How have you changed holidays after losing a loved one?

@lalav1 (1056)
United States
December 3, 2006 9:27pm CST
I lost my sister about a year and a half ago. Holidays are hard. My counselor advised me to do something different for each holiday to make it easier. She is right. On my birthday my mom and I now take a trip to our favorite beach town and on Christmas we get together in the morning for breakfast or brunch instead of later for dinner. On my sister's birthday I blow up some balloons for her in remembrance of her, she loved balloons. On Thanksgiving we now go out to eat. It really helps.
4 responses
@Lillith (775)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I am so sorry that you lost your sister, and I do understand about how hard the holidays can be after something like this. The idea your counselor had truly sounds like a great one. I hope it helps some people here who may be going through the same thing you are.
@lalav1 (1056)
• United States
6 Dec 06
Thanks Lilith. I had a great counselor who helped me with many other issues in my life as well.
@shellyrios (1215)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Well, my ex mother in law and I were very close and she'd have my sons up to visit her in Canada every other Xmas, but we just had to get use to the fact that they wouldn't have Xmas with her anymore when she passed away a few yrs ago. It was devastating and hard, but we pulled through....
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@lalav1 (1056)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Sorry for your loss. I've had people I was very close to pass on long distance as well, but it's not nearly as hard as when you actually see it and experience it close up. Thanks for your response.
• United States
4 Dec 06
It sounds like you have some great ideas. It is hard to celebrate in the same way on holidays when there is someone missing. It takes a lot of time to feel ok with it all I think
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@lalav1 (1056)
• United States
8 Dec 06
You are right. Thanks.
@rosey2006 (945)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Thats a good idea.
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