Is it really wrong for a girl to go to bars and such places?

Philippines
December 2, 2006 5:01am CST
My guy and I had a fight this morning coz I went to the bar last night with some officemates and went home around 4 in the morning. I didnt tell him of course coz i know he wont approve. Now he's angry at me because besids not telling him about my plans, I went to a bar! i reassured him that it's a respectable bar but still he's angry and told me that it's not right at all for a decent girl to go there. It's not like i flirted with some guys there. But still he's angry over it. Is it really wrong to go to bars and such places?
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@kaspyv (1011)
• United States
2 Dec 06
your guy should trust you if he loves you and not have a problem if you go to a bar with friends from work. on the other hand there are a couple of other reasons he might be upset about it...#1 he doesn't trust you or #2 he is feeling guilty about doing the same thing and wants to make it look bad on you so if you find out about him doing it, he can make excuses for it. TRUST AND HONESTY are major things that keep couples together...lack of the same will tear them apart.
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• Philippines
2 Dec 06
he doesn't go to bars because i dont like going to such places. now he's threatening to go out tonight with some friends since i think it's ok to go to bars anyway.
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@MGjhaud (20679)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
i think it depends with your partner. thats the case iif you have a bf/gf, you really have to inform him first before going to such place. we are aware of possible scenes in that kind of places but if you know your limitations and your boyfriend bears trust on you -- no problem. i, myself go to that such place and i find some distructive act indeed but it really depends on you.
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• Philippines
2 Dec 06
i know i should have told him that i was going out last night. but i think he's overreacting and doesn't trust me at all. i havent done anything bad at all so i shouldn't feel the least bit guilty. i was just having a great time with my friends.
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• Philippines
2 Dec 06
i dont think so. if you are going there to have some fun then why not. everybody is entitled to have fun,right? one thing though, if your partner dont approve it, then ask him to go out with you so he will realize that you are not doing anything wrong but just having fun.
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• India
2 Dec 06
no not exactly, but still i feel we shouldn competete guys in this.
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@vikkyhyd (75)
• India
2 Dec 06
no i dont think it is wrong..it is upto them..they have that freedom..
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@urzicutza (1973)
• Romania
2 Dec 06
well from how long are you togheter? mu opinon abot is that you sould what every you feel good!and he just have to know you better and know how you are in real life! butt the moust thing that he is angry is that you did told him the truth! put yous sel in his shues and realise what he is fealing! when a person tryes to hide something from another it means that you have done something or you had some thoots for it! why do you say that he wont aprove! you soudent let him to control you life!just because he loves you! try to talk to him about this thing and try to explain it to him that things are not like he is saying! why souden` be a good think if a girl goes in to a bar?esapcialy if you went with you colages from work! maybe he is a litle angri that he couden`t be with you!have you toth abot it?
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@pusibaba (1010)
• India
2 Dec 06
ya girls should not go out to bars as some men are looking to assault her. they should limit their going to bars
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• Philippines
2 Dec 06
i think there is nothing wrong of going to the bar but going without permission dis defintely wrong..but for me what matters is " what you have done while inside the bar"..
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@sammy1128 (241)
• China
3 Dec 06
you should make an apolgy to him,if you do care his feeling,you shoud not go to the bar
@shyam4uall (1003)
• India
3 Dec 06
No i don't think u ahve doen anything wrong...Its ur life and u have all the right to decide where to go or not... As per as relationship are concerned,u both must must must have believe in urself and on others...as long as these believe is there I dobn't think there will be anything which will dare to come in between ur relations....
• New Delhi, India
3 Dec 06
I think girl should not go to the bar in the night.In the day time they can go
@emarie (5453)
• United States
3 Dec 06
i think its perfectly fine for woman to go to bars..i dont' because i don't really drink that much..i think he's just worried and scared somethig might happen to you..hey offer to take him with you, that might make him feel better.
• United States
3 Dec 06
While I think it is acceptable behavior for a woman to go 'out with the girls' or coworkers for a drink or dinner after work, not everyone does. Are you sure it is the bar he has such issues with or is it the company, the lack of your being upfront with him? I know I always let my spouse know where I am going and who I will be with. I feel this is a common courtesy I owe him as my mate and friend. It appears there are trust issues involved here warrented or not.
@bsabers (668)
• United States
3 Dec 06
It comes down to trust with certain couples. Obviously, if there is not trust, than that is why people worry.
@MsBond (45)
• Canada
3 Dec 06
when your in a relationship if you feel like you need to hide something from your partner then you obviously feel guilty otherwise you wouldn't want to hide it. Right? I think if your with someone it's rude not to invite your partner out with you. what do you want to do that you can't do with your partner there? maybe think about from the other persons point of view.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I wouldn't say it was wrong, but if you're in a relationship I'd take him too.
@SharK07 (245)
• Romania
2 Dec 06
No, it isnt wrong to go to a bar and have fun. But in a relationship, it is wrong to neglect telling your partner of your plans on going to a bar or any night spot for that matter.
@drsamra (155)
• New Zealand
2 Dec 06
Well id depends on ur culture, But personally for me it is unacceptable. In you case it is unacceptable, because you are in a relationship and should have repected your guy's opinion.
• United States
2 Dec 06
he must be a jerk cause it wasn;t like you were out looking for anyone just having a few drinks with your co-workers and i'm sure he does it once in awhile too. every body needs too let there guard down once in awhileand kick back and relax. no its not wrong cause you weren't alone.
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
No, it isnt wrong to go to a bar and have fun...but in a relationship, it is wrong to neglect telling your partner of your plans on going to a bar or any night spot for that matter.