If you found out...

If she is a good friend, sure. You can be friends without agreeing with everything each other does. Like you said, we don't know her circumstances. I wouldn't be mad at her. She was probably afraid or embarrassed. I would just assure her she can tell me anything.

If she does it because she has to do it then I wouldn't be so fast to judge her. This is a fast way to make some serious cash. Much faster then being a bar tender. I know people that have done this and then gone on to college to get their degree's and become successful in life. So long as her values haven't changed then I don't see a problem.

Personally it wouldn't bother me. That she lied. She had her reasons for lying about it.

I can't understand how did you take 4 years to found out that... Maybe she's not your best friend after all... You should accept her for what kind of person she is, and not for what she does for a living! You have the right to me angry at her!! But if you really like her, you should forgive her!!

i would be mad at first but then when my anger cools down i would just go down to her and give her a hug and tell her that i am still her friend.

ya i'll still respect her for what she is doing..as she didnt have a choise and many responsibilities to finish!! by the way a job is a job whether its a stripper or bartender..until and unless its not legal

well we will see to that.

well every person has a personal life, and friends should be in their boundaries....so i would let it come out from them itself.... and why should you/we be bothered as to what work the person does, all we are interested in is how is our relationship, when we are together, how time runs by, whatz the attitude, and various other things... I personally dont believe the way you earn money should hinder your friend circles....professional life is and should be isolated from personal life

I think she shames herselves job, so she wouldn't mind to speak about it. She has a little girl to raise, so she needs money to do that, she needs money to educate. So really she need a friend for support.

Well, if it was one of my female friends, I would be ok with it, but I would wonder why she didn't just tell me. I like to think I'd be understanding about why she never told me. Like she was embarrassed, etc. It might be a little weird to hear, but I think I'd be ok with it. Now, if it were a guy, that might be a different story! Depending on what I felt for him. haha Maybe... I don't know!

if she was my best friend for 4 years i will never change my atitude for here! will try to undersand her and suport her! she is only trying to have a dicent living right?if is the only thing that she could find to work!she will be the same for me!no mether what! but i am sure that i will never find out something like that bcause beeing a best frined you tell everything to each other!

If he is a striper is not such a problem, but lying for 4years ...that is a very big problem!! I still don't understand something: you have never been where he is working in these 4 years??

whys hould you not be friends she hasnt changed maybe this was the only job that she found that fitted round her /her child /her home life / why did she lie to you can she not tell you stuff are you a bit stuck up that she felt you would turn against her. most "stripper joints " have a no touching rule so the just dancing like you would in a night club but in there underware or g string or naked but hay the money is supposed to be good if she wants to go to med school and provided for her daughter and boyfriend she probably doing the best she can and good luck to her she hasnt given up and sat on her ars* expecting the dole to support her all the best to her . but are you jealous of her. is hse earning much more than you for much less hours and feeling good about herself after all it must feel good knowing she got all these men wanting her but cant have her what a moral boost

i'd be annoyed that she didn't trust me enough to tell me, but society still has this victorian view that showing off your body is wrong. good for her for working hard, of course you should still be firends, she hasn't changed who she is.

Why did she think she couldnt trust you with her secret? Its not as if its illegal to be an exotic dancer. If thats the career she's chosen, why should she be ashamed to tell her friends about it? I don't get this at all.

I feel its her own business what she does for a living and maybe she didn't tell you because she didn't want you to think badly of her for doing it. All strippers are not bad people, most do this for the money as it pays very good.The problem here is that most people think women are strippers just because they want to be and they like showing off their bodies to strangers...NOT SO! there are some like that but lots of them are there doing it because they can see no other way to pay the bills or raise the kids. My daughter was in that position at one time she was alone and had 3 kids to support and could not find a job that paid enough to get by on so she sent to work dancing in a topless club. I would never hold this against her and like I told her then. I am very proud of her for doing whatever she had to do to take care of her kids. They came first and always will! If you were truly her friend in the first place then you will still be her friend now! She hasn't changed..you just know now what she does for a job.

If you are really here friend,you should respect her!!

bar tending is not bad a job

Absolutely be her friend, it is not her job that changes her, it is only a job, she still is your friend and still has the same qualities that made her your friend in the first place

I think there is no reason why you shouldn't be friends. Having a young child she was probably desperate, felt ashamed of what she was doing and that's why she didn't tell you. Good on her for supporting her family. Perhaps she shouldn't have lied to you, but I can understand why she did.