really tell. Sad to say but love just doesn't last forever. Ive known couples who swore that they will never break up but when things get sour, they divorce. That'sjust how it is i guess. Im pro-divorce. Im just sad that it hasn't been legalized yet in my country.

Well I've been divorced and am married again now, so I have a little experience in this regard. My best advice for you is, don't go into a possible marriage thinking about negatives like the possibilities of a divorce. If those are the kind of thoughts you're having, then it isn't meant to be. You'll know when it is meant to be, I know that is cliche, but unfortunately, I learned the hard way. After my divorce, I felt like I would never get married again, that I could never trust someone that way again. Long story short, my wife today- I couldn't even dare to dream of someone so wonderful, loving and perfect for me- let alone that someone ever falling for a guy like me. Well I believe things happen in life for a reason, and although my divorce was a painful time in my life, I learned a lot about myself and what I want. Now, I am happier than I could've ever imagined possible, and the word "marriage" is no longer just something I joke about, but rather the most important thing in my life. My wife, the love we share and everything that goes with that, and our eventual family will forever be the most fulfilling and important part of my life. Jim

I'm with you on that these days people don't take their vows seriously at all. It's important to be sure that you are commiting to someone you will make that effort to stay with for your life as it is said. The government makes it to easy for people to back out of what they commited to infront of God.

I don´t like the idea of divorce, but it is , unfortunatelly, necessary sometimes. I grew up in a house where my parents did not divorce for religious reasons (no critic to religion here, ok folks?), and it was a living hell. The tension was enormous, the fights a constant, the mistrust, it reflected badly on me. So altough I don´t like the idea of divorce, I have to admit that sometimes it is the best way, to preserve the sanity of children or even the couple, it is a matter of choosing the lesser evil.

Well I've got married once and divorced later.It wasn't healthy for me since my ex husband loved to abuse me by physically and mentally.Every one who knows this story says I made a right choice it because I would have been suffered from depressions and all that if I was still with him. He was a racist as well which came out after we've got married and often talked bad about my home country(Japan) and whole asian issue(like asian looks ugly etc). Some divorce makes their life brighter than keeping their marriage life like my case. After I have divorced,I didn't really care either I get re-married or stay as a single woman.I just didn't focus on relationship issue since I had a hard time being and trusting a man.I have found a wonderful guy who has also divorced,we were dating without discussing our future as a married couple but now we are engaged.I felt secure and happy to be with him the rest of my life.I and he hopes same thing,we just simply want to be happy with someone who we love that we couldn't have at our first marriage:)

i don't have eny problem with divorce. I think if is necesary any person must divorce.

Yeah I don't like the word divorce and I hate when families goes apart dur to divorce............

You can never say that something will last forever but ofcourse that´s the attitude you shouldhave going into a marriage. My parnts divorced when me and my brother where young. they finalised it and yeah -me and my brother got caught in the middle somehow. My parents stayed divorced for about 2 years but foundtheir way back to eachother.. Now - maybe 17 years later they still didn´t re-marry butthey are happy and living together.=)

I dont think divorce is not an situation for the problem between the couples. Its just a matter of time that they speak frank and be open in what they feel.. So better divorce is not preferrable.. Any one can be changed...... So be patient when u face a problem in the married life...

i think marriage is a very good thing,but you have to be sure that is the right person who you married to prevent a divorce...not all the time marriage last forever it's difficult to know the way of a marriage,is no garanty that it will work,but you have to be sure that the person you married is for you...

divorce is now becoming very common and i do not really know why this is so. what makes me wonder is that what ever happens to love that made this people marry in the first place. it seems that marriage now a days is nothing but for comfort that when ever the parties involved get tired of it will just throw it away just like a clothing already worn off and buy a new one. greetings. : )

I'm with you on that, I was feeling the same way before I got married, I thought it was going to end in a divorce, like every other marriage I've seen, my boyfriend was just divorced a few years back and he had two kids from the marriage. He proposed to me and I accpeted, I became pregnant the next year and still didn't want to get married because I was so afraid of it ending in a divorce. My mother and him finally convinced me to get married and we did I was still in doubt, no one know but I figure let's give it a try an leave it all up to God, I did and it's almost four years since I've been married, we still love each other very much, have not divorced yet and hope to never, I don't want to ever have to divorce, we have two little boys now, and we try very hard to keep our marriage going, everyday life is tough on a relationship, so are step children and friends and so on, but if you really want it bad enough you'll find a way to make it work. Love wins in the end.

First of all let me suggesat that marriage is not a simple affair.During marriage the couples decide to live together for the rest of life.Then how can the couple break the vow that they are taken.One can share the heart only once and if divorced the couple is living as broken heart.Hence divorce is very difficult and the rest of life is very hard. Through marriage we are setting up a family and if divorce family is broken and what is the fate of the children.Considering all these factors divorce is out of question and no one should not be tempted to do so.

Divorce never should take place in any ones life. Divorce is not a fashion not it is good at any angle. If any differences happened in married life they should solve their problem with in themselves. The should try their best to resolves the differences. Divorce is a last destiny it should make first aim. Some people go to the courts for divorce with very little differences and time passes they feel sorry for their mistakes. Divorce disturbs many concerns, both the families, husband- wife and childrens. In my opinion divorce is not a good practice at all.

I think the concept of divorce is not good at all. Couples get married because they ar united at heart. And they get divorced becausee there is a misunderstanding between them. Marriage is about adjusting youself to live peacefull with your partner, and if there arises any problem, the couple should talk it out and start living peacefully. If they get divorced, the life of their children is affected. They do not get proper parenting as one parent alone is not enough to guide them. Two hands are required to make sound. Here the two hands being the husband and the wife and sound being the life of their child/children. istead of fighting, the two hands should unite in harmony and make life peaceful for themselves and for their offsprings.

for a relationship to arrive at "tie-the-knot" stage or marriage, i pressume that the two individuals have already come to know their partner better or deeper... and i believe this can only be done for certain length of time. well, most of the time, lovers forget to go back to the real world and get consumed by the love they feel for each other. relationship isnt't really just about that happy feeling for each other. it's about binding two different individualities together, even if you passed all the compatibility tests wherever you got them, you two are still unique individuals. and even before two lovers meet, they have for their experiences developed the person that they are by the time you sort of fell in love with. having said this, you can not or it is difficult to tie the know with a person you have not fully known yet or at least got deeply acquainted with. but sounds very ideal, so human beings have instituted a means to correct this, thus, divorce. since at marriage, most couple have yet to know each other more, a thing they should have started at the time before marriage, there will come a time when things unknown become unbearable, even with love, understanding and compassion. divorce comes in, when couples, after exhaustive settlements, talks (heart to heart or whaterver, fail to resolve conflicts. though its sad and heartbreaking, but its reality. we can not push a woman to keep the marriage with husband who beats her up almost every night. or i can not imagine to understand a man to keep his marriage with his wife who admits she's sleeping with another man but wouldn't agree to leave him... it's true there's a vow... but the vow would also render injustice if this is not fulfilled while in marriage.