My b/f is a marine and he's leaving to iraq... need some advice.

I understand where you are coming from. My husband and I are in the military as well. We are both active duty. My husband just got back from a six month cruise in March. It is hard. I don't want to give you deluisions about that. However, it can be done. You WILL be able to talk to him. There is e-mail, and telephone calls, (although those can be hard to coordinate). If you don't think that you can make it for seven months, then I suggest that you get out of the relationship now. I have seen too many couples, both married, and dating break up several years into thier relationship because one or both of them can't handle it. Is your boyfriend going to reenlist in the military when this enlistment is up? These are some things that you need to think about. Don't devote yourself to a life that you don't think you will be able to handle. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but I don't want you to find these things out 5 years from now. Anyway, I'm sorry that he got called up, and good luck figuring things out!

If you 2 are in love than there is no reason to end things. You will be able to talk to him on rare occasion and they do have e-mail access so you 2 can't have some contact through pics and e-mails. My husbands brother in law is deployed to Iraq and his wife just had their first baby. It will be hard but love is a strong thing for both of you. It could be the thing that makes him come home safe. You've both known it was a possibility that it could happen, him being deployed, and you stayed together . Now the time is here, stay together. If other things change decide then.

Well...I have never been in this situation..I feel for you. However...there are many people that are called away for duty...and thier families are left behind. It is not like he wants to leave..he has too. I think if you love him ...you can wait. You will stay in touch..and like you said..there is always family and friends. The time is long...but hopefully it will go by quickly..and before you know it he will be back home. It is your life...but if you have been good together...then why end it over this?

He is brave to be in the military. If you love him and trust him then don't break up with him. He probably needs someone to look forward to seeing when he gets home. I hope everything goes well for you.

I admire you for thinking about these things. But if you are in love with one another and he told you that you are what got him through boot camp I don't think you should end the relationship. I know this is going to sound crazy but I think he is going to need you more than ever while he is over there even if you only get to communicate throught the phone, letters, emails, etc. I know it will be hard to stay strong I've had friends go through it, and all the guys said the same thing their girls back home was what kept them going. My friends would be total basket cases until they were on the phones with their men and then they had to become actresses to help keep them in good spirits. I hope that this will help you in some way. May I ask your's and your boyfriends name so that I can pray for you. God Bless and always look to HIm for answers and support.

Honestly as devestating as it is for you to watch your spouse or boyfriend go to Iraq it will only make you stronger. If you do want to get married then use this as a chance to get use to what being a military wife is all about. I am an Army wife and trust me I understand what you are going through. You have to think positively and while being in Iraq period is dangerous ,depending on the type of work he does he might not be necessarily on the frontlines of danger. I wish you the best.

I'm sure this is very tough for you, and anyone else who has a loved one in Iraq. But you have to be strong for him and your self, and be there for him since he has gotten orders to go. Just pray for him and yourself daily. If you really love each other, I think you should both stick it out and wait the 7 months until he comes back. God has a plan for everyone, you never know what will happen when he returns back to you! Stick with him, its hard to go to iraq, and knowing that you are here for him when he returns will give him much more strentgh and power to do what he needs to do over in iraq. I hope things work out for you two!

Well make sure you write to him , if you can make sure he phones you when he can , keep the line of communication going so that you keep in touch , and dont feel like he has left you alone , it makes a whole dofference , hope this helps jalin_o

Finally I found someone in the same boat as me! Not too sound happy on your account of sadness of course. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and in January he's leaving for boot camp then training which altogher he'll be gone for 6 months. He's only going to be in the reserve but the chance of him being sent to Iraq is VERY high (as I know you already know). I have NO idea what I'm going to do without him, I have a few friends, lots of family, but he's my rock ya no? I will have no problem being "alone" (not with someone else) while he's gone but I'm going to be so lonely without his companionship! I'd say if you love him, stay with him. There's no reason to break up with him while he's gone unless you really don't think you could handle it. As far as being lonely, it's great you have friends and family, build a good support group. I would really like to get in touch and/or meet other girlfriends of military men to share the experience. I wish you the best of luck and try not to worry, I know I'm working on it!

I can understand your feeling., and I think the root of the evil is the war. I hope this war will end immediately. We love peace, we do not want to kill or tobe killed. God bless your B/F.

You poor thing. I totally understand where you are coming from. My husband will be deploying sooner than later as well. I know that everytime you think about not having your other half right next to you, your heart sinks. No one was joking when they said that being a military wife or g/f is easy. You will be able to have contact with him though. You can send letters, emails, talk on the phone once in a while, send him care packages. What ever you do, if you truely love him and want to be with him then don't break up with him while he's over there. And then start things back up when he gets back. You doing that wouldn't be a good thing.

I personally have not had a significant other leave but I was raised in a military family. My mother was a very strong person. This is a time for your love and respect to increase 3 fold. Both of you sound like you are good for each other. It is not putting your life on hold however. It is a learning experience for each of you! You have the same probability of dying in a car accident. Anything can happen to anyone at anytime. The hardest part will be not being together physicaly. Any true relationship is founded on respect and compassion, physicality is a perk and a bond. You will still be able to communicate with him. Make sure he takes a hanky or some other personal item he can carry with him that smells like you or a picture with your handwriting on it. When one sense is minimized the other work that much harder. He is fighting not only for your country and fellow man, he is also fighting for you. With out these great men we would not be able to live and love as we can now. If you truly belong together no amount of distance or time an interfere! It will be difficult, no doubt, but in love all things grow. I wish the best for both of you and the strength and courage to remain as one. Never give up, Never give in!

First of all, there nothing wrong about goin to Iraq. Anything can happen even if ur in another place. Dont be afraid that hes gonna die or something. As i mentioned earlier, fate is our fate. we can not change it. If u are destained to die, u will die wherever u are. I would suggest that u continue ur relationship. True love conquers all!

Hiya I completely understand your situation. I am only 19 years old, and last year my boyfriend went to Iraq for 8 months (by the way I am from England), and this is probably the hardest thing we have ever faced together. The worst part was we had only just got back together after separating previously, we had only been back together about 2/3 months at the time. Anyway, we stayed together and he is back now. At first it hurt like I had never known pain to be. I missed him, I couldn't phone him when I wanted to, but we I would write him a letter everyday, and even though the post was really unreliable and he would get about 10 in one go he would get them. He would write to me whenever he could and I would send him boxes of stuff, not expensive stuff, just stuff like teddy bears etc. I know how much I love him and I knew that if I kept thinking this we would hold strong, even when I couldn't speak to him for several weeks because he had to go away from where he was based to do other stuff I just would look at pictures of him, listen to music that reminded me of him, and before I went he got me a necklace and I never took that off whilst he was out there..it was things like this that got me through. I can't tell you what to do with your life, or your relationships, but I know that waiting for my boyfriend was more then worth it, we are as happy as ever, we have been together on and off since I was 16 years old but his going away strengthened our relationship and made me appreciate how much I valued having him in my life. Another piece of advice though, don't watch the news when they start talking about Iraq related stuff, it will just scare you, if something happens to him you will find out before it gets released onto the channels anyway so there's no need to build yourself up into a state of anxiety over something that may or may not be related to him. I have been through my older brother being in Iraq aswell, and I so I have kinda got used to people I care about being in these situations, and I have only just found out in the past week that my boyfriend could be in Afghanistan next April... let me just say...if you love him enough you will be able to handle it. I hope everything works out the way you want it to.

Get a job and have fun with your friends.

(HUGS) First of all, step watching the news. It won't help you any. Secondly, this war, unlike any other, has made it somewhat easier for us this time around with internet and satellite phones. You will be able to talk to him more than you think. I have no words of wisdom except cliches - if it was/is meant to be, everything WILL work out in the end. Love is pretty powerful stuff. Hang in there.

I think that a par6t of his jo and wat the relation he is having with you is on the personal front and thus do not try to mix the personal and professionla life. Let me earn well and that will be in betterment of both of you in the future and the distance between you will also test your true love...

I would suggest that don't send him there. After watching what's happening there with the car bombing, human bombing, etc. I would not venture into this risky business. If it is unavoidable, god will be with him and protect him in this venture. He will return to you soon. sevan months will go off like seven days, don't worry.

YOU SHOULD MARRY HIM ...... AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE ......

This is a very difficult subject and you and your boyfriend are both in a dilemma. personally I do not belive in "breaks" in the relationship but at the same time noone but the two of you can decide what is best for you. The thing that would concern me the most is the fact that he is going to Iraq and that he probably will change alot as a person. he will see things that we only see on the news and he will probably never be the same again. You say yourself that u cry when u watch the news and se him in uniform and when u think about what could happen - but that wouldn´t really be any different weather u are together or not - would it. You have a big decision to make an i wish the both of u the best of luck!