Should I demand or Not?

India
December 1, 2006 8:48pm CST
Two years back one of my best friend has borrowed about $250 from me. He never talked about those money after that. If I demand, then fears our friendship will effect, if don’t, then he will forget one day and my money will spoil. Now this is very awkward situation for me please suggest should I demand or not?
7 responses
@snowflake5 (1579)
• United States
18 Dec 06
I think you should ask for the money in a nice way. Just say you urgently need to pay some bills and need the money back. If he's a good friend, he'll return the money.
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• India
18 Dec 06
Thanks for response. He is out of town these days for about one month. I will certainly talk to him when he return back.
@nitesh123 (417)
• India
6 Dec 06
yes you can demand in such a way so that the friendship doesnot get effected, i will tell you the way but promise me that you will never bring money into the friendship again, if next time you are helping your friend than help him with the money which you dont need or you never want it back, this time you just tell him some of your fake problem and ask him to help you? and see whether he is helping you the same way you helped him or not? than tell me and i will tell you what to do , waiting for your reply
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• India
6 Dec 06
Thank you very much. You have suggested me wonderful idea for in future. I will definitely remember your tip in future. Ok, I will try to demand the money in a way so that our friendship will maintain as such. It is good idea that instead of demand of money I should ask him for help. Again thanks for participation in the discussion.
• United States
2 Dec 06
I never borrow money from friends, because i forget, (i have borrowed from my mom because i MAKE her write down how much i borrow) Bring it up to your friend this is really bothering you, if you say nothing your friendship is in jepordy, if you say somthing your friend could get mad. but hey he borrow money and didnt pay you that seems kilda sketchy to me. or he will feel very badly and repay you.
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• India
2 Dec 06
Very good habit you have developed. I think you are very concern with your friends you don’t want any disparity in friendships at any stage, that’s why you have developed this habit. Your response also inspired me to do this. I have the same feeling what you mentioned. One thing more, every thing is ok with us, I also don’t want to see him go away.
• United States
2 Dec 06
It sounds to me like your friend wants YOU to forget. I would bring it up & say "hey member that money I lent you awhile back? Any chance of you paying me back some of it?" I mean does your friend have the money? If he does & he doesnt pay you back I think it's pretty messed up of your friend.
• India
3 Dec 06
Thanks for response. You are right but I think the hope is still alive if I demand I demand then he will return my money but for this I have to forget my friendship for a while.
• India
3 Dec 06
Thanks for response. You are right but I think the hope is still alive if I demand then he will return my money but for this I have to forget my friendship for a while.
@123Jackey (284)
• China
7 Dec 06
of course you should demend, friendship is friendship,but the money is still should get back,if your friend mind this ,he may not make you as a friend.
• India
18 Dec 06
Thank you for your suggestion and response.
@luckiest (282)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 06
You should ask for it .... if h treats u as friend, he shouldn't angry with u
• India
4 Dec 06
friends - friends enjoying
Thanks for your response. Actually I was in dilemma if I ask for money he will get angry. You gave me good suggestion now I can ask him.
@myownsn (198)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Im sorry but has mylot turned into advice alley? back to the question yes demand if he wont than hes not your freind and is using you
• India
2 Dec 06
If my quarry seems not up to rank then I am sorry for that. I agree with You, I should test him once. Thanks for reminding and response.