A FIRST DATE - HOW WOULD, OR DID AS THE CASEMAY BE, YOU SPEND IT?

@gifana (4838)
Portugal
December 2, 2006 8:08pm CST
You've just met a super person. After conversing for a while a date was set to go out. GIRLS: How would you like to spend it? BOYS: What would you suggest for the evening. My answer (as a girl) would be dinner in a small, secluded restaurant, with soft candle light and a piano playing softly in the background making it possible to continue our conversation without having to shout above the noise of others talking.
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@Pigglies (9340)
• United States
4 Dec 06
For my first date, my girlfriend lit a bunch of candles on her table and had music playing. I think we went out to pick up food though, because I'm the one who usually cooks.
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@gifana (4838)
• Portugal
5 Dec 06
That certainly has a touch of romance whether it was home cooking or take away. At least it wasn't spent in some discoteque with blaring music or something worse. Thanks for dropping by and for your input.
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• United States
5 Dec 06
I am a romantic at heart. I have put together many a romantic evening for dates in my time. Funny thing is that absolutely no one gets romance for the first date/meeting. First dates for me are less formal. I'd rather take the time to really talk and get to know the person in a casual setting where there is little or no preceived pressure for performance. It is at this point that I want to learn about the person behind the mask worn for public view. I did this with my girlfriend of 4 years. We spent one afternoon (3 hours) at a local Denny's chatting about anything and everything that has happened over the course of our lives. We talked about our favorites of this and that. We ended the afternoon and decided we would both like to continue to learn more about each other. Armed with an army of details about who she was, I was able to make future dates more meaningful and specially tailored to her taste. I learned long ago that not everyone thinks a carriage ride through the park is romantic. So I make it a point to learn about who the person is before attempting to give them a date they will not soon forget.
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@gifana (4838)
• Portugal
5 Dec 06
Wow, a great response. Too bad we can't give out more than one Best Response. Would that more young people would be interested in the discussion to pick up some good pointers. However, I'm afraid that the younger generations are more interested in "Slam Bam, Thank you Ma'am" or quick like a Bunny....It won't hurt, did it? I have had many dates like you have described and to my way of thinking it's not only more interesting but fun too. It opens many doors for future encounters. Thanks so much for dropping by and for your wonderful input.
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• United States
7 Dec 06
Todays youth lack postive role models. It has been a trend for quite some time. Most are left to figure out how things work for themselves. The problem that I have experienced with most adults who are the 'role model' is that they spend too much time telling kids how they think they ought to do things instead of showing them by example how they are done.
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@gifana (4838)
• Portugal
7 Dec 06
Hear! Hear! I used to love to watch my parents dancing. My step dad was a terrific dancer. Of course, the times were different and the music much more condusive to intimate dancing. Once rock and roll hit the scene romanticism flew out the window and I really don't see any immediate return of it. The youth of today just don't know what they are missing. Thanks for coming back. Appreciate it.
• United States
7 Dec 06
if its someone you just met and don't know i would go with the coffee house date. find a nice place you can have some coffee or drink so you can talk. should last around 45 minutes giving a good chance to see if your compatable. otherwise going out on a dinner date starting with picking her up that could last a couple hours and your not really compatable with each other that can be a long and uncomfortable date
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@gifana (4838)
• Portugal
7 Dec 06
Okay. That's logical, especially if it wasn't "love at first sight". Thank you for dropping by and for your input.
@phon4u (2217)
• Laos
24 Dec 06
It has been 8 years for our couple.I gave her a Christmas card. We had Korian barbacue in a small restaurant.