How do you tell your friend that you like her?

@roncat (276)
Philippines
December 3, 2006 5:18pm CST
I have a friend and we have known each other for quite some time. I suddenly woke up one morning and I felt that I liked her that much. She was more than a friend to me. I think I have fallen for her. She is real popular at her campus becasue she is really pretty. As far as I know, many guys are courting her but still she does not entertain them. I really liked her and I want to tell her how I feel. The problem is, I don't know why. I am also afraid that she might stay away from me and I really won;t like that to happen. So please give some advice on how to tell her that I like her in a way that it wouldn't be so much surprising to her.
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77 responses
• Austria
4 Dec 06
You have to tell her frankly as soon as possible. Its very simple, talk to her personally and be brave to tell her about your feelings. That simple. Do not think about the negative consequences just release what you feel inside. If she will not accept you then so be it.At least youve said it. Worst thing is when you have never tried and she got a boyfriend.
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@Darkwing (21588)
3 Dec 06
Approach her gently, and ask her how she feels about your friendship. Then you should be able to determine whether you should tell her your feelings. Tell her that your feelings have grown to something that seems a little more than friendship. Ask her out for coffee, or a drink and a chat and discuss your feelings. Don't move in on her too fast or you will frighten her off. Give her feelings time to grow with yours. Good luck. I hope this works out for you. :-)
• India
4 Dec 06
hooo well... i absolutly dont have the any advise. in fact i need many of those... even mine case is similar to that... i not able reveal wht i feel about her....belive me its really difficult to say your love to your friend.. concequence can be any thing...
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@mezmin (20)
• India
4 Dec 06
This is something that you have deal with extreme care. If she can’t think about you in such a way then it will be a big problem. It will end up breaking your existing relation. So be careful. But don’t worry there is always a way. First you get it confirmed what she feels about you. If you are something more than a friend or you are a special friend then its bit easy. But never be in a hurry. Whatever you do think well before you execute. It’s very difficult to get back if something wrong happens. Try to be apart from her or make small problems in between. But never get it out of your control. If she is a real friend she will definitely miss you a lot and feel bored. Check how she responds. If it’s positive then you are lucky. Now you can slowly tell her that you are feeling something different than earlier. But don’t go straight, go round and round so that you can pull back for a while if you feel anything wrong. This is the way not to loose her regardless of what she thinks now. But if she has a positive towards you right now then it’s not necessary. Any way good luck and keep updating about what is happening.
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@treblem (316)
• Philippines
4 Dec 06
love begins at friendship. and a friend is the best lover. if she is really a friend to u then she will understand ur feelings even if she doesn't want u to be her b/f. she will remain as a friend. just b ready for her answer. if she doesn't want, u may loose someone u love but at least u still have a friend. just respect her decision. and if she also likes u, then i will b happy 4 u. have a nice day!!
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@gurjit_d (793)
• United States
3 Dec 06
will take her out fot the date and tell her about my feeling
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@crt1477 (343)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Be honest!
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• India
4 Dec 06
only to be honest is not the solution to these matter u need the solution to these that first u need to understand her n her feeling which u could get the your solution al the your qs ans also i know this is not difficult to just under stand anyone feeling right
• India
4 Dec 06
man you are screwed, firstly figure out if you really like this girl or not is she risking the friendship for. if yes then go to her and tell her your heart she will appericiate it. she might not accept it but she will appreciate it and trust me she will be mad sor sometime then she will be your friend.
• India
4 Dec 06
tell her gently but firmly that she now means much more than a friend to u. and just cross ur fingers. at least u will have told her about ur feelings.if she feels the same,it's just great.even if she doesn't, i don't think it will spoil ur friendship, if she really values u as a friend, she will continue to be friends with u.
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• Philippines
4 Dec 06
i'd say better tell her. regret is one of the most painful situation you can get. just be true to youself and never forget that she is the lady you consider love of your life and as a bestfriend. dont be afraid of your own feelings. like other tell here.. whether to lose her or gain her.
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@HimArticles (1138)
• India
4 Dec 06
I think your situation is like a fish with out water. Some years ago the same situation has happened with me and I never gather the courage to say I love you. The similar thinking was mine that if I say then what would be her reaction, if result goes against me then what! I think this fear prevents you to say her. My dear don’t think about the consequences say her what ever in your mind, otherwise it will be very late. Some one will take your sweetheart as happened with me few years ago.
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• United States
4 Dec 06
you just have to say it
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@rajhet (60)
• India
4 Dec 06
go to her and speak that is in your heart for your friend without fear and keeping courage, i know this is difficult task but this is very much important, tell her what you feel for her without any expectation. you should patience to hear "NO". also , u have to just explain your feelings to her and leave other all things to her, accept your feelings or reject. this will gives you peace and may be your girl friend say yes
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• Romania
4 Dec 06
the best way it's and the most simple. when u feel that she is having a good time with u tell her. there is one problem. u are afreid that if she refuse u that u wont be her firend anymore. u must make her understand that u care about her and if this is not possible and u can remain friends. as longer u wait that the harder will be. the perfect moment u fell it.
@lovein (345)
• India
4 Dec 06
Yes- If you will not marry him, No need of saying that you like her like movie dialoge
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@lovein (345)
• India
4 Dec 06
Do not say him as friend, he is your husband Propose him through your parent. Marry him.
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@conanyyy (698)
• China
4 Dec 06
I could tell her that i like her so easily,.. but it would really be hard to tell her that i love her though!=:)
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• Anguilla
4 Dec 06
Just tell her. sometimes women respect you more if you just tell her. You can do it by sending her flowers or doing something nice for you. You can even wrtie a poem then read it for her.
• India
4 Dec 06
I have had the similar situation and i never did anything about it. Till today i regret not asking her out. My advice to you is to definately ask her. Dont go through life wondering "what if", you never will know. She may say yes or she may just want to be friends with you. If she does say yes, then everything works out. If she doesnt, then u will still have a friend. My advice on approaching her would be to first start going out with her alone, for a movie, ice-cream, shopping anything. After that start asking her out to dinner and jokingly say its a date.. u will see her reaction there. if she says yes..great otherwise just go out for a dinner and have a great time. slowly she will see that the 2 of u have a lot in common and probably she may want your relationship to grow. Hope this helps
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@leilani47 (780)
• United States
4 Dec 06
If you tell her, and she doesn't have the same feelings for you, being that you both are good friends, it might not be too bad, they only thing is that things might feel awkward for a while. When you do tell her about your feelings, make sure that you tell her that no matter what, you don't want things to change between you. Good Luck!
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